people pronouncing my baby's name the way I dont

[SophieJoe2014]

I have called my dd elle (ellie) but everyone calls her el
I understand that in English it spells el but if you look up how to pronouce elle it comes up with el or ellie
it's making me feel like I have done it wrong people will judge me for it.
has anyone been in the same situation or have any advice?

Can you not simply compromise - Elle (pronounced El) on the birth certificate, Ellie as a nickname? "Her proper name is Elle but we call her Ellie". Everyone will get that.

OK, if you want to change the spelling, I believe you can do that until your DC is 12 months to change the forename(s) without needing to do a full deedpoll, if you DD is quite small still, then I suggest you start with contacting your local registry office and explaining you which to change the spelling of your DD's name to the more common varient of that spelling for the UK and ask them how to go about it.

There might be a small charge, but if it's done quickly, it's far easier than having to do a deedpoll.

Good luck!

Narrow minded? For pronouncing Elle as Elle? No, dear, I don't think so.

Mary westmacott, thank you for your help

In the same vein I Know a Siobhan pronounced Sho-ban, a Leila known as Leela and Deborah known as De-bor-rah. Felt sorry for all of them as they had to constantly correct people and you could tell these people were thinking WTF.

Just because you've heard a few other people pronounce it as "ellie" doesn't mean that it's a legitimate pronounciation. A few people say nucular instead of nuclear - that doesn't make it a 'less common pronounciation', it's still incorrect.

op I think the information on a name change would either be on the birth certificate, if not, it would Deff be on the .gov site not sure this is the right section but have a poke around

Hope you get it sorted. Elle is a wonderful name though, have you considered just accepting that people will call her Elle when they first meet her / maybe calling her Elle yourself? It's much more grown up for a 'full name' than Ellie?

Leaving aside whether or not Elle can be legitimately pronounced Ellie...

My husband is German and I am English. We tried to give the kids international names, but even though we chose names that are used in both languages and don't have any of the letters obviously pronounced differently (no J, no W, no th) they are still pronounced differently in German and British English. I use the English pronunciations of their names every time, but would never even want to correct anyone - the kids and DH automatically pronounce their own and their siblings' names whichever way is appropriate to the language they are speaking; the kids started doing this by themselves from the age of about 2, nobody ever told them to.

I f you can't go with the flow that way, you need to put an i in the name - it makes it sound like a little girls name that way though - keeping Elle and calling her Ellie as a pet form gives her the option of a more grown up name later... but if you want everyone to uniformly call her Ellie the only way is to make that her official name.

Its very easy to change the name of a baby under 12 months - just some form filling at the office where you registered her birth.

www.worcestershire.gov.uk/cms/registration-services/births/register-a-birth/changing-babies-name.aspx

How old is she? I think up to a year it's pretty easy and doesn't requir a deed poll

www.ukdp.co.uk/name-change-birth-certificate-england-and-wales/#who

I would pronounce El.

Honestly, if you want people to say Ellie then just change the spelling. It will save both you and your daughter grinding your poor teeth into dust in years to come.

Just wanted to echo what's already been said, very easy to change name up to a year but that if I were in your situation I wouldn't rush to do it.

We call DS a not too common nickname of his official name and so does everyone else, barring the doctor and bank.

It's not going to take very long for everyone who matters to use the ee version and will give your daughter the option when she's old enough to decide. Would agree Elle sounds more grown up and maybe more professional so she could use that at work etc.

I think this spelling is based on Greek pronunciation like Chloe and Zoe. Variations of Elena are very popular Greek names www.greek-names.info/elli-elle-or-helle/. Having said that I do think that I would pronounce it Ell and assume Ellie was a nickname as others have said, so it may be easier to change the spelling.

Agree with PinkAnd and the other posters advising you to keep Elle (Ell) on the birth certificate and using Ellie (eh, Ellie) as her 'known as' name for school, nursery, dentist, etc.

It'll make your life way less stressful. Let's face it, if it's getting on your tits when she's two weeks old this needs sorted. And as someone who had a twee nn growing up I'm grateful my parents gave me the option of the longer name as I started working.

I spent my whole childhood spelling my first name. I have spent the last 15 year spelling my surname too since marriage. Don't add annoyance to your child's life when you don't have too.

Elle is El
Ellie is Ellie

Don't try and be clever and mix them when no one else in the world, pretty much, sees Elle as Ellie.

I have a friend who's name is Ellen. She shortens it to Elle pronounced ELLIE because Ellen without the N is Elle.....
But when I first met her, I spelt it Ellie.....

I have a (Scottish) name with a silent letter that is pronounced in the English version. It's not a big deal: people say, for example, "can i speak to English pronounciation?" And I reply Scottish version speaking".

Sometimes people can be quite insistent that the silent letter is a spelling mistake but mostly they take my word for it. if they make a fuss I normally file them in my rude-fucker drawer and forget about them.

You chose the name and pronunciation you love. I say stick to your guns!

Surely the OP is in Scotland? That's the north east of the UK after all.

It's the same as calling your child Kate and insisting everyone pronounces it as Katie. Just seems like a pointless layer of hassle to place on her that can so easily be avoided.

You will be able to change it by deed poll. Not sure how much it costs but i don't think it's mega expensive. Suggest you contact your local town hall/council?

I'd love to know how this came about....did you suggest Ellie as a name and your DP said 'yes, but let's spell it wrong the NY way'?!

Or maybe he preferred Elle, but you wanted Ellie and he made up some crap about Elle being the exotic American way of spelling Ellie, knowing full well she'd be called Elle by everyone.

How did two people come to the conclusion this was a good idea. I'm baffled.

It's like saying Joe is pronounced Joey.

Yes,US acceptable maybe. Bette(Betty) Davis being the only person that I can think of.

Halle
Zoe
Chloe
Xanthe

Are all names with an 'I' with no 'I' !

Willow I'd always thought (read) she was "Bet"!

Surely the OP is in Scotland? That's the north east of the UK after all

I am so glad someone else noticed this! NE of the UK is not Sunderland/Newcastle way, it's much, much further north.