Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Baby names

Find baby name inspiration and advice on the Mumsnet Baby Names forum.

Original poster

Parents hate baby name (Susie)

128 replies

13umpuu · 18/12/2015 04:17

After a week of um/ah OH and I finally decided to call DD2 Susie Florence.

On telling my folks my dad asked - where did that come from?!? Is it your final decision? My mum said straight out she doesn't like it and that she'll call the baby Flo (I only picked Florence after her constant pestering! I actually prefer Mia or Rose as a middle name)...

Anyway they both want me to change my mind and I'm really upset. Is it such an awful name?!? And what should I do now - OH is v annoyed at the thought of changing it, he loves it and thinks they're being mean to me! And we've found it hard to agree. Alice has been a contender and I know my parents would prefer it but I couldn't get the 'who the is Alice' song out of my head!

Am up feeding not just fretting, but this is really on my mind - any advice?!?

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
Mouthfulofquiz · 18/12/2015 17:35

I'm really really cross with all these interfering grandparents!!! My mum and dad were a bit 'where did THAT come from?' when I told them my first born's name. I think the look they got meant it never happened again for subsequent names. By the way, we haven't chosen weird names, just not 'fashionable' ones. It's none of their business. I agree to not use Florence unless you really love it. What about Susannah Elizabeth or Susie Rose.

jobrum · 18/12/2015 18:37

My dm hates my dds name. She wouldn't tell her friends ir even my dad (who was away when she was born) what it was. It's a pretty traditional name, a pretty flower. It really upset me but nearly a year after she can at least bring herself to say my dds name...
Ask yourself: do you like it? Is it actually a ridiculous name and you didn't realise? If its no to those then keep the name. Your parents named you and now its your turn to name your children. I think its a lovely name.

Hipotle · 18/12/2015 18:43

We got an 'are you joking???' from FIL when he was told the name of his hours old granddaughter. Her name and two middle names are admittedly quite long and not the most commonly used names, but nothing wildly unusual by any means. I was very hurt but managed to ignore.

Susie is a really beautiful name, stick to your guns and name your lovely daughter just what YOU, her parents, want Thanks

HeteronormativeHaybales · 18/12/2015 18:44

Tbh, I think Florence goes better with Susie than with Mia or Rose (both of which, I'm afraid, will date her - Rose in particular is the Louise of our day). And I would be thinking very seriously of Susan or Susanna for the birth cert, so she has a formal, grown-up alternative.

(not RAllTFT) There's a Susie song as well - don't know if kids still sing it in playgrounds these days...

nilbyname · 18/12/2015 18:49

Well I think your mil was very rude! It's just not on to comment on names!

I think Susie is a great name, not that it matters, so stay with the name you love!

grumpysquash2 · 18/12/2015 19:02

When I was pg with DS1, I fully intended to call him Noah. My Mum hated it, kept going on and on about how he would be given Noah's Ark things all the time, how people would laugh at it etc. etc.
In the end I gave him the planned middle name and picked another.

Fast forward 4 years and pg with DS2, my mum said 'how about Noah? That's a lovely name' Grrrr.

DS2 wasn't Noah either.

DramaAlpaca · 18/12/2015 21:48

Haven't read the thread, but I only have one piece of advice: call your child what you want and to hell with anyone else's opinions.

AvaCrowder · 18/12/2015 21:55

Firstly I like the name Susie, and it seems the only issue with the middle name is that your mum would call her by it, so I'd be tempted to give her whatever middle name you like, but tell your mum it's slit, or Billy, so she can't.

Chelsea your mum sounds so nice, with the I like it now comment, thank you for sharing that.

annandale · 18/12/2015 22:21

I do remember the stunned look on my mother's face when we told her ds's name - it only lasted a third of a second but it was definitely there Grin She admits it was a name that would have been outlandish to her in her babynaming days so it did take a moment or two to adjust. However, as a mature adult, and crucially, not the parent of ds, she never said anything and of course just loves her gs who IS his name to her.

I am sort of looking forward to hearing my first grandchild's name, if any. Probably something like Alienne or Roger.

SwedishEdith · 18/12/2015 22:39

Susie is great - love it. I think she'll end up a Suze rather than a Sue.

SwedishEdith · 18/12/2015 22:40

And Chelsea's mum is a star.

SpecialistSnowflake · 18/12/2015 22:43

Reconsider using her choice of middle name if she's just going to walk all over you and use that instead. Pick two names that YOU both love - that's you and your DH, not your DM!

M48294Y · 18/12/2015 22:46

One of my relatives has given her dd the most awful name which gives me the cringe as I write or say it. However, I wouldn't dream of commenting on it negatively to her.

Your parents sound like hard work op - have they no idea about boundaries with other adults?

Devora · 18/12/2015 22:54

I'm over 50 and I think Susie is a lovely name Smile

LittleBearPad · 18/12/2015 22:54

Susie is lovely. Go for it and choose whatever middle name you actually like.

sod 'em

PetiteBateau · 18/12/2015 23:10

Fuck what your Mum wants, this is YOUR baby. Susie Rose is lovely

Sansfards · 18/12/2015 23:19

They've had their chance to name a daughter, it's your turn now. Choose exactly what you want and tell them not to be so bloody rude!

TheMightyMing · 18/12/2015 23:25

Susie is absolutely gorgeous and unusual these days, so even better xx

AvaCrowder · 19/12/2015 00:13

I think I'm inclined to tell my dc that I don't like their names, just so I can be like Chelsea's mum, and say well I do now.

OTiTO · 19/12/2015 00:31

Wow, how rude are your parents. It's never ok to comment on someone's baby name choice ONCE the baby has been named!

It's a really nice name.

CarlaJones · 19/12/2015 09:58

I think Susie is a lovely name. I'd change the middle name to one of your preferred ones too.

TheNumberfaker · 19/12/2015 10:13

Congratulations. Susie is a beautiful name it's the name I would choose for myself. I personally would go with Susanna(h) on the BC as I'm quite traditional with names.

You need to get this book, and change your name to Mrs Bunn!

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B013TFBAHO?vs=1

TheNumberfaker · 19/12/2015 10:14

susie

Parents hate baby name (Susie)
Sleepingtom · 20/12/2015 20:28

LOVE the name Susie and almost called DS2 it (before I knew he was a he) (and numbertaker this was inspired purely by the Mr & Mrs Bunn story!)

Beautiful name. Love Susie Rose. Susie Florence is nice too but please call your baby the name you love. I settled for my second choice and it took me a LONG time to come to terms with it.

Please also ignore your mother. Shockingly rude (and wrong imo!) X

StDogolphin · 20/12/2015 20:36

I have been saying for years that Susan is due a massive come back! I love Susan Rose. You must chose the names you love though, you will regret it if you don't. Congratulations!