Husband's Adamant On Hideous Names

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My DH is adamant on using a name i quite frankly find hideous

The name is

Drumroll

Prudence Sunita

i would be more open to the idea, if the name what honouring a family member or we even had any link to India

But we dont, and he wont budge, any suggestions for names he may be more open to ?????????

please help,

-Michelle xxx

I like sunita but not prudence.

No. This would have me digging my heels in and actually questioning my relationship. Is he going tonclaim precedence over everything as you have older kids? Is he going to expect his mother to be first to see the child / be in the delivery room because your parents have had their chance?

I would explain to him that he does not get to veto your presence in your baby's life because baby is his first child and he needs to be getting used to that idea and fast!

I also thought the name was Drumroll and that your DH was a metal fan.

Prudence makes me think of Dear Prudence by the Beatles so I could live with that. It's an odd choice with Sunita, but if that's just a middle name, it will hardly ever make an appearance, but ideally you should both like the name.
I've noticed with names, however odd they are that once they become the baby's name, you just think of your lovely baby when you hear the name and so it becomes natural.

This is a wind up surely?

Actually how about Tuppence Ha’penny?

i like the moon part but no other part

Hahaha I thought you meant the name was Drumroll Prudence!!! I laughed so hard. Prudence is a lovely name in my opinion. Gorgeous! Not sure about the middle name though 🤔

Tell him to do one! He’s not growing it or birthing it and probably won’t be doing most of the rearing once it’s born. I chose all my children’s names

Sorry, does your husband not have a south Asian background then?

Baby names are a ‘two yeses, one no’ situation. Naming your child is a parenting decision just like the hundreds of others you’ll make together over the next eighteen years. No one parent’s decision should override the other’s especially one based on biology which you aren’t in control of anyway. That goes both ways though, and he can’t just unilaterally decide on Prudence.

Both Prudence and Margot are out if one of you doesn’t like them. I wouldn’t bother roping in family and friends to justify your dislike of his names. It’s nothing to do with them. I wouldn’t use either name, but that’s irrelevant really as it’s not my opinion which matters.

Have you considered trying a baby naming app like Kinder. It works like Tinder for baby names? You each sign up and scroll through names, and if you both swipe right on the same name, it goes onto a joint list. It might stop the pattern of you suggesting names just for him to shoot them down. The names then aren’t ‘his’ or ‘yours’, they’re a just names you both like. Or the old fashioned method would be to go through the top 250 (or however many) names individually and compare notes on names you like afterwards.

Fuck ..... I thought the name was drumroll at forest . Prudence is infinitely better than drumroll ! I like it

It's a no from me

Both hideous and doubly worse together - Pru will become 'Poo' at school

Meet him half way with Prudence as a middle name.
i had a white family member who wanted to call her unborn DD "Priya". She didnt, thank goodness

tell him youre afraid people will say its cultural appropriation

using an app would a good idea, ive tried to compromise by using the name Margaret but hes not keen

i like the name Priya but i obviously wouldn't use it due to the cultural appropriation

We really struggled to agree in the end We made a list of about ten names each and any vetoes were crossed off the list. (No matches!). We were left with 2 names one his one mine and we decided to wait until dc was born to choose. We went with mine because a, it was better and b, dh felt pressured because I had just pushed a baby out of myself. Can't imagine any other name now.

i dont like it and im scared that she would get bulllied in school because the mount of people who dont like her name, i just dont want that to happen, its different if me and my husband both love the name but if i dont like the name i would just think the same as them. which wouldnt really help my daughter in any way

Noone should override the other

you'll have to come to a compromise somehow-he doesnt get to decide alone because hes got two and youve got 3 theyre not cars

Prudence isn’t that bad - Pru for short is lovely.

But Sunita - No!

Margot is also a nice name, Nova for the middle, again no!

Compromise and go with Margot Prudence.

I like Prudence but Drumroll? What sort of a name is that👹

Same!

Between Prudence and Margot I much much much prefer Prudence. I dislike Margot so much it reminds me of maggot.

However, that is by the by. You dont like Prudence He doesnt like Margot

So you go back the drawing board

Well your lucky naming a DC is a joint decision.

Why is it ok for your OH to veto your choice but he adamant he is sticking to his in the knowledge you dont like it? Was he like this before you got pregnant?