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user1469965217 · 04/12/2018 21:43

Hi just need opinions please my ex has just had a son and he has called him a identical name to our son who was stillborn. Please someone tell me they also think this is disrespectful

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AnneLovesGilbert · 04/12/2018 21:44

That’s horrific. I’m so sorry Flowers

Klobuchar · 04/12/2018 21:45

Oh OP, that must be so distressing. Hugs xx

Rainbowqueeen · 04/12/2018 21:45

Flowers that's a horrible thing to do. I would be really hurt too.

I can see why he is your ex. It must have been a shock to find that out. Please be kind to yourself.

ThomasRichard · 04/12/2018 21:45

I’m failing to find words strong enough to express how low, appalling and horrifying I find that OP. I’m so sorry, both for your lost baby boy and for your ex’s selfishness and insensitivity.

calpop · 04/12/2018 21:46

That's awful. Actually hard to believe. He must be a sociopath to do that. It's him not you OP. So very sorry for your loss xx

JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/12/2018 21:46

That’s beyond words. Look after yourself OP Thanks

Nanalisa60 · 04/12/2018 21:47

That’s very low of him, in fact I thinks it bad taste.

Enidblyton1 · 04/12/2018 21:49

Your ex is completely lacking in empathy.
So sorry for your loss OP Flowers

silkpyjamasallday · 04/12/2018 21:49

He is disgusting. It's beyond disrespectful. I'm so sorry OP Flowers

Sophronia · 04/12/2018 21:50

That’s awful Sad

greendale17 · 04/12/2018 21:50

Oh my, what kind of person would do this???????

WhoKnewBeefStew · 04/12/2018 21:53

How awful and insensitive, so sorry op Thanks

Momo37 · 04/12/2018 21:55

So sorry lovely ❤️ What an insensitive thing to do.

AlwaysSomethingThere · 04/12/2018 21:55

Horrible x

YearOfYouRemember · 04/12/2018 21:56

I'm so sorry you are distressed. Could he have used the name as a way of honouring your late son ?

babydreamer1 · 04/12/2018 21:58

That's horrific and one of the most insensitive things I've ever heard. I can only assume in his own twisted mind he wrongly thought it was a way to honour your baby? I hope things are happier for you now OP, very sorry for your loss.

SnowyPaws5 · 04/12/2018 21:59

That is very insensitive and just awful OP Flowers

Could there be a possibility that your ex's partner chose the name and did not let your ex have a say?

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 04/12/2018 22:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, and that's a really awful thing to do, hope you are doing ok.

C0untDucku1a · 04/12/2018 22:00

It sounds very distressing for you. Although could he have done it as a way to remember your son?

Betsy86 · 04/12/2018 22:01

So sorry op that is beyond awful of him totally disrespectful!!

Gazelda · 04/12/2018 22:03

Christ, that must feel like a punch to the stomach. Your DS can never be replaced, there is only one of him in your heart.
I wonder if your ex is honouring your son, but completely lacking in consideration of how it affects you.
Huge sympathies OP, both for your loss and for how raw you must be feeling right now.

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user1469965217 · 04/12/2018 22:17

Hi thanks so much for replies I feel so hurt. I don't think it's been done as a way of honouring our son as he also stole a lot of his clothes for his new son and both him and his girlfriend have ignored my messages asking for them back and blocked me. I think it was his one last 2 hurt me and boy has it worked x

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SD1978 · 04/12/2018 22:18

That's a cruel thing to hear. Was it a family name for him? To not tell you he was planning that is horrible. Also gives a very good reminder of why he's an ex xxx

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user1469965217 · 04/12/2018 22:23

Hi it wasn't a family name but 4 the last few months his girlfriend had a name now they completely switched. I do believe it has been done partly 2 hurt me

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SD1978 · 04/12/2018 22:25

Do you still need to be in contact with him? Can you cut out all contact? He sounds spiteful, she sounds vindictive. I'm sorry they are using a baby as a means of getting to you xx

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