Would this annoy you or am I being hormonal

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DH and I are pretty set on Eddie for our son due this summer. His legal name would be Edward but we love the nn Eddie. Some of the older members of my family have said "oh lovely, I'll call him teddy." My response was "well his name will be Eddie, that's what he'll go by." But they keep referring to him as Teddy 😂 I don't have anything against Teddy, but that's not that name we picked. I'm now wishing I had just said Eddie and not even mentioned him being legally Edward. I don't want him to have multiple names, I'm not afraid to keep saying "it's Eddie," but it's annoying, just call him Eddie 😂

Would you be annoyed or shall I just keep saying "it's Eddie," and not be bothered?

Oh, and I'm Maggie, named after two aunts, Peggy and Maisy!

You absolutely can while they're babies/toddlers.

Yes, you can control nicknames while they are babies / toddlers. However, I don't think I'd make this my hill to die on with an elderly great granny using a standard diminutive of the baby's chosen name. That said, just politely correct her. Say "I don't like Teddy - we're calling him Eddie". Cutting her out of his life for calling him Teddy, as I think someone implied^^ is completely mad.

It’s out of your control what he ends up being called really.

My niece has a longer name on her BC but was introduced as and always referred to as a shortened version (eg Catherine on bc, known as Katie to everyone) until she went to school and her name was down as Catherine on the register and she suddenly wanted to be called that all the time and refuses to answer to Katie now😃

Funnily enough Edward was the name I chose for one of mine, to be called Ted. But then I had the other problem and everyone kept saying they'd call him Eddie, which I don't like... I gave up in the end and chose another name altogether 😂

You can't control the world. Register him Edward, call him Eddie but accept many people will call him many names. My Mum called my DD Sunni as she said she was her little sunbeam, my daughters name is nowhere near that and doesn't begin with S but that is the name that was written on her birthday cards and . As long as your child is surrounded by love who cares what their Grandparents call them.

We have a theodore - we call him Theo. He was introduced as Theo and had some blankets etc with Theo on. My nan called him ted once and was corrected. She never done it again

I wish my parents had put the name that they were going to call me on my birth certificate. It's so frustrating having to remember to use my official name on things like bank accounts, booking holidays etc when that name isn't me as I've never been called it. I made sure to name my children something that can't be shortened so they never have this issue.

I have an Edward. We gave him that name because there are so many potential variations, thinking it would give him some ownership over his name in the future. Now he's verging on teenage years, he is very definitely Ted (unless he's being a pain, then he gets Edward!). I think don't worry about it - I'd have also been taken aback by someone deciding themselves what they were going to call him immediately after being told a name, but it won't pan out like that in reality I'm sure.

I didn’t say hard work and precious for the question you asked, I said that in your responses after your first post.

The name Eddie is lovely, the name Teddy is also lovely, especially given the context of the person using it. Imo, to begrudge an 80 year old great grandma from using a nn, meant with much fondness just seems very sad. As others have said, you can’t dictate how others refer to your baby, or nn they give your baby, life just doesn’t work that way. I wish you all the best.

No help at all, but teddy is much nicer than Eddie!

I’d sack off Edward and just go for
eddie personally. I absolutely detest people shortening mine or my kids names or changing them. I actively have chosen names that aren’t easily shortened or changed. And people
often comment on that instead 😂 my daughter is called Olive and someone once asked if I minded if they called her Ollie. And I was like, yes I do mind her name is Olive.
i feel if people go to the effort to choose a lovely name people should bloody well use it.

As someone who has never been called their “legal name” if you want to call him Eddie, put it on his birth certificate. It drives me nuts having to use my legal name for official things and at dr/hospital appointments when it’s literally not my name.

From someone who is legally called Charlene but always been known as Charlie, and I mean always - please just put Eddie on his birth cert. All my official docs, certificates degree etc is all in a name that I never use. Even at my wedding, some people were shocked when my real name was read out. Been a nightmare with hen doos and life admin etc. Just call him Eddie! He will be grateful 🙏

Not hormonal, I have a Theodore who we cal Teddy a lot of family call him Theo - it’s not his name and it p’s us right off. We’ve corrected them constantly and they just ignore us and even buy him stuff with Theo on which I refuse to use! Some have openly said they dont like Theodore or Teddy and that’s why, they’ve been told it’s not their choice! He doesn’t answer them either when they call him Theo, I’m going to teach him to tell them “my names not Theo” to, can’t wait until he’s big enough to say it!

No issue with teddy but personally prefer Eddie, round here there's lots of teddy's but I don't know an Eddie

Do you think that those family members have found a way to yank your chain?

I know a couple of little toddler Edwins- I think it's come back round.

Both of my DS have names with 3 letters. We wanted to call them these names and didn't want people using longer or shorter versions. So they are there actual names - and their legal names. Simple.

I just don’t think it’s worth the atmosphere and bad blood. Life is short, in the grand scheme of things, so what? I don’t think my grandparents ever called me by my Christian name, they always called us by pet names and I loved it as a kid and now they aren’t with us anymore, and I hear other children being called it, it just reminds me of them.

I’ve never felt the need to police what someone who loves and cares for my girls calls them. My youngest really suits one nickname (imo) but other people call her a different one. Kids (and cats) answer to pretty much anything!

Unless its done with malice then I dont see what the drama is over a nickname. He's going to get loads of nicknames over the course of his life, are you going to police his friends like this?
I had a friend called Pat, a nickname for Patricia but if we phoned the house and asked for Pat, her mother hung up the phone saying "theirs no Pat in this house", we honestly thought she was a complete dick.

If they are doing it to be mean then I completely get the point. But if its their affectionate name for him then I think theres no harm in it.

Please give him Edward on the bc! Nicknames are for being casual.

Ultimately you won't have any control over nicknames. My name has several abbreviations and I get called all of them by various people!

They bastardise their own names later in life too... my kids call each other by the first letters of their names. They have a million abbreviations and extensions of their names. It does not matter. He will be Eddie to you....

It seems odd to give him one name on the birth certificate and insist people call him by another.