Husband cousin's named her twins like my children ?!

[Elsafairly]

Hey everyone

Here's my dilemma, my husband's cousin who lives 10 minutes away and who see at least one a week ( She is his only family left) had two gorgeous babies , a boy and a girl she named Ayaan and Issa. The same name I chose for my daughter (5) and son (8 months) I am really sad about it, those names reflect my culture ( I am from Ethiopia, and DH is English). So I feel like two little blonde babies with those name is a bit odd, or at least she could have asked me some advices on culturally similar names. My husband is mad at me, and think I should be flattered. But I am struggling to do so. I have not told her anything, and I will not. But now we gonna have 4 cousins with the same names, who will spend a lot of time together... Do you think I am being unreasonable ?

Very very weird.

Why would anyone copy names from a culture they have nothing to do with?

Hmmm. She sounds quite possessive.

Just very odd especially given the cultural difference!!

If it makes you feel a little better OP my Aunt did this to my DM.

DM was pregnant with me and had told her DSiS what her chosen girls name was. My Aunt was pregnant at the same time and gave birth to her twin girls 4/5 weeks before DM gave birth to me.

My Aunt not only gave one of her twins my name, but gave the other my mums name!!

Very confusing for my family........

That's is a bit weird especially as they are culturally different names. I would have to say something as it would annoy me too much. Even a snide "as I love those names (obviously lol)" on her Facebook post. What a creep x

my brother in law and his wife chose to name their child the exact same name as my child only swapped the first and middle name, think Michael Sean and their sons name is Sean Michael.
we live in the same town and see each other a lot so its damn weird and also his other brother and sis in law wanted my other Dcs middle name as a first name for thier child but when they saw the look on my face they changed their mind , it wouldn't have bothered me had the first thing not happened but there are some very weird people around op, I would ask her straight out about the names.

First of all YABU for talking about those names being from Ethiopian Culture and odd on those with blonde hair and Blue eyes.

They are Arabic/Islamic names and I actually know quite a few eesa's/Issa's and Ayaans' with blonde hair and light eyes. Some are European, others are from Persia etc.
I also know those who have those names that are from various other cultures from South Asian to North African, to the Far East.
In my circle they are popular names. Although I get that is not the same for yours or your in-laws.

YANBU
that they copied your names exactly. That's just weird.

He doesn't want to offend her?!Shes offended your entire family what a fucking weirdo!!!!!!

It is strange that she's chosen the same names, especially strange as you're close and the kids will grow up together. It is flattering that she's picked those names, but I think you've every right to feel a bit disappointed. Especially as those names reflect your culture and not a culture (it sounds) that she grew up with.

YADNBU

If they live very close, is it likely that they will go to school in the same year/class as your son? How weird is that going to be?!

Can you not post a "congratulations on the birth of your twins" on FB "with love from Elsafairly, DH, and the original! Ayaan & Issa. xx"

YABU about the origin of the names. If she wants to give them Ethiopian first names fine. I've met people over the years whose names do not reflect where their parents are from, but are named after someone they met from a foreign country or a culture they were immersed in.

YANBU that she named them after their cousins.

She would have been sensible to ask for a list of Ethiopian names and their meanings, or researched some and checked with you they weren't weird if she wanted a connection with her children's cousins.

Tbh, I would move house to the other end of the country. It sounds like she is weirdly close to your dh and needs to stop obsessing. I don't even know siblings that close.

If she gets her way and gets your dh maybe she is trying to replace you and your children🤔

I think you should say something before it’s official and too late. It’s going to bug you for a long time otherwise.

Ask your husband to push for the names being used as the twins middle names. She might listen to him more than you. To have the same first names is ridiculous especially as you are in the same family and live near each other. It's going to be confusing for the children when they are small and embarrassing as they grow. This would be enough reason for me to create a fuss now before it's too late. Everyone will know she copied you as her kids are younger and people will think how weird it is and what a CF she must be !

Very, very odd. She sounds weird

what minisoksmakehardwork said. Looks like she liked your husband but couldn't get him. Now she is trying to build a life similar to his. She is a plain weirdo stalker who doesn't know when to give up. She wont be good for your relationship

Weird...

That's strange. One name? Not too weird.

Both? Incredibly weird.

They are off their rocker to use your exact names! You'll have to make some sort of comment, it's too crazy not to ever mention.

It's so weird that I'd avoid her from now on. Who does that. It sounds like an unhealthy obsession tbh.