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Email from friend about my baby's name

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toolonglurking · 27/03/2018 18:53

I've just had DD, she is a whole 5 days old and we thought we'd picked a good name, but I've just received an email from a family friend saying that it's a terrible name.
Please tell me straight, is Ophelia Elizabeth Cole a horrible name?

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niknac1 · 27/03/2018 19:59

I really like your choice of names , they go well with your surname, congratulations it is difficult to choose but your choice sounds right to me.

KellyMarieTunstall2 · 27/03/2018 20:00

I have an Ophelia. I love her name and so does she.
How very rude of your friend.

Lawrence91 · 27/03/2018 20:00

I like it and I think it was quite rude and a bit odd for them to email you about it!

Who cares what other people think as long as you like it that's all that matters, it is a lovely name!!!

Not everyone is going to love it, but that can be said about all names!

YaBasic · 27/03/2018 20:00

But to be more useful, if this is real, and is truly upsetting you, then double barrel it: Ophelia-Rose maybe awaits the weirdos claiming your rose is your vagina in a Friends Monica-stylee

Dvg · 27/03/2018 20:00

I actually really like that name, there will always be name haters.. just carry on with what you like xx

bimbobaggins · 27/03/2018 20:01

I don’t like the name but wouldn’t dream of contacting a friend to tell them that.how rude. I hope you replied telling her where to go.

Snorkpod · 27/03/2018 20:02

Your friend is rude. If she felt it had to be said (in some cases, it is necessary to tell a parent to rethink a name) she should have sat you down and explained why. Sending an email is cowardly.

I can't see an issue with the name. OK you might stretch it to "I feel your hole" or something but tbh you can make any name seem rude if you try hard enough. Have you said the name in the strongest accent of your area as somethings things can sound different in different accents. I knew a Morgan but her name ended up being pronounced Meeergun by everyone which drove her parents made and made them regret the choice.

NotACleverName · 27/03/2018 20:03

It sounds nothing like "I feel ya hole", what are some of you on?

diddl · 27/03/2018 20:03

I'm sure if kids want to be rude then the first name will be enough with the "feelya"sound in it.

I still think it's a lovely name though & would use it if I wanted to.

NWQM · 27/03/2018 20:03

Ignore here - even rise above her rudeness. If you like it nothing else matters it's lot - it's not like anyone has pointed out that you've made bad choices in terms of how the initials spell out or anything. Enjoy this lovely time with baby.

PuppyMonkey · 27/03/2018 20:03

It doesn’t work at all as a comedy name unless “coal” or “cold” can somehow be deemed rude words. And they aren’t. Cole and hole is stretching the wordplay too far.

Eveforever · 27/03/2018 20:06

Ophelia is a beautiful name. I know the character from the play had a tragic end, but I don't think that should bother you, it's not like your calling her Hitler or something. Do you think the friend is joking? How old is she?

I'd email back saying you think it's a beautiful name, hence why you picked it. I'd consider telling her she sent you a terrible email, but that would depend on the dynamics, how close you are and all that. Some people have boundary issues.

Unktious · 27/03/2018 20:08

Nice name, awful friend.

If I really tried I might come up with Awfully Cold but I could get the other suggestions made by other posters. 🤷🏻‍♀️

RidingWindhorses · 27/03/2018 20:08

Ophelia Cole runs really well.

EleanorXx · 27/03/2018 20:08

Your ‘friend’ was very rude to email you. But honestly, Ophelia Cole sounds a little messy out loud and a bit like I feel ya hole in some accents.

sparklefarts · 27/03/2018 20:09

I really like it.

Previous posters are really stretching it to say it sounds rude.

And your friend is a dickhead.

diddl · 27/03/2018 20:12

Showing my age here, but I always think of

(The Band, Ophelia.)

Ohyesiam · 27/03/2018 20:12

A friend? Not for long i hope.
Beautiful name, congratulations.

Blit · 27/03/2018 20:12

AnnieAnoniMouser You are obviously unaware that Harris is slang for arse.

It's a minefield.

pileoflaundry · 27/03/2018 20:13

After DD was born, FIL and MIL sent pages and pages of A4 hand-written letters complaining about DD's name. DD was ill at the time, and DH and I were beside ourselves with worry and lack of sleep, without them adding to the stress. It still hurts, years later.

It would be an ex-friend for me.

Springsnake · 27/03/2018 20:15

What a beautiful name,nasty friend

PuppyMonkey · 27/03/2018 20:16

Baffled about exactly which accents would pronounce Cole as “hole” Confused

VeronicaLodge · 27/03/2018 20:16

What a weird email to receive! Was there anything beyond 'the name is awful? Any reasoning as to why they think it's awful? If your surname was Cox, for example, I could see the need for a gentle intervention bit not with Cole.

ifIwasinvisiblewaitIalreadyam · 27/03/2018 20:18

It's a beautiful name. Tell her to mind her business. My side of the family hated my eldests name (Lincoln) when I said what it was. Right up until I had him I still had "so you still stuck on that name then?" and I said I love the name and it's mine and my partners choice. And now all of them that hated it say they can't see him as any other name and love it. Stick with it and tell her to get lost. X

IWouldLikeToKnow · 27/03/2018 20:19

It's a beautiful name. Studied Hamlet in school and always liked the name. Maybe it's different accents and pronunciations but I can't see anything rude/funny about Ophelia Cole. Even when it's spelled out in PPs, I still don't see it