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[Tillygetsit]

My youngest is called Cassia. It's not hard. My 4 year old calls her Cass or Cassie. Fine. My flipping mother says she cant do "exotic foreign names" and calls her Candy which I HATE! I've spoken to her about it a billion times (probably an exaggeration but not by much) She laughs it off. I'm scared it will stick. My dh says he will start calling her Jelly if she carries on and she tells him not to be so disrespectful 😣 Any advice apart from the very tempting gaffer tape over the mouth solution?

Urgh. That would drive me mad. Tell her again and when she laughs tell her it’s not funny and you feel hurt that she can’t call your daughter by her name. It’s so rude

Beautiful name by the way!!

Cassia isn't difficult to pronounce. You mum has got s bee in her bonnet for some reason and is being deliberately difficult. Tell her if she can't be bothered to call your child by her name, she won't be seeing her in future and therefore this will no longer be a problem.

If she does it again, tell her you are very concerned about her memory loss and think it should be reported to her doctor. Mutter something to your DH in an aside about "senile dementia and care homes". That should straighten her up.

Holy shit that would annoy me. Tell her if she persists, the DC will be calling her some ridiculous name. The more obnoxious the better.

Everything time she says Candy you should call her cunto, she'll soon stop 😉

Beautiful name - I also know a Cassia.
Ask her how long it will take to learn a 6-letter name concerned head-tilt

Very PA of her. What can possibly be difficult about "Cassie"? And yes, Candy is grim.

Make worried comments about "I'm a bit concerned that you appear to be getting Cassia muddled up with another person called Candace. Should you see your GP? Confusing two people can be a sign that your cognitive faculties are in decline...."

Candy is hardly a 'British' name is it?

Has she never heard of cassia bark? OK it is from an Asian tree but it's a pretty old botanical for gin, which has been popular here for centuries.

😂😂😂😂 thank you. There's several unsavoury battles going on with her atm. I dont think your tongue in cheek medical diagnosis is far off! Thanks again. Cheered me up no end.

She’s being rude. There are other people called Cassia. My dd is 13 and her friend is called Cassia so it’s not that unusual. Just start calling her jelly. Im with your DH.

I think your DH's idea is good, especially as your mother doesn't like it. Call her (your mother) Jelly and say that you will continue to do so (and have worse ideas too) until she calls your daughter by her name.

I'd also tell her that if she really can't behave with this then she won't be seeing your daughter.

Cassia is a lovely name. Candy is sickly sweet and dreadful. You are right to be annoyed with your mother. I would be furious.

I have a Kezia and had similar problems. Not from my DM thank goodness

So rude. I'd be limiting time with her. 'If you don't get even care enough to get our daughter's name right I don't think we'll be coming over that often...'

Cassia is a beautiful name.

I think your DH is spot on with his approach. You should both call her Jelly (or whatever - mumsywumsy?!) until she gets your DDs name right. Complaints about disrespect should be reflected back "we'll disrespect you until you stop disrespecting our DD/our choice of name".

I don't usually recommend tit for tat, but this is an exception!

Bookworm4 Everything time she says Candy you should call her cunto, she'll soon stop 😉

Really made me laugh!

I'd pull her up every single time she does it.

Could you rope your 4yo in - "grannie can't even say Cassia!"?

And yes, everyone start calling her Jelly or something she is sensitive about. I'd be calling her a stupid old fart!

It's shocking to me that your own mum is being such a bitch. She must have form for this, surely. This is not normal behaviour. I would be incensed by this.

Cassia is a gorgeous name, so much nicer than Candy. She sounds like she likes winding you up.

Get the kids to call her by her first name instead of whatever grandmother name she carefully chose...?

The four year old is managing just fine. Could she be roped in to "help grannie learn baby's name"? Four year old gets to feel important. Granny gets shamed, as she should be.

Cassia is lovely Candy is bloody awful
Is there another nickname she could use? I mean yes she’s being a twat but it could be an easy solution. Like Poppet etc or a middle name

Or just start calling her Bum instead of Mum & say it’s hard for you to get it right all the time - loudly....in public

Or refer to her as Gangly instead of Granny etc

Could be quite fun

Candy sounds like somebody who would live at the Playboy mansion. Perhaps tell her that?

She is being extremely rude and deliberately obnoxious about it. I would also tell her that if she won't refer to your child by her actual name then she won't be seeing her anymore.

Like others have said, correct her every single time as annoying as it is....surely she'll get bored eventually? How old is the little one?