DP and I have very different taste how will we agree

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DH top contender for DS is
Franklin - too surnamey for myself but do not want to totally discard his opinion
I asked if we could meet in the middle with Francis but known as Frank and he will not compromise at all.

my list includes;
Casper
Sebastian (Seb)
Zachariah (Zach)
Laurence

please suggest some names we may agree on or give your opinions to help me love Franklin more

What other names do they like?

Ezekiel
Nathaniel
Archer
Avery
Chase

Franklin is ok, does he have any other names he likes?

DH and I have very different taste in names. The trick is to spend many hours going through lists of names, and to both be prepared to compromise.

Vitally, if you can't find a name you both love, find one you both think is quite nice, rather than one of you hate your child's name.

Maybe you and DH should look at a long list names and each make a list of 10 or 20 and hope there’s one you both like. If not, keep going and make another list. It certainly isn’t fair he gets to pick out a name, especially one you don’t really like! Out of the names you’ve suggested Sebastian and Zachariah are my favourites and agree that Franklin sounds more like a surname. Francis is much better and I quite like the nicknames Frank/Frankie.

Franklin Sebastian goes well. It will get shortened to frankie anyway, which is a nice name.

Harvey

Spencer

Tell us what else he likes. Is it always surname type names?

There will always be one you can compromise on and when the baby’s here it’ll just grow on you and you won’t care as much.

I much prefer Sebastian.
Why is it you who has to try and like a name he wants or compromise your preferences? He equally has to meet you half way. If neither of you wants the others' choice, scrap them and find one you can both compromise on.

Caleb
Cassian
Sullivan
Isaac
Harrison
Crispin

Dashwood
Wilfred
Samuel
Christopher
Cristian
Tristan
Matthew
Jonathan
Nicholas
Ross
Jacob
David

Could you just go for Frank (not Franklin or Francis)?

I love Sebastian and Zachary from your list.

Do you like -

Max
Hayden
Oscar
Evan
Euan
Rory
Finley
Fraser
Patrick
Isaac
Dexter
Jasper
Koby
Dominic
Alistair
Elliot
Ellis

What about Frankie instead of Franklin?

other names:
Julian
Jem
Ezra
Levi or Lev
Cassius
August
Tobias
Valentine

Push a baby out. Say he looks like a Sebastian. He won't say no!

I really like Franklin actually don’t see Franklin as surnamey as ones like Jackson etc. suppose assoc with presendent.

however have to say Casper is my favourite 🤩

how anout

spencer
fletcher
chester
austin
august
quinn
lincoln
leonard
vincent
caspian
jasper
cassidy
maxwell
frederick
nathan
elias
elliott
sidney

The Kinder app might work for you? You each individually swipe through names and names which you match on are added to a shared list. It stops the 'your names, his names' dynamic, because you both chose the names. Or you could go through the top 200/500/1000 (however patient/desperate you are and highlight the names you like, and he can you do the same and you can compare to see which names you both have.

We used an app that is basically like Tinder for baby names, you swipe yes or no and your partner does the same on their phone and then you end up with a shared list (hopefully) of ones you both like!

Is the baby going to have his surname?

If yes, then he needs to compromise on the first name. Maybe he could accept Frankling as a middle name. It would look like a surnamey middle name, which isn't unusual.

Otherwise you both need to come up with a list of ten names.
You each get to veto five from the other's list, and you're left with a list of ten names, from which you pick first and second names.

Fwiw, Franklin isn't too bad imo. He'll be known as Frank / Frankie anyway, whether he starts life as Franklin or Francis.

James
Alexander
Edmund
Andrew
Graeme/Graham
Simon

Don't like Franklin.
Love Sebastian.
Don't give in. Find a compromise name.
Is there a romantic family reason he likes Franklin?

Yes what's the reason for his fixation on Franklin?

He thinks it works very well for all ages, he personally would not shorten to Frank / Frankie even though we could not control nicknames at school

I don't think they're actually too far apart. Laurence is a common surname...and he likes surname names.

He needs to come up with more options, one isn't enough to get a feel for his naming style. I like your list, particularly Sebastian.

How about:

Tobias
Caspian
Dominic
Nathan
Damien
Blake
Finley

This!

I'd say 9 times out of 10 a woman will get her own way in the delivery room.

Pull rank! 😂✌🏻

I like Franklin, it makes me think of Lord Franklin the explorer (admittedly that was a surname and he didn't meet a great end...).

Sebastian is lovely. I've only ever come across one (my friend's kid who goes by Seb) other than the character in the film Cruel Intentions!