Babies surname?

[El77]

Would you give your baby your partners surname (you're not married) or make it double barrelled with his and yours?

I thought it was traditionally the fathers only if married and its also the mothers married name.

You can call your baby whatever you like, they don't have to have either of your surnames.

I would give them my surname unless I was married and had decided to change it.

Nope babies have always had their mothers name. If the woman was married she'd have taken her husbands name. If not the baby had her name.

Some nobility would give their children born out of wedlock other surnames either to hide their parentage or allude to it. Fitzroy for example means son of a king.

Out of quite a few I know of only one mother who (so far) doesn't regret giving their child the fathers surname. I would NEVER do it.

If you arent married I wouldn't give his surname
My sister did this and then when he left she was left with a child with a surname different to her own. Her other 2 kids have her surname and her oldest child ended up changing her surname to match them

Mine until married. You re register the baby after marriage anyway so can change the name then

PP is right, children of unmarried parents are traditionally given their mother’s surname

I think hyphenated surnames are fairest though

DS has my name. DP would take my name if we marry. Everyone assumes DS has DPs surname which annoys me

Yours 1000% I made the mistake of giving DS1 my ex’s and it’s a complete ball ache. I have to prove I’m his mum with documents like his birth certificate when we travel etc.

Told my now DH when I got pregnant that if he wanted the baby to have his surname then we would need to get married. No marriage then the baby would have mine.

We got married before the baby was born.

Thanks everyone!!

I think I'll definitely do a double barrelled surname in that case!

Mine. No debate:

Double barrelled, not hyphenated.

I'd go for yours. Nightmare to change it if you split.

I used my own

My children have my partners surname, we are not not married. I actually prefer his surname to mine so suits fine. Honestly can't get worked up about them having a different surname to me. Also I work in a job where I see lots of children and all the children who have both parents not married have the fathers name. The only ones who have their mothers name are the ones where dad is no longer around. Children being given mothers name is definitely not something I see where I am.

Your name. No double barrelling. If you marry, keep your own name. Everything straightforward then.

Mine have dp's name. I do regret not giving them mine & would either double barrel or give one surname as a middle name if I was doing it again.

My DS has my DP surname, didn't even think of giving him mine, we are due to get married in 18 months so then we will all have the same surname.

Go for yours. Always.

I see very few children with the mother’s surname in my line of work - most years it’s the fathers surname/family name where the parents are married.

I expected to want mine to have my name, but actually at the time felt it was of little consequence, so he has his Dad's, and mine as a second middle. I'd have double barrelled but the names don't really work together.

Separated when he was 18 months, can't say I've ever regretted it.

@Chunkymenrock

Your name. No double barrelling. If you marry, keep your own name. Everything straightforward then.

It's only straightforward from the mother's point of view which is rather blinkered. Having both surnames is fairer given there are two parents.

Traditionally women were property and their ownership denoted by their surname (father to husband). Why anyone wants to carry on that misogynistic bollocks in 2021 is utterly beyond me.

I didn’t change my name. DD has both names.

Give your baby. If it’s important to your partner to have the same name he can change his. #feminism