Husband cousin's named her twins like my children ?!

[Elsafairly]

Hey everyone

Here's my dilemma, my husband's cousin who lives 10 minutes away and who see at least one a week ( She is his only family left) had two gorgeous babies , a boy and a girl she named Ayaan and Issa. The same name I chose for my daughter (5) and son (8 months) I am really sad about it, those names reflect my culture ( I am from Ethiopia, and DH is English). So I feel like two little blonde babies with those name is a bit odd, or at least she could have asked me some advices on culturally similar names. My husband is mad at me, and think I should be flattered. But I am struggling to do so. I have not told her anything, and I will not. But now we gonna have 4 cousins with the same names, who will spend a lot of time together... Do you think I am being unreasonable ?

I'd have to comment on the Facebook post, something like 'how iconic, they're your nices and nephews names!!" With a smiley on the end.. so you don't look like you're being a twat for your DH although you very much should be

Just so everyone knew how much of a loon she is.

That is very weird OP.

He thinks she is showing how much she admires us, and wants our children to be close. He's to me ' They're just names, what's the big deal ? There are thousands of them in Africa. She is paying a tribute to me and my kids'

She maybe thinks it is a compliment.
It is weird though.No good can come now of mentioning it- sounds lijke a done deal.

btw I hope you have, for the purposes of this thread, changed names as otherwise it is a gross infringment of your cousin's family's privacy

It is a bit odd, but I have to say those are absolutely beautiful names, so I can see why she might be tempted!

this is too weird.. does she really lack such a simple imagination

That is bizarre

Why do people do this?

Bad enough to pick the same as someone else but to pick something from another culture you're not involved in is just weird

Wow. I’m just....well, wow. I’m speechless. I’m so sorry OP, this is such a HIDEOUS disrespect. And your husband sounds like a complete ass over it all.

She sounds like a jealous, creepy weirdo. I’d be keeping my babies WELL off limits...

Weird on so many levels- the copying and the use of Ethiopian names with no connection.
I used to teach a Nigerian girl whose name was beautiful and I loved it but when it came to naming my daughter it felt wrong as I have no Nigerian background- so I didn't use it.
I would be hugely annoyed and also lose all respect for her- also strange your husband isn't pissed off.

Now that's not on, and I'd be mad at dh for not saying anything. I'd ask her direct on Facebook why she's named them the same as yours.

That is beyond weird. I'd be so cross that I wouldn't want to mix with her.

I wonder if she has a 'thing' for your dh. Legally cousins can marry. But there are still issues with genetics if they have children.

It's just a bit too close for comfort that her dh shares her cousin's name, now her kids do. Have you noticed anything else she has copied about your lifestyle?

And dh doesn't mind and doesn't support you when you get mad because she's always at yours?

Does your dh respect you and your opinions op? It sounds a strange dynamic.

Another here that thinks it's really a strange thing. Goady really.

Those ethiopian names are not the actual names, but it is in the same style. And even if I did use the real names, I would not mind her finding out what I think.

That's bonkers!

I'd say something on FB too but then I'm rather direct and would rather talk about something than silently seethe and be passive aggressive. Given you see them once a week I think you will find it hard if you don't say anything.

It's such a barking thing to do. I know no one owns a name but for it to be names from an inlaw's own culture, and your kids will be hanging out together regularly I just don't get why you would.

I have friends and relatives who have pipped me to the post in terms of choosing names I love, and even in that scenario I'd not use the same name (and I'm talking very normal English names that there will be more than one of, I'd just rather my kids were not one of 2 with the same name in their small social circle of friends and family).

I’d be asking her if she wanted it to look like she had babies with your DH

She is at least 2 evenings per week in my kitchen drinking with DH. I never noticed anything else, apart from that she likes to borrow shoes/bags/clothes.

I really wouldn't put anything on FB - though tempting! You don't need to prove a point. As posts here substantiate, noone in their right mind would think this anything other than bizarre...
... Except your husband

Ha cross posted and read that she married someone with same name as your husband and talks about their "special bond". Barf. She sounds bloody weird! Bit too single white female for me.

That's so strange to pick the same names. Maybe if you pick one because u really like it is flattering but both! And cousins! So strange

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery-maybe she loves the names and wanted to copy
BUT
She talks for hours and hours and if you get mad she says to your husband “she’s jealous of our special bond”- how special is their bond? Is she wishing your husband was hers? Your family was hers? - odd

Our family share a middle name with children taken from their grandfathers name.....would be odd if we all called them the same names

I think you should ask her about it's such a strange thing to do!

I too would have to call her and tell her how uncomfortable you are, it is weird and strange and it will have a detrimental effect on your relationship for sure

So weird!!

You have to tell us what happens when you meet her! What a nutter

Weird thing to do but I’d forget about it as it’s her that looks quite the stalking weirdo. Can you imagine people saying to her oh that’s a nice name, where does it come from? She says Ethiopia. They say oh are you or your h Ethiopian? And she says, no I just copied the names of my cousins kids as his wife is Ethiopian. Person receiving info