Baby name 'regret' - 6 months old

[CyrilSneer30]

Hi all,

I have a gorgeous 6 month old called Caspar Felix. During the entire pregnancy he was going to be named Felix Caspar, but as he arrived on Christmas Day we decided to swap the names. Ever since, I've been unsure on his name - I hate the looks and the 'that's...unusual!' comments I get whenever I introduce him, and I wish so much I'd stuck with what I wanted when he was born and called him Felix. Honestly, I think I'm holding a massive grudge against DH for forcing me to decide on his name when I was clearly not in a state to do so (EMCS) and also felt a bit railroaded as I was aware that quite a few members of my family disliked the name Felix. Thinking back to the few days post birth I was in such a daze, I just went along with what other people wanted.

I do like the name Caspar, and think if I already had a Felix I would be happy to use it for another son IYSWIM? I'm just worried I'm becoming a bit obsessive about it. DH won't even entertain changing his name now. I guess I just wanted to ask - which do you all prefer? I'm not sure whether I want to keep making a fuss to make DH consider changing it, asby 6 months I feel that it is now his name and not mine to change.

Huge apologies for the rambling post, I just feel a bit dismissed every time I mention this to anyone IRL but to me it's important and I think about it most days. Help!

It's not an unusual name around here. I know several (some are Kacper) but only one Felix. Both are lovely names, but I think I prefer Caspar. It definitely suits an adult more than Felix IMO.

I know one Caspar and I thought Oooh I like that when I first heard it. Felix is OK too but of the two I prefer Caspar. Bet he'll suit the name.

some are Kacper

That's kack-per

Aww I was thinking of naming my boy due in November Caspar Felix or Felix Caspar! :)

I knew from early on Felix was the only boys name I really loved and luckily OH agreed. So he will be Felix Beau.

Anyway... Actually posted to say that it's perfectly reasonable to use middle names as a first/known as name. For some reason it's common in the male side of my family; brother, dad and grandad all have the same first name but all go by their middle names, which are different. Very normal, although people will ask for the first name on the phone etc, but to me it's very similar to a woman using her maiden name at work and married name in personal life - I. e. not a big deal.

I think the main problem is your DH, that is a twattish thing to do

*some are Kacper

That's kack-per*

No, it's Polish...

Caspar is lovely. I'm in London and come across quite a few. I've never heard one be bullied for the name and I would never find it even slightly a surprising name. It's just a nice, straightforward, cool sounding name with plenty of history. I'd stick with it! Enjoy him and hope you feel better about it x

I was attempting to be funny

Caspar is quite nice but I can see why people think it unusual. Cas is really cool. Why not just start calling him Cas for short. In any case I think names grow on people. I prefer Caspar to Felix and really like Cas.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 well it really didn't work, did it?

Oh it did, I found it hilarious 😂

I love the name Felix... My ds is Felix and the name suits him perfectly. BUT I also love the name Caspar and think it's particularly lovely for a Christmas baby.

Is it really about the name (both are lovely) or is it more to do with the fact that you felt railroaded by your DH when you were feeling vulnerable?

Trust your own instincts and if you change it don't worry what people think. It'll be a two week wonder then it'll pass. Good luck with whatever you decide.