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Baby name 'regret' - 6 months old

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CyrilSneer30 · 01/07/2017 23:00

Hi all,

I have a gorgeous 6 month old called Caspar Felix. During the entire pregnancy he was going to be named Felix Caspar, but as he arrived on Christmas Day we decided to swap the names. Ever since, I've been unsure on his name - I hate the looks and the 'that's...unusual!' comments I get whenever I introduce him, and I wish so much I'd stuck with what I wanted when he was born and called him Felix. Honestly, I think I'm holding a massive grudge against DH for forcing me to decide on his name when I was clearly not in a state to do so (EMCS) and also felt a bit railroaded as I was aware that quite a few members of my family disliked the name Felix. Thinking back to the few days post birth I was in such a daze, I just went along with what other people wanted.

I do like the name Caspar, and think if I already had a Felix I would be happy to use it for another son IYSWIM? I'm just worried I'm becoming a bit obsessive about it. DH won't even entertain changing his name now. I guess I just wanted to ask - which do you all prefer? I'm not sure whether I want to keep making a fuss to make DH consider changing it, asby 6 months I feel that it is now his name and not mine to change.

Huge apologies for the rambling post, I just feel a bit dismissed every time I mention this to anyone IRL but to me it's important and I think about it most days. Help!

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krustykittens · 01/07/2017 23:03

I think Caspar is nice, Cas for short is nice too. Do you introduce him as Caspar Felix? Why not just say his name is Caspar? You like the name, so I wouldn't let it bother you too much. x

C0untDucku1a · 01/07/2017 23:03

I prefer casper. One of the three wise men and a clear christmas name.

Felix is a cat's name to me.

You made the right choice.

TrickyKid · 01/07/2017 23:03

It's a lovely name. Where do you live? Caspar isn't usually thought of as an unusual name.

Welldoneme · 01/07/2017 23:04

Sorry but I think it sounds terrible.

Felix is nice enough but Casper?

JenTeale · 01/07/2017 23:04

They are both gorgeous names in my view, and I do like the Christmassy feel of Caspar. But he's young enough to change your mind if you prefer Felix.

In your position I'd keep the name and cross fingers for a second son on whom you can bestow Felix!

JenTeale · 01/07/2017 23:05

They are both gorgeous names in my view, and I do like the Christmassy feel of Caspar. But he's young enough to change your mind if you prefer Felix.

In your position I'd keep the name and cross fingers for a second son on whom you can bestow Felix!

MyCalmX · 01/07/2017 23:05

It took me about 2 years to like dd1 name and I named her! I just kept thinking why did I call her that, it was only briefly discussed with dh a few days before she was born but we had 2 other names we were going to choose from and when she was born he said what will we call her and I confidently said XX

I absolutely love it now because the name = dd1 who I adore.

BTW I really like Caspar as a name.

CocoLoco87 · 01/07/2017 23:06

If it's consuming you so much then you need to have a serious chat with DH about it. Would he agree to a trial run where you call the baby Felix for a month before going through changing it officially? You might find that actually you're happy with Caspar. FWIW I prefer Felix

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CyrilSneer30 · 01/07/2017 23:06

Thank you for your replies! No, I just introduce him as Caspar. We live in Wiltshire, haven't come across any others.

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Mottled · 01/07/2017 23:06

I prefer Casper, I wouldn't officially change it but you could call him Felix if you wish, everyone of my dads generations seems to be known by a middle name.

34AQuid · 01/07/2017 23:06

Caspar is lovely! Cas is such a cool name for a man, too.

Zjmlove · 01/07/2017 23:06

I wouldn't introduce him as Casper felix. Drop the felix and just use Casper. I'd rather Casper to felix to be honest x

Justhadmyhaircut · 01/07/2017 23:07

Caspar is lovely!!
Could it be that thinking back to deciding his name is giving you bad flash backs of the emcs?
I had one too and looking at baby pics make me feel anxious as ds was prem and it was an anxious time.

firawla · 01/07/2017 23:08

I like it! Caspar is lovely. I'd probably try to stick with it, as it's been a while now but a swap to using middle name rather than first if you really feel better with it, is not a big deal? You'd not have to change the birth certificate?

scrivette · 01/07/2017 23:08

I think it's a lovely name, particularly as he is a Christmas baby.

DramaAlpaca · 01/07/2017 23:08

Caspar is much nicer than Felix. You made the right choice, don't change it.

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CyrilSneer30 · 01/07/2017 23:09

welldoneme that's exactly the reaction that is upsetting me. I worry that it means he'll get the brunt of it when he goes to school etc.

DH just says I can call him Felix without officially changing it, but I think that's too confusing for him in the long run!

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Wolfiefan · 01/07/2017 23:09

I like Caspar too. Felix makes me think of the at food!

numbmum83 · 01/07/2017 23:12

Everytime I've read Felix I just keep imagining the advert for cat food.

I prefer Casper.

Just call him a "Known by" name if you don't like his real name .

JJ36TDR5 · 01/07/2017 23:19

I love Caspar but OH won't even entertain it
I do like the name Felix but it does make me think of the cat food.
Like both names but prefer Caspar to Felix

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 01/07/2017 23:21

I also prefer Casper.

Gremlinothefirst · 01/07/2017 23:21

Plenty of people are known by their middle names, it's not a big deal. I have lots of friends and family members who do that and they aren't confused - it's fine. So you could call him Felix if you like without having to make the big decision to change the BC. I agree with previous poster who suggested just trialling calling him Felix at home for a while to see how you feel about it, and then you can always transition into calling him Felix more permanently if you like. He's only 6 months so won't remember a name change. I like Caspar and Felix equally, but it's nothing to do with others' opinions really it's what you and your DH like. And then your DS can always choose his favourite when he's older too. As an aside, sorry you had a tricky birth - I do know friends who have been traumatised by the birth and have found themselves stressing about something like names that are linked to the scary time. Maybe consider counselling if you're really stressed out/have horrible memories of it xx

krakentoast · 01/07/2017 23:31

People who are rude about your baby's name to your face can fuck right off, for a start.

I have a normal boring well-known name and still occasionally got teased about it at school, so I think you can't guarantee avoidance of teasing one way or another.

They are both lovely names OP. Lots of people are known by their middle name so it wouldn't be too confusing really to call him Felix now if that's what you really want.

ZuzuMyLittleGingersnap · 01/07/2017 23:33

OP,

Caspar's a great name...there are two local to me, ages 2 and 5ish yrs (Central/ Southern).
And that's within a fairly small town.

Have never heard anyone (in RL) comment negatively at all about the name, nor consider it to be particularly 'unusual'.
Cas(s) is cool as a NN, too.

Sophronia · 02/07/2017 00:01

Caspar is lovely, and much nicer than Felix (cat food!)

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