Babies surname?

[El77]

Would you give your baby your partners surname (you're not married) or make it double barrelled with his and yours?

No, I would give baby my own surname without a doubt. When married could change if you want to change yours, or double barrel. That’s if you’re planning marriage in the future.

Mine or double barrel

When this was an option I gave the baby his surname and I regretted it. I did all the hard work, he got the recognition.

Your name.
My dcs are stuck with XP's name and we can't change it.

Use both surnames, no hyphen. In the order in which they sound best.

Give yours or double barrel.

Both our surnames hyphenated.

(Married but neither of us changed our names)

Would not just give a baby his surname.

Would have considered my surname with his as an extra middle name.

Not married and our son has my surname. I decided long before I met DP that I would never change my name or have a different name to my child, and fortunately we are quite compatible in our beliefs and he was fine with that. Wouldn't be with him otherwise!

I would have considered double-barrelling, but both our surnames are long and difficult to spell and quite frankly it would have been cruel.

I’d give baby my surname.

Just your name would make sense wouldn't it?

If not married probably mine, but I was married so double barrel mine first

My surname or double barrelled. Zero chance of giving the baby his

I gave them his surname. DS1 is changing his when he's 18. DS2 is happy with having his dad's.

Your own or double barrel, definitely not just your partners surname

Both surnames as the baby has two parents.

Depends on your relationship I guess.

Mine had partners surname although we weren't married at the time X

Traditionally babies have the mothers name. Give the baby yours or double barrel if you like the sound of it.

mine. I was married having my children but never changed my name to his but still we gave them my husband's name without any thought. That was more than 20 years ago. We both agree now that we would probably give them mine which is a great surname (not that his is bad). It would have been worth it for his father's reaction alone.

My children all got my surname, not their dads.

Mine have my partner's name. I've never met any unmarried mums outside of MN who have given their kids just their own surname, although the reasoning for doing so is sensible.

My dc have my partners surname.
I wish I'd given them mine.
I'm the one who does absolutely everything for them and am there for them always, fully present both physically and emotionally.
Currently playing the long game and I just hate that they have his name.

Mine have DP's surname.
It just seemed normal to us, and it doesn't bother me that I'm the odd one out. It's just a name.

@Twizbe

Traditionally babies have the mothers name. Give the baby yours or double barrel if you like the sound of it.

@twizbe I've never heard of people giving their baby the mothers name?? I thought it was traditionally the fathers

My surname, or make a new one completely.

I wouldn’t give them mine if I was planning to get married and I was planning to change my name to his. (Personally I would not marry or name change, so my children have my chosen name)

My children would always have my surname, which is also his as I chose to take his upon marriage (mine was common/boring).

If I’d have kept mine or not got married they’d still have my surname. It’s traditional to have your Mother’s surname but it’s also historically tradition for them to be married and take his surname. I think this is where this misconception has come from.