Would this annoy you or am I being hormonal

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DH and I are pretty set on Eddie for our son due this summer. His legal name would be Edward but we love the nn Eddie. Some of the older members of my family have said "oh lovely, I'll call him teddy." My response was "well his name will be Eddie, that's what he'll go by." But they keep referring to him as Teddy 😂 I don't have anything against Teddy, but that's not that name we picked. I'm now wishing I had just said Eddie and not even mentioned him being legally Edward. I don't want him to have multiple names, I'm not afraid to keep saying "it's Eddie," but it's annoying, just call him Eddie 😂

Would you be annoyed or shall I just keep saying "it's Eddie," and not be bothered?

Go with your plan, call him Edward on birth certificate (so he has choices when older) but introduce him as Eddie. Unfortunately I don't think you can control his nicknames though, some people might still call him Teddy, he might end up being Ted or Ed when he's older

Ted is short for Edward.

Ted is short for Edward.

Surely not. It's not Tedward

Op, I doubt people would add a T to Eddie. Eddie is much nicer than Teddie 🐻.

@pinkmags I actually think Ned is also short for Edward 😂 Nedward

I have an Eddie - long name Edward - always intended to call him Eddie from the start.
Some family tried to call him Edward when he born. Didn't stick.
He chose Ed when he got older.

I still love the name I chose for him.

Teddy is 100 short for Edward

Teddy is definitely short for Edward. So says my grandpa and nephew Ted

Can I ask why you're calling him Edward if you're never going to use it?

Just use Eddie on the birth certificate 🤷‍♀️

Most likely be Ed anyway.

Ted/teddy is 100% short for Edward.

@beanii I just personally prefer having the full name as the legal name, if it was Alfie I would use Alfred, Charlie - Charles. Just my personal preference and he may well want to use Edward in future as well. I like the Eds/Eddie/Edward, just not changing it to Teddy

If he's going to be Eddie at school/nursery etc then just use Eddie on the birth certificate - it is a full name still 🤷‍♀️

Having something different is as pointless as a middle name.

We had something similar when ours was little. We have a Teddy (so I’ll thank you all to keep the Teddy-bashing to yourselves). MIL wanted to call him by his full name. That was never the intention. We gave him that so he has options once he grows up if he doesn’t want to be Teddy. So we just said no. Thankfully the name nonsense just went away.

I disagree with the posters saying you’ve no control over the nicknames. Once they’re older and friends start then sure. But it’s not unreasonable to expect your family to call him by a chosen name. At least during the early years when the child is still learning his own name.

100% this.

I literally have no clue why parents name a child one thing but call them another. My mother did it with me and it causes no end of hassle. If I wasn’t too lazy, I would legally change it.

I love Teddy!

OP, as others have said, just keep reiterating Eddie if that’s what you want to call him.

Ed sheeran's nick name is Teddy 🧸

My son is called Edward. Before he was born my MIL kept calling him Teddy. At that point we didn’t know if he was going be a boy either. To say it annoyed me is an understatement. The presumption of it still annoys me and he’s 4. She was told straight that his name will be Edward and will never ever be Teddy. If his name changes it will be Ed or Eddie. My grandad was Ted, short for Edward, he wasn’t named after him, we just liked the name however I didn’t want it shortened to it. If you don’t like it address it ASAP before people get their own ideas which they think are acceptable.

My DS is Patrick. He has as many shortenings as family members (slight exaggeration!) I love it.

This is why you should never share the name of your baby before they're born IMO. People are so annoying 😂

You can't control shortenings/nicknames really though. I tried to use a shortening for my ds (think Gus, short for Angus) and it just didn't stick. He gets something else.

Teddy is an accepted name for Edward though, as well as Ed, Eddie, Ned, Ted.

There are loads of other nicknames that make little sense though ...
Ned and Ted/Teddy for Edward.
Jack for John
Peg/Peggy/Meg for Margaret
Nance/Nancy for Anne
Moll/Molly for Mary
And lots more in sure

I read somewhere that Ned and Nance came from terns of endearment like 'My/mine Ed', My/mine Anne'. Not sure if that's true.

But certainly some nicknames were needed to help differentiate all the Edwards, Annes, Johns, Marys, etc.

My daughter is Vanessa, Van, V, Nessa etc by different family but only since adult. My brother called her caravan from birth.. Another reason we don't speak.
Just tell them you will say it once. Practice at home and don't act stupid. Your baby needs consistency and you need them to behave like adults.

It's fine for them to want to call him Teddy but not once you've told them it's unacceptable. They need to accept the name his parents have chosen. If they persist with the Teddy nonsense pick them up on it, everytime. "His name is Eddie, not Teddy". If they still do it, point out how rude they are being. Is it likely to cause a family row? Yes, but they are in the wrong.

Yes that is annoying for sure! Teddy is too cutesy and they're being needlessly disrespectful.

In this situation I would send a message around after he's been born that says something like this:

"Please welcome baby Eddie! Born yesterday at 2pm weighing 8lbs. We've decided just to make his full legal name Eddie, rather than Edward, to avoid any confusion about the name he goes by on a day to day basis."

I know it's a lie and they'll find out eventually but it'll make them think about how rubbish they were. No-one would hold it against you imo.

Yes. Ted is short for Edward

I know a man called Teddy. His real name is Andrew, but he's been Teddy since a teacher put up a picture of a bear he'd drawn, with his name underneath it. 🤣

I also know an Eddie who's really David, but when he started work (40 years ago!) there was already a David, so his boss told him he'd have to be Eddie.

You can't control what nicknames your child will have.

Teddy Sheringham is Edward. Ted Heath was Edward.Ted Rogers, Ted Kennedy, all Edward. Ted is a very commonly used shortening of Edward.