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[Tillygetsit]

My youngest is called Cassia. It's not hard. My 4 year old calls her Cass or Cassie. Fine. My flipping mother says she cant do "exotic foreign names" and calls her Candy which I HATE! I've spoken to her about it a billion times (probably an exaggeration but not by much) She laughs it off. I'm scared it will stick. My dh says he will start calling her Jelly if she carries on and she tells him not to be so disrespectful 😣 Any advice apart from the very tempting gaffer tape over the mouth solution?

Totally agree with everyone here. It's incredibly rude and also clearly a power play - she's trying to hurt you, and to show you "who is boss".

I wouldn't start calling her names because you'd be playing her game. Instead, I see two options :

• if you're feeling more kind and patient than she has any right to expect, you can correct her (every single time) with the longsuffering patience of a teacher with a child that's a bit slow. "we talked about this, mum. It's Cassia. C-a-s-s-i-a. It's really not that difficult, I thought you'd manage to remember six small letters. Or do I need to use words of less than 2 syllables, if you're that slow ?"

• or, just sanction her. She says Candy? You won't be seeing her for 1 month. She says it again ? It's gonna be six months. Again? Make it one year. Either she'll learn, or she doesn't actually want a relationship with you.

definitely change her name.

refer to her as Grumpy instead of Granny and as Mama instead of Mum.

I would do it totally deadpan, until she comments and then say, not angrily in anyway - you refuse to use my daughters actual name, so we have done the same. It isn't very nice is it?

It won;t take long!

Cassia is lovely. I don't see what her problem.

I'm with the others about roping your 4 year old in. Even just saying to your mother "My 4 year old can say Cassia. Why do you have such a problem saying it?"

Agree with pp, a 'serious' chat about her memory and whether she needs to visit the gp for dementia testing, perhaps also has she considered a power of attorney, and while she's still with it has she considered which retirement home she might like if she continues this decline in her faculties?

Id call granny a nickname that is annoying and get everyone to call her it. She will soon change her tune