My Sister has called her baby the same name as my child

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My Sister has called her baby the same name as my child and I can?t understand why? My husband is very annoyed and he can?t believe she or her husband did not mention it before. The week before the birth we were all talking about possible names but her husband stated they had some ideas but did not want other people?s opinions. I love my sister but I can?t help feeling confused and emotional.

I wish the OP would come back and tell us what her sister said....

I would be livid, it's not easy picking names but for God sake, if your own sister went and named her child the same as yours!! God I'd go mental! Thankfully I have no brothers/sisters so this can't occur.

I have three sets if cousins (all on the same side of the fsmily) where there are pairs of brothers with the same names. i.e. three sets of J&C - not a lot of imagination my family!

Id be pissed off too!! Me and my partner had agreed on Ava for our daughters name then all of a sudden he somehow thinks its spelt with a fucking E which i obviously pointed out changes it to a different shitting name, we already have an Evie, my brothers child so it doesnt feel like ive picked it if its practically the same , im so pissed off who the hell thinks Ava is spelt with an E hes not normally fucking stupid like that!! So now we are back to square one im serious im soooo angry i thought we had a girls name sorted now we dont!!!! All cause he cant spell a 3letter name which pronounces its own first letter itself!!

The OP is probably over it now as it was nine years ago

My daughter has an EXTREMELY unusual double barrelled first name. It's not made up, but it's that rare there's no other on a social media search. She's a teenager now, and the first part of her name was used by someone I know on FB who messaged me asking if she could use it for her newborn daughter....I was flattered. BUT, if my sibling wanted that name......nah. That's a bit bonkers, no?!

Ummm......Just realised I commented on a zombie post......D'oh!

You people do make me laugh. This sort of thing used to be the norm.
People have every right to give their child a name of their choice, and not to disclose it in advance. At least that's always the advice given here!

Why on earth does it matter? Chances are the children will acquire nicknames, or be known by variations of the name anyway.

Holly

Eva and Ava are technically the same name with different pronunciations. Most of continental Europe pronounce Eva "Ava".

Eva Mendes is also "Ava".

I think Ava Gardener popularised the Ava spelling.

This would have been perfectly acceptable throughout most of history, when fewer names were used and people tended to be named after relatives. However, it does seem a bit strange now that people are often more interested in finding an original, individual name. Since both children have already been born I don't think there's much you can do about it, except maybe suggest that they don't both use the same short form (or one shortens and one doesn't), and as your baby was born first, you might be able to get away with asking for first refusal on the version you like best. But if you have a good relationship with your sister I wouldn't let this spoil it.

My oldest daughter's name is Isabella. Her nickname is Bella and sometimes I just call her Bellita. 12yrs later my oldest sister had a daughter and named her Bella. Despite the fact that we did not want her to. She lately started calling her daughter Bellita. It is one of the most annoying things ever. I truly wish that I had known this and had chosen a different name for my daughter. I think that names within a close family should not be repeated among cousins. Be original people. Have respect, so that you can keep good family relations.

This thread is 10 years old. With a bit of a resurrection a year ago.

My aunt ( my dads sister) has the same name as one of their cousins. However my gran was one of 14 so I think there’s are about 24 cousins on that side of the family alone ( dad and aunt have about 35 cousins overall) and it was a common name at the time.

It’s not caused a problem, but in modern day, where there are much smaller families it is a bit weird.

This happened with two sets of ILs of mine. Same name and same middle name chosen, and though the second child has always been knows by an unusual and very old fashioned NN, the choice has never been forgiven.

The first child was given the name for a specific and very solid reason. The second child was named because the parents liked the unusual nickname even though this NN could have been used for several names. Choosing the same middle name was unnecessary too.

If it was a regular name like James I wouldn't really mind. If I'd lovingly chosen Ptolemy-Tarquin and she pinched it I wouldn't be best pleased

It doesn't matter if it's James or Ptolemy - names are given to people so that they can be identified.

Having 2 people with the same name in a family makes this more difficult. There are SO many names to choose from, give your kid their own name!

MASSIVE ZOMBIE THREAD!!!!

It's ridiculous, more fool them.

@Flamingosnbears-doesn’t it just prove that this continues to be a gripe? And saves duplicate threads....

They are cousins not siblings.

I don’t see a problem.

Just use different nicknames

That’s weird!

I know the mumsnet mantra is you don’t own a name but it’s still bloody weird.

I’m 21 weeks with a boy and would never choose the same name as my brothers son or BILs children.

Why though?
Do you own that name? Last I checked, people don’t own names.

If I want to use any of the names my siblings have used (which I do, hence why I googled people’s opinions and this zombie thread showed up), I’ll damn well use it, and if my siblings ‘went mental’ over it, I’d think they were utterly pathetic 🙄