Someone talk me out of it...?

[deliwoman1]

I'm this close to messaging a bloke I had a brief fling with over a decade ago to ask if he'd mind if I gave my son the same name as him. 😬 I guess this would put us both in an awkward situation...

The reason I'm thinking of doing it is because it's an uncommon name, and me and this old fling still run in similar circles and have mutual friends. So I think me and DP can't just go ahead and say sod it (he thinks we can!). We truly love the name and think it's perfect with DD's and our odd long surname. I'd forgotten about it until someone suggested it on MN! DP doesn't give a monkeys about the association, but I'm wary of awkwardness and weirdness. Still, I've trawled this chat, and baby name sites, and nothing else comes close...

Message the bloke and risk looking like a nutter, or keep hunting...?

Maybe this is all hormonal! DS will be our last child and we're having such a HARD TIME naming him. I'm lukewarm at best on everything we have shortlisted. To make matters worse we know millions of little boys, and had the perfect name picked out if he'd been a she!

Yes. I guess Lorne / Lawn could be an issue depending on your accent.

It sounds good in accents with a strong R.

Yeah, I don't like any of those Tarn suggestions. Locker, Blea etc.

Of all the ridiculous things I've read on here this is in the top ten.

Just name your child. It sounds like you want to initiate contact with this old fling as there is absolutely no reason in earth for you to ask or tell him you're naming your child the same name that he has.

Get a grip.

Okay, @TheHuntSyndicate take a breath! 😂

Except this thread will be in the Daily Fail, suggesting otherwise.

Middle name much better.

Although will raise eyebrows for those who knew the person who you knew... lots of little nods and winks.

Ambiguous Tarn
Aphrodite Tarn
Bartholomew Tarn

How about Bryn?
It means hill....in welsh

You don’t have to ask him for his blessing to use the name and I think it would be really weird if you did. Just choose it if you like it, the fact that someone you once had a fling with has the same name is irrelevant.

🙄

If you know anyone from Scotland that is named Thomas he will be know as Tam. Invent a favourite uncle on DH's side... job done.

If an ex of many years ago messaged my DH and said they wanted to name their baby the same as him...

We would both think you've gone bat shit crazy!

What's the real deal? Why do you want to message him cos it's not really about his name is it

God this thread is an example of why people don't give the name out. It becomes a pile-on.
OP
Tarn is fine. If you like it, use it.
Send the ex a quick text (Am naming my second child Tarn. Not naming them after you ;-) but always liked the name. Hope all is well).
Done.

I knew someone who called their son Steen.
She liked it but knew there'd be pushback so told noone until it was done and dusted.
I knew someone called Coriander once, Cori as a nn.

Brynn, Glen, Tam and Taron all fine too.

@deliwoman1 . I hate that song too.

From your other posts, there don't seem to be many names that weren't names of your exes.

Brynn isn't fine. Bryn is OK.

Not read the thread @deliwoman1 - so apologies if it’s moved on.
but I have a story about this! We named our little one an uncommon name that we both liked. The only time I’d met anyone with that name, I’d had a bit of a thing with him at uni. Didn’t think it was a big deal. DH didn’t know him and didn’t care. We liked the name and so did our other kids and that was that.
i wasn’t in touch with this person, but do have lots of mutual friends. Anyway - one day there was a knock on the door. It was him - canvassing as a new potential MP!! And I had my baby boy in my arms - it was pretty funny when he asked me the name. We laughed. His ego probably got a bit of a massage and then we moved on.
I’ve not thought about it in years, but your story reminded me and made me chuckle.

Relieved that you're not going to contact ex about it.

I don't understand the liking of Tarn as a name. It's quite a boring sound, regardless of meaning, a bit like lard.

How about Tara? It's originally a male Irish name, and I think a strong boy name.

"Steady on, nothing wrong with Jimberly."

😆

Absolutely! Op maybe scrap Tarn and go with a nice classic like Jimberly or Benifer.

How about Brook as an alternative?

Tor
Cairn
Nairn
Moss
Hart
Eske
Ivar
Ash
Colm
Griffin
Fenn
Ivo
Jago
Hal
Orson
Ruan
Joss
Asa
Tarka
Reid

This is wasting my time. What a carrot fucking dangler of a thread .

I know two Tarns, popular here in the Lake District. Just style it out. He doesn’t own the name!

What about Torin or Torben?

I grew up with a Toren and it's a name I always think of on threads like this. I've not met anyone else with the same name and that was over 40 years ago.

Anyone of my vintage (early 50s) will know the word - corrie lakes, tarns and cwms - from their early secondary school geography lessons. Good as a word, less good as a name.

Geomorphology doesn't change that quickly!! These feature still exist and they still have these names, even in teaching materials!

The person I know called Tarn is a woman, but I guess, since it's a word adopted as a name, then it's pretty unisex. To me it just sounds like "Town" in the local accent (Barnsley). As it "Are you going darn tarn?".

It's not terrible, and I like names like Ocean, River etc (Hell, I wanted to call my dc Blencathra and Mickleden), but Tarn doesn't really do the same for me. Maybe because it's a much smaller, less impressive electrical feature.

😂