Husband's Adamant On Hideous Names

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My DH is adamant on using a name i quite frankly find hideous

The name is

Drumroll

Prudence Sunita

i would be more open to the idea, if the name what honouring a family member or we even had any link to India

But we dont, and he wont budge, any suggestions for names he may be more open to ?????????

please help,

-Michelle xxx

I thought is was Drumroll so any name after that sounds good.

I would just tell him no. You're not naming a baby something you don't like, as it would grate on you every time you said the name or saw it written down.

You need to find a name you both like. Starting with a name app and coming up with a list each is a good idea.

If he refuses, I'd tell him that you will be naming the child as a single parent as you don't like his attitude.

I thought he wanted to call your child Drumroll.....🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

You get to push baby out, you get final say on the name!!

anyone starting to like drumroll?

With siblings Sausage, Eskimo and Forwards?

I can't handle the combination - but that's because Sunita is also a well-known brand in wholefood circles, and I'm now wondering if they do prunes!

I quite like Prudence.

But - odd with Sunita; strange how he hit on that combo; mental that he won't be moved.

Any way you can scrap all suggestions so far and start again?Maybe pull the names out of a hat or something? I haven’t read all posts but why is he choosing both names?

Drumroll is starting to sound good to me 😘

ps. You're growing an entire human being, from nothing, inside your own body. It takes nine months. It's delusional that he thinks he gets any say in naming at all! I'd sort him out on that right away. It's basic good manners, showing honour and respect for what you're doing, that you get to choose.

I quite like both Prudence & Margot.

Fenella?

Out of curiosity, at what point does the parent who hasn’t experienced pregnancy get to have an input on parenting decisions?

This is Mumsnet, so never. Mothers have the ultimate say on all things to do with their children because they are the real parents and dads are just accessories. If he tries to comment on your parenting or suggest how things could be done, LTB.

But also, of course, he should be doing at least 50% of childcare and housework, alongside working full time, and if he refuses, LTB.

Yeah. Or smth. Can anyone smell socks?

Well, fair point, except.

Mem get the best of everything in reality, and many women are fed up. And lots and lots of women are sick to the back teeth of useless men pushing them around, metaphorically or literally.

Your hyperbole just shows you up ad the misogynist you are IMO

I can't say Prudence is the nicest name although character! But I do like Connie (for Constance) which is a similar kind of name. I don't really like Margot that much and does seem like an attempt to update Margaret. I can't get Margot from the good life out my head who was a lovable character but an awful snob.

Sunita is nice. Maybe Clemency gives you the virtue name thing for him with the modern fashionable twist that is more like Margot? With shortening Clem or Clemmie? Also Clemency as virtues go is quite an attractive one in relation to Prudence which sounds a bit party pooperish!

good luck love to know how this works out.

I do quite like the name Honor as well.

As most have said, you need to agree on a name. You don’t know where the name Prudence came from, has he watched the Chilling Adventures of Sabrina? If it’s not for virtue reasons, maybe he likes cool witchy names. Other names from the show are,

Sabrina
Hilda
Zelda
Agatha
Dorothea
Rosalind
Elspeth
Judith
Diana
Circe
Constance
Dezmelda
Lillith
Hazel

He sounds awful , OP. Stick to your guns and refuse to be bullied into complying. People saying 'I like Prudence' are really missing the point.

Dear (potential) Prudence, your dad's a twat.

At first glance I thought his name was Drumroll Prudence seems fine after that ! she'd probably always be called Prue !

I personally like the name Prudence because I like the nn Pru but it doesn't go with the middle name

Also choosing a baby name is a joint decision so if you really don't like it he can't force it on you unless he's known for being completely unreasonable

This is true

He’s a bully. This is your real issue.

Just tell him you have to agree on a name, and that's that (it is).

Get the app that matches your lists, or just stick long lists on the fridge. But no he can't call her something you don't want. Don't debate it, just tell him.

So let me get this straight...

You're growing this baby and he thinks he gets to pick the first name and the middle name and the baby will also have his surname?

Just tell him no, OP.

There are thousands of names out there, so take both your suggestion and his suggestion off the table on the grounds that they have both been vetoed by the other person and do not discuss them again.

Then get your heads together and find some names you both like.

In theory it should be easier to get him to focus on finding other names once you have made it clear to him that your baby will be named Prudence Sunita over your dead body.

And then get in there and make an appointment online to register the baby as soon as you have given birth so that he doesn't go behind your back and pull a fast one.