Would this annoy you or am I being hormonal

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DH and I are pretty set on Eddie for our son due this summer. His legal name would be Edward but we love the nn Eddie. Some of the older members of my family have said "oh lovely, I'll call him teddy." My response was "well his name will be Eddie, that's what he'll go by." But they keep referring to him as Teddy 😂 I don't have anything against Teddy, but that's not that name we picked. I'm now wishing I had just said Eddie and not even mentioned him being legally Edward. I don't want him to have multiple names, I'm not afraid to keep saying "it's Eddie," but it's annoying, just call him Eddie 😂

Would you be annoyed or shall I just keep saying "it's Eddie," and not be bothered?

@DysmalRadius absolutely. My real name may as well be Edward for how alien it sounds.

Yes it would annoy me, I'm in a similar position with my girlfriend due. Correct them x

I was with you until I read that the relative in question is your 80-odd year old grandma. Ffs let her call him Teddy if she wants and one day he will look back fondly on being his gran's little Teddy.

As for the other relatives, why even mention what name will be on the BC? No one else will ever see it. Introduce him as Eddie. End of.

This is why I prefer shorter names on the bc.

I had the same issue but it was the other way round. I have a Teddie and family kept saying before he was born ohh well call him Eddie.

If it helps no one calls him Eddie he’s just Ted.

Just call him Eddie. I know a few (one v.well) and I’ve not heard anyone call them either Teddy or Edward.

OP, I don't think it is that unusual for grandparents to have their own cutesie nickname for a child. I also don't think it would stop him learning his name if your grandma called him Teddy any more than it would if she always referred to him as poppet. Your uncle is pretty irrelevant if he will barely see him anyway!
I wouldn't make this a hill to die on, I'd just say along the lines of "his name is Eddie. If you want to use a nickname that's between you and him, please just stick to Eddie when referring to him with others."

I chose a "long version" name for my DC purely because it does give options. My brother is the only one that uses one particular shortened version and I actually really like that he has his own special name for him.

Something that stuck with me was when I suggested names to friends and one said ' why would you choose a name for it be shortened or called something different '. I did actually think about it and thought yes, why give a name we won't ever call them by. Hence one name given, no opportunity to be called otherwise, problem solved! Xx

That's what I think, why put a name you don't intend to use on BC? Xx

He's going to get all sorts of nicknames throughout his life if you give him a name that has lots of nicknames for and that's whether you introduce him as Eddie or not. My legal name is Rebecca, I have never once introduced myself as anything other than Becky and I still get Bec, Bex, Becca, B, and a variety of nicknames linked to my surname in addition to Rebecca and Becky. You may as well accept it now. When he gets older he might decide himself to go by Teddy, my Mum wasn't a fan of Becky tbh.

Yeah it’s annoying

Say there’s loads of Teddies right now, so we’ve chosen Eddie, so if you want to part of his life, you need to use Eddie. Thanks!

Because Eddie is v nick namey and he might want the option of a grown up name when he’s older. Obvs.

You can totally just keep playing dumb about teddy. Also never ever heard that for Edmund - just Eddie there!!

My name is Rhiannon. My Grandma said when I was born "oh we can call her Nonnie!". My Mum firmly said "No. Its Rhiannon". I frequently use the same sentence! Lay the foundations early with a firm "no" and don't respond to people using the alternative name.

My daughters name ppl when she was born tried to nickname and I said no most ppl respected it and only 2 shortened it but they aren’t ppl we saw day to day so let it go. Now she’s a teen she has shortened to her own version which her friends and teacher call her at her own request but our friends and family still use her full name.

both kids have name that could be shortened I do have little nicknames for them but not something used in public and just more a flip of the tongue at home love and not really anything to do with their actual name. One of those nicknames is teddy.

id say correct them and just consistently tell them your child will correct them and when they are older they will decide what they want to be called 🙂

Put Edward on bc. Calk him Eddie, gently correct people who can him Ted. Accept that you'll probably lose control of that as he gets older, (he'll be Ed, Eddie, Ted and who knows what else) but most people will such to Eddie especially if that's what he likes. I have a long name on my bc. Let's say it's Jacqueline. (It's not). Everyone calls me Jackie, which I don't mind but don't love. I get called Jax too, regularly...don't like that but don't care enough to bother. I'm really really glad I have a proper name on a bc! I use it regularly for all written stuff, anything with a certificate, and quite a lot of professional settings. It also works better internationally or for people who have English as a second language. They're familiar with the long version of my name. Sometimes confused by the nn version. I'm sure your future adult son will thank you for putting Edward on his bc.

You can't really police these things, ultimately it'll be his choice and that of his friends. Our eldest has a name with a very standard nickname, and we always insisted he wasn't going to be known by that name, we would always use his full name. Needless to say, people started using the standard nickname as soon as he went to school, he was perfectly happy with it, and that's basically the name he still uses 20 years later.

To be honest, I doubt Teddy will stick because that's a bit old--fashioned, but I suspect your son will just end up as Ed.

I have an eddy, not Edward, just eddy!
I never liked the name especially until I was pregnant and fell in love with it.
We had family members be rude about it but they soon got over it.
If Edward is the name you love then use it and say that it's Eddie on his birth certificate and that is that.
All of my kids have had people be negative about their names and it does dampen things a bit, so you have to really be quite firm from the get go.
My Ed loves his name, which I'm made up about.

My grandmother was really rude when I told her his name, kept calling me to ask would I name him Paul, Ben or other such names she preferred. I ended up saying she didn't need to be around him if she was so bothered by his name and it shut her up 😂

I know 6 teddy's. My 3 sons go to different schools and each have a couple of friends named Teddy. It's really popular here.

For those saying “if you want to be part of his life, you must use Eddie and no other nicknames” Are you really suggesting OP should go NC with her granny (and her baby’s great granny) in her mid 80s if she uses Teddy as her nickname for him?!

I don’t understand the need to police the relationship our loved ones have with our children to this extreme. It’s so controlling. Having a loving extended family of older people is such a gift for a child and one many sadly children miss out on. Why create drama where there doesn’t need to be any?

i would buy him a teddy bear callled Teddy and have it with me if I was seeing those relatives. “Oh silly Gran (etc) you’re Eddie and that’s Teddy, does she not know your name?” If they’re being disrespectful get passive aggressive until they get fed up.

Quite honestly I think you’re being OTT and precious 🤷🏻‍♀️
Stop with all the BC name and day name palaver .. our son has arrived safely, meet Eddie. And your 80 year old grandmother has a lovely cute nn for him, excited to meet him … jeez you sound like hard work.

I've got an Archie, as his whole name, never even considered it a nickname and wouldn't have called him Archibald, I think many Archies now are just that

I get your frustration. That would piss me off too. Unfortunately there isn’t much you can do about it and I say that as I have experienced a similar thing: an in law refused to call my child by his name- instead called / calls him something else.
In law can be a bit of a wanker and I used to let him know that I didn’t like it and that what he was calling my son was not his name. I think he took pleasure out of that because he then did it all the more ( so as to antagonise me) but I refused to rise to the bait. Now he doesn’t do it as much but it still really fucks me off, but then we barely see him now anyway.
Not that you are in that situation op but just wanted to share my experience.

Differently to many of the views here, I think you have to give him a proper name as well as Eddie. I know loads on men who used the little boy version of their names until their teens/early 20s, but switched to the more formal version once they got serious about their careers. It depends what career path they take of course, but at least give him the option.