Husband cousin's named her twins like my children ?!

[Elsafairly]

Hey everyone

Here's my dilemma, my husband's cousin who lives 10 minutes away and who see at least one a week ( She is his only family left) had two gorgeous babies , a boy and a girl she named Ayaan and Issa. The same name I chose for my daughter (5) and son (8 months) I am really sad about it, those names reflect my culture ( I am from Ethiopia, and DH is English). So I feel like two little blonde babies with those name is a bit odd, or at least she could have asked me some advices on culturally similar names. My husband is mad at me, and think I should be flattered. But I am struggling to do so. I have not told her anything, and I will not. But now we gonna have 4 cousins with the same names, who will spend a lot of time together... Do you think I am being unreasonable ?

It's SO weird that I'd be worried about her. Just not rational behaviour.

Sounds like she really wants your husband, or thinks she owns him and is being deliberately odd to piss you off and try to create tension and distance between you and him.

He needs to wake up and work out what is going on here and that it is not normal or healthy.

Doubly weird as she doesn’t like you!

You will have to acknowledge the names are familiar😊😁. If you don’t everyone else will, especially your children! WIll cause no end of confusion over the years, particularly if this combination of names is unusual in the area! At least your girls are noticeably older. Everyone will know you are the original!

She must be a total VACUUM
Who would do this?

What, she borrows YOUR shoes and clothes? 😮
She’s a bunny boiling bitch who’s got a thing for her own cousin, either she fully wants him, or she feels she owns him.
Absolute fucking weirdo

This is bizarre!

Jesus I'd be having it out with her, that's so weird!

That's really weird and I'd be fuming too OP. Everyone who knows you both will think she's crazy though

Sounds like she's either infatuated with either you or your husband

When a colleague of my dm's became a dgm her dd called them mine and my dd's names and declared it a coincidence. I have never met anyone with my name. And my dd has a non regular spelling of hers.
Bizarre.

Didn't bother me because I neither see her or know her so very less peculiar than your situation.

Yeah, weird. What do the rest of the family think?

Oh that would annoy me big time

Bonkers. She sounds really odd. Your DH isn't sounding fab either!

"My husband thinks it's cute and shows how much she loves us, and wants our children to have a special bond forever."

Your husband is wrong ... it will further break down any bond between the two families ... not strengthen it.

"As many of you suggested it, I will not say anything"

I would say something, but maybe not what she might expect . Try ...

"I cannot believe you have done this, it feels like you're some kind of stalker! So I've decided it would be better if we didn't see much of you for a while. Ten years should do it!"

... that might do the trick.

That's weird, and I don't why your husband is mad at you, you have a right to be put out by this mad woman!

Photo or it didn't happen. Weird.

Decide you want to have the same name as her and insist DH calls you by that name.
Careful though cause she may start to use your name too!

How strange, not to mention highly suspicious.

I’d be asking your DH if the twins are his simce he doesn’t think it’s strange.

The OP hasn't said but the names are also popular in christian and Muslim Arabs and as an off shoot Hindu.

Or she may have copied the OP.

If she had used them as middle names, it could perhaps be seen as a tribute to your family just like using a grandparent's name as a memory of them. Next time she wants to borrow stuff I'd say, 'You copied my children's names, now you want my clothes, do you want my husband too?'
I think you need to have a good heart to heart with your husband and say how uncomfortable you are about her. If he continues to invite her round so much then find someone he dislikes and repeat the same behaviour.

Really ? That's weird and I'd be upset too!

She’s a freak. Yanbu.