Parents hate baby name (Susie)

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After a week of um/ah OH and I finally decided to call DD2 Susie Florence.

On telling my folks my dad asked - where did that come from?!? Is it your final decision? My mum said straight out she doesn't like it and that she'll call the baby Flo (I only picked Florence after her constant pestering! I actually prefer Mia or Rose as a middle name)...

Anyway they both want me to change my mind and I'm really upset. Is it such an awful name?!? And what should I do now - OH is v annoyed at the thought of changing it, he loves it and thinks they're being mean to me! And we've found it hard to agree. Alice has been a contender and I know my parents would prefer it but I couldn't get the 'who the is Alice' song out of my head!

Am up feeding not just fretting, but this is really on my mind - any advice?!?

Stick with Susie. Its your choice, not hers. If she doesn't care for it, she should keep that to herself. Its unreasonable of her to think that she has control over your child's name.

How dare your parents take that attitude OP!!! I do not like the names my DD gave her DC1 but the only person who know that is me - and all of MN...

Tigger just because it's not to your taste, that doesn't make it an awful name.

Your comments are not particularly helpful to a new mum who is already battling to name her DD a perfectly well-known, well accepted name that is clearly to the taste of many posters.

We have a few different names for DS2 (due Feb). We have spoken about the different names and people have given opinions on each one, but ultimately the decision will be ours and will probably be made after the baby is born.

I'm going to suggest to DP we don't discuss names at all with MIL as she does have some fixed ideas at times. My Mum apparently vetoed Nathan as a name for my sisters eldest and judging from a very terse conversation a month back, five years after the event!!!!, my sister is still pretty pissed about it.

So go with the name you have chosen and your Mum will just have to suck it up or be pathetic and refuse to use it.

1. stick with Susie- your child, your name choice
2. tell her to fuck off, she sounds very controlling

Susanna Rose is beautiful. Get rid of Flo - you don't like it and you can't trust your mother not to use it. You only used it cos you hoped it'd make your mum happy - and it didn't.

Susie is cute. My files didn't particularly like my sons name - harley and said il be calling him harry. He didn't though and is use to it now. I wouldn't of told them until she was here. They most likely wouldn't of commented so harshly then.

Go for susie, it's cute. I wouldn't go for florence either it doesn't really sound right and I especially wouldn't if my mum said she would call her flo! Who does she think she is calling her the middle name that she chose rather than her name you have!!

We told my DM that we wanted to call our DC3 Dexter if he was a boy and pissed herself laughing!!!!
Vowed we would not tell anyone our name choices and DC will just be named.
Just to piss her off we loved the name Corbin and decided on that!!!

Anyway it was DD and we called her Cleo. They all ummmed arrred and then 6 months later told me they like her name now and thank Christ she wasn't a boy because Corbin is worse than Dexter!

I really like Susie!!! It's cute!!!

My actual name is Susan (DF choice) DM wishes now she had called me Susannah. My family call me Susie - I hate it, I'm nearly 50, it sounds twee.

People I meet always want to shorten my name to Sue. I've given up insisting on Susan. I have become a 'Sue'. Boring.

If you want to use Susie, make it Susie Rose. Florence doesn't go. Be prepared that your adult Susie will become a 'Sue'.

Bloody hell pps, those who are stating that you prefer Susanna are missing the whole point of the post! On this page one pp has dismissed Susie altogether and gone straight for Susanna Rose, whilst another has gone for Mia Rose! This is not about what you prefer, it's about supporting op in HER choice. If the name was Pufflebottom or the like I could understand alternative suggestions but Susie is a perfectly nice, normal name!

Your mother will call the baby Flo? Bugger that, their baby naming days have been and gone. Call your daughter Susie Rose and brook no Florence nonsense from your parents. Who the heck do they think they are overshadowing both your children's births with their dramas.

Congrats OP, Susie is a lovely name.

Stand firm!

Just echoing the thoughts of many others. Please don't be influenced by your mother on this occasion. Choose the first and middle name yourselves, it is no one else's place and you will always regret it if you compromise! This will also set a dangerous precedence for the future. I have had major problems with my in laws being forceful on their opinions with my dd and I regret letting them get away with it! I allowed them to taint what should be the happiest time in our lives. Please don't do the same. I promise you, if you just push on with the name you like, the outcome will be much better than if you let her make this decision for you! I know it's difficult and I really hate confrontation so I feel your pain! You may be your mother's child but you are an adult and are more than capable of choosing your own daughter's name. Your parents need to accept that and move on.x

NannyPhlegm ten years on your MIL still calls her grand daughter by a random name of her own choosing? What a fruit loop, and how offensive to your daughter!

Also, don't apoligise to them for not changing the name! I found myself apologising to my I n laws for making decisions which were perfectly reasonable decisions! I really wish I hadnt! I should have been stronger, stood my ground and told them they were being unreasonable!x

Who the hell are these people who think they have a say in the choice of name for their grandchild?
If my DPs had tried that nonsense with me, they would have had it made very clear, in words of one syllable or less, that it wasn't anything to do with them.

My family weren't keep on my sons name. My brother only called him by his middle name. Addressing cards to Harry.

I spoke to him about it a few times. He ignored me and carried on.

Had to get my husband to intervene. They get on well.

Several friends have told me they didn't like his name. It made me doubt my choice. But then I thought about it and reckon tough. He is our baby. We named him. If you don't like his name. It's tough tomatoes

Susie is a lovely name. I know a suzies and she is lovely. She is 23. Nicer girl you couldn't meet.

13 that's terrible. It's completely up to you!

You've got me thinking now . . . . . we are thinking of quite an unusual name for our DC1 and I really hadn't thought what anyone else will think. I don't really care too much All I care about is what we think and whether DC1 will like it!

How big of those parents to say "I like the name now." . They need telling no one cares about their opinion!!

You'd be tempted to train your child to call grandparents "Twatty and Nobby" or something would you.

Susie is lovely. We know a Susanna - chosen because it was recognisable but unusual. There aren't many around. She does have it misspelled though. Your little Susie may end up being Suzi, Suzy, Suzie ... a Susanna could end up as Suzanna(h), or even - honestly - Zussanah! At school, where all names are shortened, your DD would end up as Susie,anyway, so I guess if you start with Susanna you will reach Susie - if you start with Susie, maybe it will end up as Sue?!
Main thing is what everyone else said - it's your DD and your choice of name. Don't compromise. Hard not to be upset though! Names are very personal things. Enjoy your new baby!

Absolutely nothing to do with your parents at all.

They had their baby naming opportunity with you. Now it's your turn.

I'm flabbergasted that people can be so rude!

I think for those of us of slightly more advanced years when every girl was either Susan and Tracey (and shortened to Susie and Trace) it does sound a bit meh...

Otoh - her reaction to the name is shocking and she needs to learn to keep it zipped.

Susie is lovely and why would you change her name from the one you and your dh have chosen for her?? One thing you should change is her middle name to the one you really like. You can call your mum and tell her the good news - "We're changing her name - we've had a think about it all and it's going to be Susie Rose". Your mum is being both horrible and ridiculous.