Babies surname?

[El77]

Would you give your baby your partners surname (you're not married) or make it double barrelled with his and yours?

HR313 so are you a shit mum then? Seeing how your partner is so great and your DC were given his surname because of that? I bet it wasnt even talked about, just assumed that kids take dads surname

Oldfestivalgoer oops missed your post...hence my comment

I gave mine their father's surname, but I do regret it now several years later (we are no longer together).

@HR313 How did you know? When you gave your first DC his name, how did you know he would be more besotted and a better parent than you, meaning his name was a better choice than yours?

Your name without a doubt.

My partners for both my daughters and we aren't married...

Purely because he has a really cool surname and mine is rubbish 🤣

@NavigatingAdolescence

Traditionally women were property and their ownership denoted by their surname (father to husband). Why anyone wants to carry on that misogynistic bollocks in 2021 is utterly beyond me.

I didn’t change my name. DD has both names.

Give your baby. If it’s important to your partner to have the same name he can change his. #feminism

Yes! It's a sexist tradition and women just go along with it. It amazes me, give the baby your name and if you get married your husband can change his name if he wants to have the same name.

We are married but I didn’t change my name and the kids have his surname. If we weren’t married I think they’d have mine.

ODFOD. You have no idea what factors drive women's decisions here

Thousands of posts on MN over the years cite the reasons why women a) change their surname to their husband’s and/ or b) give the baby the father’s name.

These, coupled with the fact that men almost never use these reasons (or any others) to change their name in marriage, means that whatever you as an individual chose, the bigger picture still reflects the patriarchy, loud and strong.

And telling people to fuck off is hardly a civilised way to discuss it.