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Parents hate baby name (Susie)

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13umpuu · 18/12/2015 04:17

After a week of um/ah OH and I finally decided to call DD2 Susie Florence.

On telling my folks my dad asked - where did that come from?!? Is it your final decision? My mum said straight out she doesn't like it and that she'll call the baby Flo (I only picked Florence after her constant pestering! I actually prefer Mia or Rose as a middle name)...

Anyway they both want me to change my mind and I'm really upset. Is it such an awful name?!? And what should I do now - OH is v annoyed at the thought of changing it, he loves it and thinks they're being mean to me! And we've found it hard to agree. Alice has been a contender and I know my parents would prefer it but I couldn't get the 'who the is Alice' song out of my head!

Am up feeding not just fretting, but this is really on my mind - any advice?!?

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Champagneformyrealfriends · 20/12/2015 21:40

I love Susie! I'm biased though - I'm a Suzi Grin

KERALA1 · 20/12/2015 23:38

My parents misheard dh on the phone and thought their first pfb granddaughter was called Harrison. Was funny watching them manfully pretending they liked it before we all realised the mix up! (Name is nothing like that a very recognisable quite but not mega popular girls name)

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13umpuu · 21/12/2015 00:02

So glad I'm not the only person who likes the name Susie - thanks for replying. And thx for the Susie book recommendation!

I can completely imagine living the scenarios Homebird8 and NannyPhlegm describe - thanks for the helpful warning!

And sunshine, cinnamon, I think you're spot on with your thoughts on control and apologies - they really ring true... Time to stand firm!

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finetonive · 21/12/2015 00:21

Susie is pretty and Susanna is really gorgeous.

Flo I'm not so sure about. It sounds a bit plain.
It makes,me think of Andy Capps wife.

Homebird8 · 21/12/2015 02:43

I'm glad you found support here umpuu. You can feel good about standing firm for your daughter. I'd love to hear what you finally choose for her.

TheDowagerCuntess · 21/12/2015 05:00

Please don't let your DM steamroll you - she is being breath-takingly rude. Who behaves like that?!

And Sue is absolutely not a given nickname. My BF is a Susan and she is always either called Susan, or Suze.

NorthernLurker · 21/12/2015 08:39

I know perfectly well that my mil wouldn't have chosen my dds names (all Shakespearean) because she likes very plain names. However she has never said that, never expressed any wish that they be anything else and she has actively said how much they suit them. Because my mil is a grown up and knows it wasn't about her. If your mum isn't behaving like a grown up Op, ignore her and name your baby as you wish. We have a Susannah in the family, shortened to Susie and it's a great name.

MrsUnderwood · 21/12/2015 13:31

Susie is a brilliant name, stick to your guns. If my MIL or
Mum had pulled this shit with me just after I'd had a baby I'd go nuts at them, it's so rude.

Lweji · 21/12/2015 13:39

Personally, I'd go with Susan as given name and call her Susie day to day. Only because Susie is a bit of a babyish name and she might want a more adult and serious name later in life.
(think PM Susie, or Professor Susie Grin)

But... your mother has no place pressuring you to name your child in anyway, and I'd certainly use Mia or Rose as middle names just to ensure she gets that message.

Mince314 · 21/12/2015 13:46

Not the point, but I love Susie and find Florence a bit ok.

Mince314 · 21/12/2015 13:48

Lweji, I agree, at some point all of the rosie, Daisy, Maise name-bearers are going to feel they have dated names and it'd be so nice to have the option of going back to Susan, even if she's in her forties then.

Lizziedripping1 · 21/12/2015 20:18

My mum wanted to call me Helena but both sets of grand parents said they didn't like it only because they had very set ideas on what each one wanted. In the end mum compromised and they went with another very common boring name of the time.

My mum says now she bitterly regrets not sticking to her guns and I have always hated the name so much I don't use it.

PLEASE stay firm and chose the name you want. It's your child. Plus Susie is lovely and I might add a bit of a rarity now and will stand out in the sea of Eva's and Isabella's

Sunshineandwaves · 22/12/2015 09:48

I love the name Susie. Don't change it, it's gorgeous!

diddl · 22/12/2015 10:47

I prefer Susannah, but no, Susie isn't awful.

I think that you should change your mind, though, and tell her that it is now

Susie Mia

Or Susie Rose.

Whichever you prefer!

badtime · 22/12/2015 23:48

I don't like Susie because I dislike nickname names - Susannah is actually one of my favourite names. However, it is not my businessand it is not your parents'.

I think you should go back to your parents and say that you thought about what they said and changed the name.

To Susie Rose.

Blu · 22/12/2015 23:57

There should be a leaflet which is given out to all pg women at the booking in appointment which says 'vital advice. 1. Do not tell any relative or friend your planned name until after the birth. And then announce it as a done deal, not a subject for discussion '

Congratulations on your pregnancy, OP, it's your baby, your decision.

Blu · 22/12/2015 23:59

Oh, sorry, OP, I see your baby is born! Even more congratulations, and ignore everyone's opinion except your DH.

Cloudydaysaregreat · 23/12/2015 06:31

Susie is sweet (although I do prefer Suzanne / suzannah). Go with th middle name you prefer.

I had the same response from my mother re Juliet when we were choosing dd's name. To me it's a beautiful classic, to them it was yet another Julie and was massively dated! It's your child, go for what you like (although we chose again as it had planted too many doubts with us!)

kristine007 · 23/12/2015 10:30

My MIL did the same!
They did not show any interest in their grandson or call him by name for good 9 weeks. Now they seem to be coming round... but I am so upset with them for this...

April2013 · 23/12/2015 12:58

Susie is wonderful :)

liquidrevolution · 23/12/2015 13:41

Susie Mia and Susie Rose are so much nicer than Susie Florence in my opinion. Also like susannah as the 'full' first name but dont worry about using susie. There are so many similar sounding names (and a lot of truly terrible ones!) out there it wont be holding her back professionally.

Your DM needs to work on her 'letting my adult DD live her own life without interference' skills or one day she will find you are no longer there.

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13umpuu · 24/12/2015 19:39

Registered DD2 today as Susie Florence.

DM is now calling her Susie and saying she liked it after all (And no further discussion about calling her Flo!). DF still refers to her as LO (?!).

Happy Xmas!

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helentheheron · 24/12/2015 20:04

Aw, that great news. LO as in little one? Very cute.

Congratulations and merry Christmas!

SecretBondGirl · 24/12/2015 21:16

I was just about to say the youngest Susie, Susan, Suzanne that I know is 45 years old so it will definitely be unusual for your dds generation. Good for you sticking to your guns it's a lovely name and glad your DM is seeing sense now

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 24/12/2015 22:41

Good result. I think once the child is called by a name people soon come round, because the name becomes that person. Once Susie can speak, she'll correct anyone anyway if they get confused about her name.