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[Tillygetsit]

My youngest is called Cassia. It's not hard. My 4 year old calls her Cass or Cassie. Fine. My flipping mother says she cant do "exotic foreign names" and calls her Candy which I HATE! I've spoken to her about it a billion times (probably an exaggeration but not by much) She laughs it off. I'm scared it will stick. My dh says he will start calling her Jelly if she carries on and she tells him not to be so disrespectful 😣 Any advice apart from the very tempting gaffer tape over the mouth solution?

Think your DH has the right idea!

@Bookworm4 that made me laugh so much

Candy sounds like (sorry for any candy’s out there) a stripper.

Tell your mum to call her by her name or ‘darling’ if she really can’t manage CA-SEE. Or see a speech therapist.

My sister is called Ellis. My Nan has always had no shame in saying she thinks it's awful and has always refused to call her anything but Elly. My sister is now in her late 20's and it'd still the same 🙄 Unfortunately some people are very rude. I'd try nip it in the bud ASAP!!

Also, Cassia is one of my fave names!!

She reminds me if that nasty rich white neighbour in Then Again Maybe I Won't (Judy Blume's teen boy novel).

It's "other"ism. I'm not specifically saying racism, but probably not far off.

Ask her why she is calling your daughter a stripper name

Cassia is lovely, Candy is horrible.
I'm with your DH on this, call her the wrong name til she stops.
How often do you see her? What does your daughter say about it?

Or tell her you are changing your child’s name to something more easily pronounced. Maybe Dave or John?

Sorry, but your mum is a total dick.

Cassia is a beautiful name and she is being unbelievably rude . I'm miffed on your behalf! I'd be having serious words with her. Stupid woman.

Ah that classic British name, Candy.

She sounds batshit!

Cassia is lovely. Candy is a crackwhore name.

Tell DM that you expect her to make the effort to correctly pronounce her own grandchild's name. And continue to correct her every single time.

I would tell my DM if she doesn't call my child by their correct name then they won't be given the opportunity to call them their name at all.

Soon learn. Tough love

Again thanks for the replies. She's currently not talking to me over another issue so it's bliss! Roping 4yr old in is an excellent idea...if Atilla the mum ever talks to us again!

My mil refused to use ds's name as she hated it apparently. Started calling him TJ and enlisted sil to do too. Told her either she uses his name or I would not be going round.
Sorted!!
Was secretly hoping she continued with her shit tbh!!

Wow, I'd have a lot of say to her on the subject if my mother said something like that to me! I feel really angry on your behalf now, and on behalf of the rest of us with 'exotic, foreign-sounding' names (Cassia isn't even that 'crazy' a name!) :(
I'd stop her seeing her unless she quit being so ignorant and childish to be honest Cassia/Cassie isn't hard, crikey.

May we all christen her Candyzilla? I think you might post about her again for various reasons!

Rude and disrespectful of her. And at her complaining that your husband is being disrespectful of her!! Frankly ‘Jelly’ is too nice as a substitute name - how about ‘rude bitch’?

But I would be telling her that until she can use the proper name, she wont be seeing the baby...or any of you.

I was also going to suggest having your 4yo call her by her first name until she stops - it seems effective, going by stories I've heard

She’s being a total dick.
And Cassia is a lovely name!

Every time she uses Candy you or DH need to correct her. And keep calling her the wrong name, when she says it’s disrespectful tell her you’ll stop when she stops disrespecting you and your DD in the same way

Candy

just start calling her Bum instead of Mum

I am sniggering at this

My name is a variant of Cassia and when my mum named me my grandma's response was "that's ridiculous, how will I ever remember to pronounce that". Once my mum told her that if she couldn't even learn to say her own granddaughters name then she wouldn't see me she caught on pretty quickly.

Honestly, I'd do the same in your position. It is just rude, and disrespectful.. Not just to you but to your daughter! I'd bluntly tell her if she can't respect your daughter and her name then she won't see her. She'll soon learn.

Everything time she says Candy you should call her cunto, she'll soon stop

My favourite solution!!

I feel your pain. My mum's dad never called me by my real name because it was foreign sounding - let alone the fact that I am actually half "foreign". He had a similar sounding English name he used which was bloody awful. He even used to write it in cards etc. Not sure what to suggest but I too like the idea of just calling your mum random names.