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Parents hate baby name (Susie)

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13umpuu · 18/12/2015 04:17

After a week of um/ah OH and I finally decided to call DD2 Susie Florence.

On telling my folks my dad asked - where did that come from?!? Is it your final decision? My mum said straight out she doesn't like it and that she'll call the baby Flo (I only picked Florence after her constant pestering! I actually prefer Mia or Rose as a middle name)...

Anyway they both want me to change my mind and I'm really upset. Is it such an awful name?!? And what should I do now - OH is v annoyed at the thought of changing it, he loves it and thinks they're being mean to me! And we've found it hard to agree. Alice has been a contender and I know my parents would prefer it but I couldn't get the 'who the is Alice' song out of my head!

Am up feeding not just fretting, but this is really on my mind - any advice?!?

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imip · 18/12/2015 06:50

Jesus nanny I hope you don't mind me saying this, but your MIL is a fuckwit!

Why on earth would a grown women rename a child like that. Her friends must think she's barking mad!

IguanaTail · 18/12/2015 06:52

I cannot get over the selfishness and spite of grandparents calling a grandchild by the name they wished they had. How appalling. So confusing for the child and undermining and upsetting all round.

Cinnamon2013 · 18/12/2015 06:55

Love susie. She will be one of very few which is great. Don't let her ruin it for you - enjoy your baby and the name you have both chosen. She'll have to get over it. It's nothing to do with her. If you let her win, it'll be like giving into a toddler tantrum - she'll keep pushing for control

Helmetbymidnight · 18/12/2015 06:55

If they are nice people, within hours they will adore baby and name (or at least they will try to ;))

If not, well...

DeputyPecksBentBeak · 18/12/2015 07:08

This would make me deliberately stick with the name (other than Florence, unless I loved it and iff you do then go for it), and I get on well with my parents and in-laws.

DiscoDiva70 · 18/12/2015 07:09

I like the name Susie too, although you may find people will try and shorten it to Sue which I agree with a pp that it does sound dated.
I actually really like the name Mia as a first name and Rose goes lovely with it as a middle name

NannyPhlegm · 18/12/2015 07:11

imip my MIL is indeed a fuckwit. She had form, but this took everyone by surprise. My SIL (who is lovely) told me then that she would come around, but she hasn't.

Her friends believe DD's name is the one she uses, but it's not really their fault. It makes no difference to either me or DD because we spend zero time in their circle. We have built a completely separate network of friends, who are all amazing and kind people

annandale · 18/12/2015 07:14

Susie is a gorgeous name. TBH I love it in every form.

Don't be swayed.

sn1ce · 18/12/2015 07:17

Susie is lovely-don't change it. If it were me I would call your baby Susannah nn Susie but the fact is its not my baby it's yours so do what you want. Your mother should be ashamed of herself.

Homebird8 · 18/12/2015 07:18

"I do now!"

Chelsea I love your mum.

pluck · 18/12/2015 07:35

That is real pig-headedness.

I headed off discussion by saying throughout pregnancy that we were going to call the children god-awful (but, crucially, historical/ Classical) names, so the names the SC ended up prompted rejoicing!

rainydaygrey · 18/12/2015 07:40

My friend has a Susie.

I'm not really a fan. I have never said or even hinted at this (other than here, now!). Because it's none of my business. Parents choose the names and the rest of us welcome the baby and congratulate the parents!

Bein GPs gives no special rights in this field whatsoever.

Tell them to wind their necks in and call her by her bloody given name. And choose the middle name that YOU want.

Congratulations on little Susie and I wish you a lifetime of happiness together Wine

hollyisalovelyname · 18/12/2015 07:48

Your baby.... You choose the name.
Although we pressurised dear sis Blush.

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13umpuu · 18/12/2015 07:51

I really appreciate all these replies - I was beginning to question my sanity - thank you!!!

Re DD1 - I had emergency c-sec while they were on hols so OH called them with name news. Another saga! They then said they'd call at the hospital after landing at the airport but at the time I was expecting them to be walking in, I got a call saying they were nearly home and not coming after all... so that behaviour rather eclipses Susie-gate...

I've never posted here before - I can see why people love mumsnet!

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Mehitabel6 · 18/12/2015 07:52

I never know why people discuss it beforehand - just tell them afterwards and it is too late to object.
I would go for Susie Rose and that cuts out calling her Flo.

(You don't really need to worry about them using the wrong name- they just look silly and never get away with it when the child is talking.)

rubyflipper · 18/12/2015 07:56

Susie is a lovely name.

justgoandgetalife · 18/12/2015 07:57

Fwiw, my DS2 has a Welsh name (DH is Welsh) & my M&D called him 'the baby' for a couple of weeks, but they got used to it once they started using the name. They are very 'English' & traditional so just took them a while to get used to it!

BondJayneBond · 18/12/2015 08:03

This is your baby, not your parents. They had their go at naming babies and now it's your turn.

What really matters is whether you and your DH love the name you've chosen. Susie is absolutely fine IMO - I think sometimes grandparents can't get past how a name would have been perceived when they were children or new parents.

The middle name though - if you've picked Florence to keep your mum happy, rather than because you and your DH like it best, I'd seriously consider changing it to a name you prefer. Mia and Rose are both lovely names. Plus, calling your baby Susie Mia or Susie Rose might stop all the "I'll call her Flo" nonsense.

ButtonMoon88 · 18/12/2015 08:12

Mehita- this is after baby has been born, with first dc they didn't like the name so they didn't visit (did I read that right) and this time mil wants to announce the birth to her friends but won't when the name is something she disapproves of. It's shocking behaviour and I would be tempted to say something along the lines (just as a threat) "if you feel like that about a baby then you don't deserve to see her". See how quickly she back tracks!!

Bambambini · 18/12/2015 08:31

Holly - c'mon - spill on your sisters choice of name!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 18/12/2015 08:55

Your parents have had their day choosing names when tgey had you. This is your baby. Your choice. I agree with Joffery. Don't include Florence if you're not that keen.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 18/12/2015 08:58

Also if someone said to me. Oh no Ilive, don't call her him/her that. It's a horrible name. I don't like it. I'd use it out of spite

Tiggeryoubastard · 18/12/2015 09:08

It's more of a nickname than a name to me, not great, but it's not in the 'Naeveh' bracket.

rainydaygrey · 18/12/2015 09:11

But Tigger the point isn't whether we like it, it's whether others are BU to veto a parent's choice of name and refuse to use it. I say the answer is that it's VVU!

It's a good thing people don't all have the same taste in names anyway, would get very confusing if we were all called the same thing Grin

Tiggeryoubastard · 18/12/2015 09:14

OP did ask if it was such an awful name.

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