Would this annoy you or am I being hormonal

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DH and I are pretty set on Eddie for our son due this summer. His legal name would be Edward but we love the nn Eddie. Some of the older members of my family have said "oh lovely, I'll call him teddy." My response was "well his name will be Eddie, that's what he'll go by." But they keep referring to him as Teddy 😂 I don't have anything against Teddy, but that's not that name we picked. I'm now wishing I had just said Eddie and not even mentioned him being legally Edward. I don't want him to have multiple names, I'm not afraid to keep saying "it's Eddie," but it's annoying, just call him Eddie 😂

Would you be annoyed or shall I just keep saying "it's Eddie," and not be bothered?

It’s so frustrating! We have a Theodore and we don’t shorten it, his grandparents call him Theo, it drives me mad, that’s not his name. His grand mum has chosen an unusual name for herself and we dare to slip up, she shouts at us!

We have a name that has several abbreviations, one very popular but not the one we use. At nursery one person would use the most popular one and then wonder why my son would ignore them, one of his swimming teacher did the same 🤣 we effectively used our preferred form a lot whilst talking to him in front of them and they eventually got the point! It also can be a name in its own right and with two different spellings and people frequently spell it wrong, even though the way we spell it is a direct abbreviation of his full name 🤷🏼‍♀️

He now gets a bit funny when they have supply teachers who use his full name, he autistic and he knows that’s his full name but we rarely use it.

Why not just call him Eddie legally?

People will give your kid nick names whether you like it or not…my kids have different names nicknames depending on family member !

You told them his name will be Edward but you’re CHOOSING to call him a nickname - Eddie therefore they can chose to call him a nickname too.

Even if you called him Eddie they’d probably still call him something different. It’s nothing to lose sleep over.

Just name him Eddie? By naming him Edward and calling him Eddie you are already giving him a nickname and no one will be using his real name at all. He will likely get all the nicknames form everyone anyway. Ned, Ted, Teddie, Ed, Eddie and whatever else it can be shortened to.

Edward is a lovely name, so is Eddie as a nickname.

My ‘D’Mother didn’t call my son by any nickname related to his first name (very unusual - so I’m not posting it now), but has consistently called him by a dreadful nickname from his middle name Richard;

Dicky (bloody) Di Do.

31 bloody years later and she still uses it.

We all hate it except for her. I swear she does it just to piss me off though!

Do NOT only register your child with their nickname at school. From experience, what happens is you get registered for all your exams as your nickname, then all of your exam certificates are issued in your nickname, which doesn’t match your ID as an adult, and then you spend hours and hours of your life and a lot of your money trying to sort the problem out.

Almost cost me my place at University…

If you're not actually naming your child Eddie, then I'm afraid you can't control what diminutive or nickname other people use. That's not the way it works.

That's good to know thank you! At my dds nursery they have a "name" and "known as name" box so assuming there might be something similar at school!

We have a Madeleine that we call Mads. A few people call her Maddie which I’m not fond of but accept. I think if you’re going to choose a name that has a known nickname it’s inevitable. If you hate it, you either need to be very firm and make it clear you don’t like it, or choose something else

This is funny to me as I love Edward but have an irrational dislike of nn Eddie 🤣(so I didn’t pick it in the end as I think the Ed shortening, if not Eddie at least , will be inevitable once he’s a teenager ) .

But you are not being hormonal to be annoyed- though I think once he’s here and you always call him Eddie, everyone will eventually do the same. I think this as someone did the same thing when my DS was born ( used a nn I didn’t like) - I just said “No it’s Name” giving them a look - and they stopped. It would look odd for them to keep calling a different name than everyone else uses!

I think its adorable when family give their own nicknames.

Eddie’s in school get called Ed. Never Teddy. We do have some Teddy’s but that’s their given name. They get called Ted. Kids will always go for the shortest version!

Isn’t teddy short for Theodore? Why are people so irritating?
Im pregnant and not telling a soul our name after I told my mum a potential girls name (we’re having a boy) and she totally ruined it for me
it would annoy me but also life’s too short to let it get you mad, just correct them every time until they give up

I'd just introduce him as Eddie, i.e. when you make the announcement that he's arrived.
Our boy goes by a nn as that's what we wanted him to be known as but he has the full name on his birth certificate. When he arrived it was "introducing baby nn". A lot of people don't even realise that isn't just his name, until I'm telling him off and use his full name 🤣

The most natural and intuitive shortening of Edward is surely Ed?

I’m with you! I loved Josephine nn Josie for my daughter but only like it as Joe-see NOT Jozee. It was enough for me not to use the name!

My sons called Eddie but Edward on birth cert! I call him by his name, my teddy bear, gorgeous boy, and he’s six and didn’t realise his actual name is Edward so I’m sure after a while of him not responding then they’ll stop! Equally it’s honestly not worth the stress! I remember someone calling my eldest Joe and I hated it and it actually ruined some nice occasions which looking back is ridiculous!

Yes! Also OP you might change your mind. My DS is Edmund. I always intended to call him Ned. Somehow it just didn’t fit once he was born.

You are not being unreasonable - you’re his parents, you decide his name and the only person who can ask that it’s something else will be Eddie when he’s old enough to do so! Honestly, some people thinking they have some kind of ownership / say over other people’s children just because they are related 🙄

Be calm and pleasant but firm and clear - we do not want our son referred to as Teddy, he will be known as Eddie so please call him that.

My DS is Edmund. I always intended to call him Ned. Somehow it just didn’t fit once he was born.

How on earth would you get Ned from Edmund ? Surely Ed, Eddie or maybe Mundy are natural short forms, but Ned??

Lots of People use their short versions for legal stuff / known as names doctors etc

I have a 4 syllable name, but everything from bank accounts, doctors, passport are all in my 1 syllable preferred name

Eddie is a full name if you want it to be. You are choosing for it not to be. But what’s the issue having it on the birth certificate/passport/drivers license etc if you want to put his name as Eddie for school etc??

Teddy Roosevelt was a Theodore

My son has always been called Alex, but his birth certificate says Alexander...I wanted a name he could shorten (my sister's & husband both have this & I have resolutely my main name only, because its not easily shortened, unusual yes, but not one you can abbrieviate well, but inevitably one people still get wrong in emails)