Really upset - Mum and MIL are having a go at us.

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I feel like just changing her middle name completely.

It took 7 years to become pregnant, so we probably won't try for another.

We thought it would be nice to honour both grandmothers, but only wanted her to have 1 middle name.

My mum is Julia, my MIL is Ariana.

We chose Juliana for her middle name...

We were so excited to tell everyone the name, thinking they'd be so excited. No, all we get is "you should have given her 2 middle names" "you've now used neither of our names" and obviously many more.

I'm just so upset.

......and this is why you shouldn't discuss baby names with anyone other than your partner.

Both names sound lovely OP.

I didn't discuss! I announced her name

Thanks everyone!

I think your mix of the two grandmothers names was lovely, it is a nice name in its own right but with the added connection made it even better, they, however, are being utterly pathetic.

Both combinations with the middle name sound good, I'd be sorely tempted to go for Katherine Olivia now though as I don't think their behaviour makes them deserving of having your dd named after them. I'm with you on the only one middle name as well and Julia Ariana as separate middle names doesn't work and no doubt they would have been miffed by where their names came in the running order (it doesn't work as Ariana Julia either!).

Congratulations and choose whichever name makes you and your dh happy.

The grandmas are being very silly. Juliana is a perfect blend of both names, and is a beautiful name. I know a Roderick named in a similar way after his grandads Rodney and Frederick. Unfortunately Roderick is not such a nice name as Juliana.

Congratulations on your new daughter.

Which did you go for?

What a pit olive instead of Olivia

Tell them to fuck off. It's an absolutely lovely name- it's really clever what you've done. If they don't like it tell them she's not getting a middle name now (do it secretly)

OP whatever you do please initially pretend you are going with Melania as a pp suggested

How very ungreatful. You did the right thing. Don't adjust your behaviour. They need to adjust theirs. Leave her beautiful middle name as is.

They're spoilt brats. They clearly only want their name. Go with what makes you happiest, if you really like your original choice then stick with it but if you love your second and knowvyour Dad would be honoured then go for that.

I gave my daughter a middle name which is a variation of my mum and my Nanna's name, my mum was thrilled even though on paper it's not immediately obvious and I bet none of our wider family even realise the link

Tell then you are going with Juliariana. (Not really.)

Twats! I'd go for Katherine Olivia

You would just have to be careful about Katherine Olivia if your surname begins with W. Or maybe R and O.

I'd change her name. Olivia should be the new middle name. What a pair of moaning minnies.

Did you name her Katherine Olivia OP ?

Oh what silly childish women they are....

I think it's a lovely middle name. But I think you should change it to Olivia in recognition of your supportive Dad. Fuck them both.....

Your solution was a great one and the name lovely. Your relatives are behaving very childishly and anyway it's not up to them to choose names. What is your father's name, is there a feminine version. I would say as they are so offended by your choice you have decided to abandon that idea and call her after your father who liked the idea.

They can fuck off. What a nice idea, to honour both. Although those kind of self-centred comments would make me want to find another name... it is a very lovely name though!

I think Katherine Olivia flows better but I prefer Juliana to Olivia and I think you may regret not going for it eventually

Out of interest, do you pronounce is Julie-Anna or Julie-arna? I'm actually a bit in love with it now

I'm really sorry that your plan didn't work out OP. You had a lovely thought and hoped it would be appreciated. I'm afraid I can also see the point of view of the grandmothers, especially Ariana. They should have been a lot more gracious though, and respected your intentions.

Katherine Olivia works very well. Juliana is lovely too.

DD1 has a Danish mn. (The name of the Danish queen) My name book (In Danish) said it was the English equivilent of MILS MN.. It was also my paternal grandmothers MN. Dh and I loved the idea of having 1 name that tied our 2 families (pretty hard when you have a Danish and English culture to merge) Named her and explained to all why she was named such.

FFW 5 years I am expecting dd3.. MIL suggests her name. (A name I dont like but didnt say this) I respond " no you already have a Grandaughter named after you " She goes " well No its not my name so I cant see that"

I responded " well the thought was there so thats all I care about"

(This is one of only 2 times I have ever disagreed with my MIL so not mil bashing she is generally lovely)

SO OP. Next time they say anything tell them " the thought was there to honour you both. If you dont see that this is your problem not ours"

As really that is what it is. Their problem not yours and dh's You did it for the right reasons (and also Juliana is a wonderful name)

Which did you go for in the end OP?

I would have chosen Olivia for your dad. How hurtful they're being!

Wow, have they got some sort of expectation that their names would be her middle name?!? How rude. I'd completely choose another name now

Don't know what you've decided on but I think Katherine Juliana is just the most beautiful name. Regardless of her grandmothers childish responses you have put a lot of thought into her name and come up with something that is both family related but also unique to her. Congratulations on your baby and I hope you are able to rise above (but not forget ) this horrible debacle and enjoy your baby

My 'vote' is also Katherine Olivia - can imagine your dad will be chuffed, and your mum/mil aren't impressed with Juliana anyway. So long as your surname doesn't start with an 'i' or something!

BTW I love the spelling, 'Katharine'. My DS would have been 'Eve Katharine' if he had been a she!