Husband's Adamant On Hideous Names

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My DH is adamant on using a name i quite frankly find hideous

The name is

Drumroll

Prudence Sunita

i would be more open to the idea, if the name what honouring a family member or we even had any link to India

But we dont, and he wont budge, any suggestions for names he may be more open to ?????????

please help,

-Michelle xxx

Has he said why he likes those names? Just as trying to find names similar that are similar will probably still give you a old fashioned slumpy first name and an indian middle name.
Unless he likes them for the meaning? Or the letters maybe?

i quite like Rosemary and Clemeny

ill suggest them to Snuggle Nuggett

I think Prudence is a beautiful name but certainly not with Sunita.

i much prefer Anita over Sunita but i dont think i like 's' sound in names

the name was never set in stone that was a suggestion my me, and my favourite name, i am willing to compromise by my DH doesnt seem to be

Pushing a demon out of her vagina gives her the right to decide what sort of pain relief she wants, and how the baby is fed, it doesn't give her ultimate say over the baby's name. She can veto Prudence Sunita, as I said upthread, but naming the baby something else without involving him would be a dick move.

Fathers are not second class citizens because they don't give birth.

he has a grandma called Janine which i thinks alright and alot better than Pruedence

I wasn't aware the man of the house was solely responsible for naming the baby. Is he goingnto do all the laundry, feeds and nappies as well?

I like Sunita. Prudence is awful though, and they're terrible together.

i totally agree at the moment he hasnt even suggested or even considered any other names ive put on the table. it wasnt this hard with the first huband

i like both your suggestions ill give them to him

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Rather than trying to sway him with suggestions, you need to start with the hard line: I am not calling my baby Prudence Sunita. It's a definite no. So start engaging with me about alternatives DH or baby won't have a name at all.
Then, start with the suggestions...

Just say no.
He needs to learn to compromise.
The Sunita part doesn't really bother me because middle names are rarely used anyway. But Prudence would get a hard pass from me. It's old-fashioned in an unflattering way.

You can't insist on a name - especially one the other parent finds hideous! Your husband is being ridiculous. I agree with pp - tell him both Prudence and Sunita are completely off the table. That will not be the baby's name. Then suggest he comes up with a top 10 list of names and you do the same - swap lists and see if that gets you any closer. Honestly if my husband had pulled this shit I'd have been livid.

I like Prudence but the danger of naming your child after a personality characteristic is if they don't have that characteristic they will have a life time of people telling them they don't live up to their name. See also Patience, Charity, Mercy etc

Maybe you could mention this to him.

As for Sunita, I wouldn't unless you are Indian or of Indian heritage and the name 'means' something to you because of that. Otherwise isn't it a bit weird like a white couple naming their child Mohammed?

Yes this, Prudence is terrible and the combination is bizarre.
Margot Nova sounds awful as well sorry, and I love Margot!
what about Margot Prudence? At least that’s a compromise and the names sort of go together.

You could also ask friends and family for their opinion, and report back to him so he can see for himself that the name is generally perceived as negative.

with my husband, ive struggled this is our first child together, but i haven three form a previous marriage and we didnt really struggle with picking a name, i dont like prudence and it doesnt really got with y other children

at this point i think drumroll would be better

If he can veto Margot Nova (and he should) you can veto Prudence Sunita.

If I were you I’d forget the middle names for a bit and focus on finding a first name you agree on. Then you can start wrangling over the middle bit.

It doesn't really matter what the name is. Surely neither parent gets to 'force' any name choice on the other? Both should get a say but, frankly, if neither are mature enough to discuss and compromise like adults then an ugly name is the least of this child's problems.

Ive asked my best friend and she said that the suggestion is utterly shocking