So hurt

[user1469965217]

Hi just need opinions please my ex has just had a son and he has called him a identical name to our son who was stillborn. Please someone tell me they also think this is disrespectful

[user1469965217]

I no longer have contact with him. The whole relationship for him meant nothing. I just can't believe he would do this he was often cruel but never would I have thought he would stoop this low x

[sakura06]

That's awful. So sorry for your loss OP. Their actions are very hurtful and grossly insensitive.

[MadameJosephine]

That’s terrible. I’m so sorry OP for your loss and for the way these horrible people are treating you, who would do such a thing?

[Picknickers]

Sending much love to you. You don't need that excuse of a man in your life. I wish you lots of happiness x

[user1469965217]

Thanks all for the kind words I just feel so alone and it's nice to see there are still kind genuine people in this world x

[nocluenoidea]

Gosh that is absolutely awful, and horrifying. Is his new partner aware of the connection? I find it worrying she wanted to name her child the same, and the poor baby will hate it when he is older as well.

[Littlefrog99]

That's appalling OP, I'm so sorry he's putting you through this.

How odd of his GF to want to use the name too. People can be real shits sometimes.

[user1469965217]

It's a really complicated story but she was a rebound when we broke up. We got back together and it was only after a few weeks he told me she was pregnant. I spoke 2 her and she assured me she wouldn't name her son anything like mine, she had a name and he also said the same. Fast forward to time 4 the birth he went back to her told me he was using me all along till she wanted him back. That was hard enough 4 me but then this it's like he wanted to hurt me 1 last time x

[ZebraKid71]

That is truly awful, I am so sorry OP.
I think it is completely out of order and to not even let you know before hand is disgusting.

I dont mean to play devil's advocate but could it be that he is grieving for your lost son and not thinking straight?
As for his girlfriend - I cannot imagine the mentality of someone who would want a name in those circumstances.

You need to cut all ties, and remember your son in your own way. Lots of love to you.

[spiderlight]

That is such a horrible, insensitive thing to do :(

[LipstickTraces]

Insensitive, crass, cruel...I’m shocked at how low some people will stoop.

Thank god he is an ex though. He sounds morally bankrupt!

So sorry for your loss

[GrammerlyH]

I’m so sorry to read this, it must be so upsetting for you OP. I agree with all the comments above about cutting all ties with him and remembering your son in your own way. Sending love and strength.

[MikeUniformMike]

He hasn't done it to hurt you, he's done it because he's an ignorant twat.
You're well rid.

[knittedjest]

Oh, that must hurt a lot and I'm sorry you have had to experience this because it's not fair

but

I highly doubt it was done to hurt you specifically. I doubt, and I don't say this to be cruel, that you and your son were in anyway a consideration in the naming of their baby, good or bad. People only think about themselves in moments like that - she didn't give birth and look at her child and have "how can I use this situation to hurt user?" be the first thing that popped into her head. It was insensitive but I'm sure it wasn't meant to be a direct personal insult to you. It still hurts the same and feels like that but it will do your soul no good to go through life thinking that was the intention behind it.

Them naming their baby this does not diminish your baby in any way. He still existed, he was still just as loved and that is still his name.

[Ipanema01]

Just wanted to say I’m so sorry that someone could be so insensitive and cruel. You are so best off having no contact, try your best to move on from his horrible actions.
Sending love

[user1469965217]

@knittedjest possibly but I spoke to both her and my then partner and they both assured me they would never call him anything remotely near the same and they have. I feel it has taken away from my son and shows he has no respect 4 me, our son or the hurt we went through losing him. I'm goin 2 move on but this is a hurt that will stay with me a long time. X

[ABitOTT]

I'm so sorry for your loss & that your ex's actions are bringing back all that pain.💐

Your weak & feeble ex is playing a manipulative game where he's calling the shots because he knows he can get away with it. He knew that giving his new baby the same name as your son would devastate you. What a pathetic, feeble, devious, crusty white dog sht he is. No use to anyone!

Time for you to rewrite the rules of his game. You take control & this will both protect you & honour your baby boy. Be assertive, brave & utterly brilliant & make rule number one; Deleting that crusty white dog sht & his new partner out of your life. Easier said than done I know, but you can do it.👋🏻💩🖕🏻

Even though son is not physically here, you will always be his mummy. Only you can stop your ex from demeaning your son's existence by not allowing him to hurt you. Actually that's rule number one. Make the second rule booting your ex out of your life because he isn't worthy of you or being the father of your little boy. Sorry for long winded reply, but I've been in a similar situation & I appreciate how hard this must be for you.

[user1469965217]

Thank you it is so hard, I can't understand why he has done this. How did u deal with it?