people pronouncing my baby's name the way I dont

[SophieJoe2014]

I have called my dd elle (ellie) but everyone calls her el
I understand that in English it spells el but if you look up how to pronouce elle it comes up with el or ellie
it's making me feel like I have done it wrong people will judge me for it.
has anyone been in the same situation or have any advice?

No Thumb, I think you'll find that in New York they are small dogs.

If you want to call her Ellie, why can't you spell it that way? You seem to be making things unnecessarily difficult for yourself (and her).

Pico -

I actually know two other people who have done this - given their DDs the name Elle, but wanted it to be pronounced Ellie. Of course absolutely everyone mispronounces it, all of the time, and is a PITA for both the children and their families.

Unfortunately, it looks illiterate (in the UK - no idea about anywhere else) and people will judge as such.

"I spelt ciao incorrectly on purpose"

Course you did

Ciao OP. .

Did you spell 'allot' incorrectly on purpose too? I am glad, as that was really getting on my tits.

....this is amazing. Of course people keep coming back to the thread, it's ridiculous!

I think the OP may actually be Del Boy. Mange tout, mange tout.

Allot is how they spell it in New York

Unfortunately, it looks illiterate

Or trying too hard to annoy DD and other people and herself

Arf @ "chow bitches"

The thread that keeps on giving

Oh dear

Pathetic.

Seems when your "hormones" are stable the perceived "bitches" in your opinion aren't alone.

I take back the "poor child" comment about the name...

Your daughter will hate it - but that won't bother you, will it? it's all about you and bugger all about the poor child.

Just reading through different threads and I can't believe how nasty people are being on here!? It's up to you how to pronounce a name and Elle seems more of a proper separate name than Ellie which looks like its just short for Eleanor.

But what's the point of her pronouncing the name one way when the rest of the population pronounce it another? It's just lumbering the child with an unnecessary hassle.

FWIW my DN has a name that her parents pronounce incorrectly. In their case, the name is intended to be similar to sil's sister's name (think on lines of SIL's sister called Lucy and DN called Lucia or SIL's sister called Helen and DN called Helena). They had seen the name written down but had never heard it pronounced, so they guessed the pronunciation. It is wrong both in terms of how the name is normally pronounced but also wrong phonetically, so I am not sure how they arrived at that but even when pointed out to them by various people they stuck with their pronunciation - not sure whether because they were stubborn/did not want to admit they had got it wrong or because they preferred the sound of the invented pronunciation. Anyway, I have always pronounced it the way they told me to, as has everyone else once corrected, but now that DN is older she has changed the pronunciation to the "more established" one as she was so fed up having to correct people.

LittleErin, I don't think you can just pronounce a name how you want in all circumstances. As someone else said on this or another thread, you cant call someone Anne and tell everyone it is pronounced Bob. Obviously an extreme example, but I also do not think it would be fair to call a child Phoebe and tell everyone it is pronounced Fo-eeb. If there is more than one pronunciation (Esme, Lucia etc) or it is pronounced differently in another culture, fair enough to choose, but I don't think you can just make up a pronunciation of an established name particularly if it makes no sense phonetically.

LittleErin

It isn't really "up to you" how to pronounce a name, unless it has established variations, as Clara does.

You can't call your child say, Sophia and insist it is actually pronounced Sophie, by way of example.

I've never come across variations on how Clara is pronounced, is that a regional thing?

Claire-a vs Clahr-a, Pico.

Yes, what Bird said.

I've never actually heard the Claire-a prn but have been assured it is common in Northern England.

So I would say it was regional. Much like Ez-May vs Ez-mee.
I was quite surprised when one of DH's friends to his daughters as the latter.

But didn't the poster say that there are actually two pronunciations of Elle? El and Ellie, so in that case you could choose one over the other even though I agree I would always read it as El. I am not saying it isn't an unusual pronunciation, but what I can't believe is how mean and almost abusive some people are being.

Never heard of Claire-a. Sounds more like an accent changing the sound than an actual name change.

I came across a Claire-a once. I would have said Clah-rah though.

I'm betting some of the harsh posts are from people stuck with ridiculous spellings, pronunciation and made up names. I know the spelling of my name is something I don't forgive my mum for.

I met a woman a couple of weeks ago, we'd been chatting for ages when I asked her name.

She told me it followed by a well rehearsed paragraph about how it comes form nowhere, it's completely made up and her parents are idiots. She once found out she didn't get shortlisted for a job because they thought she misspelled her own name on the application.

If she is a mumsnetter she is probably responsible for one of the harsh posts!

I think the difference is that there are 2 accepted pronunciations of Clara/Esme etc. Although the OP says this is true of the name Elle, most posters don't think it is true, anymore than stating there are several accepted pronunciations of Siobhan just because a couple of people over the years have used the name without knowing how to say it and have pronounced it as Sigh-oh-ban.

I don't read most of the replies as mean - the OP said felt she had done it wrong and will be judged and asked if anyone been in the same situation or had any advice. Most of the replies were on lines of explaining why people were pronouncing the name "wrongly" and offering advice about changing spelling or using Ellie as a nn. If OP just wanted people to agree that Ellie is an acceptable pronunciation or to tell her the ones that pronounced the name Elle as El were in the wrong, I think she could have phrased her post differently.