Really upset - Mum and MIL are having a go at us.

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I feel like just changing her middle name completely.

It took 7 years to become pregnant, so we probably won't try for another.

We thought it would be nice to honour both grandmothers, but only wanted her to have 1 middle name.

My mum is Julia, my MIL is Ariana.

We chose Juliana for her middle name...

We were so excited to tell everyone the name, thinking they'd be so excited. No, all we get is "you should have given her 2 middle names" "you've now used neither of our names" and obviously many more.

I'm just so upset.

• Katherine Olivia sorry! Not "Latherine"

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I think Julianna is lovely and both grandmothers are being rude to express any opinion about the name you've chosen. I'd go with Olivia, which is equally as lovely and your Dad will appreciate it far more than either your Mum/MIL. I personally think Olivia works better with Katherine as well. Or you could go with Olive which is less popular at present.

Sorry but I'd have to tell them to nit be such entitled drama lamas.

Katherine Olivia is lovely, depending on what initials it would make? Congratulations on your baby and her lovely names, whatever you decide.

However I think it is silly to expect your MIL to be bowled over by the name. Accepting, yes. Pleased, no.

^^

But how many mils get mentioned in their gc names at all ?
The way you have written this almost implies that every baby has to be named after their mil/gc and now this couple have not done this.

Its an honour whether its the precise name or not. No one bar the parents will ever think the middle name is anything to do with grandparents

I too like Olivia and best to go fresh after the bad blood over the other name.

Katherine Olivia is very classy. Katherine Juliana is lovely too.

But why not sleep on it for a few days, while refusing to discuss it with anyone other than your DH (and MN). Emotions will cool down and the grans might apologise for being so snarky.

OP, they are both being unreasonable. They're both putting pressure on you which they have no right to. But maybe you are misinterpreting their words a little? Only you and DH know if they're honestly being nasty. I find it incredible that two grown women could react with nastiness to this issue. Disappointment and sulkiness I can see, but they'd both have to be particularly strange to actually be nasty. I'm not disbelieving you, but I'm saying that maybe you could give it a bit of time and space to let tempers and emotions cool.

Katherine olivia flows better. Both loverly names.
Congratulations

We are not telling anyone the name until bubba is born. Because people are ridiculous. You did such a lovely thing even thinking about them. Enjoy your baby OP and use the name you 2 want

But the thing is, if you go with Katherine Olivia, it will always be the name you chose because your mum and mil were immature and ungrateful. It will be commemorating their idiocy.
If you stay with Katherine Juliana, they may in time appreciate it, and you have stood your ground.

So, at the end of the day, go with the combination you like BEST, not to honour this or that person. Even if that turns out to be Katherine Cora, or Katherine Amaryllis.

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Op, were YOU named after your grandma? Or did your parents get to chose freely without pressure from their parents?

Katherine Olivia sounds lovely! I wouldn't go with Juliana after what they've said as it might always be a bone of contention!
Just so long as your surname doesn't start with a C or a K

Katherine Olivia is beautiful.
I don't think for one minute that you'll regret it.

I think it's a lovely combination of their names and they are being really rude and should apologise to you. Seriously, who upsets a new mother over something so petty?! You are not under any obligation to use either of their names! The name is completely up to you and your DH. Katherine Olivia is nice too.

Congratulations and they can bollocks off. 😀

How ungracious of them.
Both Olivia & Juliana are lovely names and go equally as well.
Congratulations.

PS I am shocked at you DM & DMIL.....

Katherine Olivia is much nicer imo.

I don't dislike Juliana, but I just wouldn't be considering using their names in any context at all now.

I like both Katherine Juliana/ Olivia. I think Juliana is a beautiful name and unusual too. I would stick with it if you love it.

My grandmothers were Marian and Maria and I have Marie as a middle name to honour them.

Dd has a version of dm's name as her first name and mil's middle name to honour her grandmothers but only because we love both names and they sound lovely together. (IMO )

Your solution is perfect. My middle name is the same, a combination of both my grandmothers names. I feel very honoured to have it.

I think your mum and MIL are behaving appallingly, and however beautiful Juliana is, I'd be tempted to go with Katherine Olivia in honor of your father instead.

As others have said, if you had used both names separately, whoever's name was second would be complaining about that.

Ignore, ignore and then ignore some more. Your Mum and MIL are being completely silly about this. If you feel like using a completely different middle name, then do, and then they'll have something else to moan about. I think Juliana is lovely, and a great way to honour both the grandmothers, but if they are going to give you a hard time about it, stuff them and pick something different (or don't - just do what YOU want to do).
Dear oh dear, are they being really overbearing about everything else too?

Congratulations and so lovely to hear a positive a baby story, seven years that is such a long time so happy for you :) so many sad times for me and my DP with trying to make a baby so this gives me some hope :)

So sorry the grandmothers are being so ridiculous it's a lovely nod to both of them they are being incredibly selfish to make such a fuss. Get two pet rocks and name them after them that will teach them and pick a different middle name or choose not to have one at all :)

Congratulations again!