Please help me to make a decision for my son's name

[ByLovingRoseSloth]

I named my son Oscar, but I regretted shortly after learning the people's opinions of this name online as some people associate it with Oscar Mayer Wieners, Oscar the Grouch, the fish breed and the award, I am in UK and my son is 4 months old now, will my son be teased at school on any of this associations? I am very worried about this, if I change his name before he turns 1, does he need to declare his original name in future? Any problems for him to use the amended birth certificate? I am so depressed. Do you think do a name change is the best solution? If So, any name you could recommend? I am afraid I would make another mistake, please help:

Thanks, this made me feel more relieved.

I just can's figure out why this name has so many associations while it is still popular? If people make joke about this name e.g. the grouch, in the meantime, so many people are still using it? I am not sure who should I listen.

The point is, as these 4 pages have told you, most of us have never even hear of 3 out of the 4 things you are associating the name with. I have heard of the acting awards, but not the other things. But even the people who have heard of one of them have said they don't think of them when they hear that a person is called Oscar.

You really aren't thinking rationally.

I think I should take your opinions into consideration as many people have said that, I might have PND.

Thank you, I take your words.

Thank you for the reassurance.

Thank you, I will talk to my health visitors.

Thanks, this made me feel better. I am worried about something which might not happen.

Thank you, I believe you.

It's worth considering the PND for sure. When I had the name regret, people insisted it would be that. I felt sure it was, but that the name regret had caused the PND, rather than the other way around. I went to the Dr and went on medication before I changed his name, so that I could see how I felt then. I still wanted to change his name (we waited 6 months before officially changing it as obviously i wouldn't feel better overnight anyway!). Once we changed the name all my PND disappeared and I was able to come off medication. This was nearly 2 year ago now so I'm not speaking prematurely! The difference is though I had loved and wanted to use his new name for many years. Your situation sounds very different. You don't sound like there is a name you wish you'd used instead. It does sound like PND may he helping you overthink it though.

Hi @ByLovingRoseSloth I’ve had name regret for all but about a month of my baby’s life, but the fact is, they now have children of their own and they’ve actually always liked their name.

Its a good name, the regret is just personal to me and the important thing is that they don’t have any problem with it.

I loved Sesame Street as a child, but I am knocking 50 - but a lot of people in the UK of my age didn’t watch it and my kids wouldn’t have heard of it at all. And I wouldn’t associate the name Oscar with “the Grouch”, as it’s a pretty popular name for boys. Nothing to worry about at all with Oscar - honestly.

I only like old fashioned names, I am worried that if I find another name I like but it is outdated or my son will not love it, or that name have some negative associations which I don't know, or many people don't like it, so I am afraid I will make another mistake, I wished that I have another name which I am confident to change to, all boy names have more or less negative comments, I think all mums will feel heartbreaking to know those negative comments, but it is the best name they think they can give to their sons. People are crucial when typing comments online.

I love the name Oscar - I would use it myself if I didn't already have a close relative with the name.

Go back to all the reasons you first loved the name. I have seen some ... questionable ... name choices out there and Oscar most definitely isn't one! It's a lovely name for a lovely boy 😊

I agree, I can't be selfish to choose a name which only I like, there are many things to consider, our purpose is to make our children happy.

I see, thank you.

Oh please don’t think I thought you were putting yourself first. I meant just because you’ve got some misgivings at the moment, your son probably won’t grow up to share them. Oscar’s a lovely name, enjoy him.

Im also 50 and i remember Sesame Street being on but I never watched it, i don't think it was that popular in the UK.

I am not sure if one day he googles his name and find those associations, what his thoughts will be, will this lower his self-esteem?

If you Google any name you might find negative connotations, even serious ones, say a serial killer or something. You also can’t future proof. Look how Karen’s come to be used.

To be honest, the associations you’re worrying about are a big stretch even now and won’t occur to most people.

I am not sure if one day he googles his name and find those associations, what his thoughts will be, will this lower his self-esteem?

I guess you might also know The office or the odd couples?

Whatever name you choose will have some kind of negative connotation if you look hard enough. I love the name Oscar by the way.

My dd goes to school with an Oscar and she's never said anything negative about the name

No more than one of my family who shares his name with Andy Pandy & Prince Andrew

Most of us can find something negative about our name if we look hard enough . . . . . .

We should think people grow into the same name but in different ways. If he is good enough and loved by people surrounding him no matter what name he has.

All names have a connection to something else. Three of the connections you mentioned to Oscar aren't well known and the movie award connection is actually quite a positive one. Its a nice normal popular name.