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LBNM19 · 31/05/2014 21:52

Finding it really hard to pick a boys name, I've got a little boy called Louie and thinking of Jayden for this one could be shortend to J or middle name will be Joseph as that's my dads name so Jayden Joseph could also be JJ. Honest opinions please :)

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DrankSangriaInThePark · 02/06/2014 12:56

I am saddened on this thread by Spero's posts. I think it was either breathtakingly naïve at best, or stupid at worst, to infer that Jayden-esque names are more likely to end up in care proceedings. And you can dress it up all you like by saying that's not what you meant, but I don't think I believe it.

Never mind, scales have to fall from one's eyes at times I guess.

My dd is "never going to be a high court judge" either.

But only because she wants to be an author and a scientist.

Oh, and my naughtiest student is called Gerry.

HTH.

DrankSangriaInThePark · 02/06/2014 12:58

"wind your neck in"

Said the pot to the kettle.

FidelineandFumblin · 02/06/2014 13:07

Well as a parent who thought I had chosen an unusual name, who has now seen that name crop up several times in the news in relation to children in tragic circumstances, it worries me that the name will be a burden to my child. If that means you all think I am exhibiting snobbery to my own child, you're all daft. Equally it annoys me that people get sniffy about my child's name so I share your (parents of jaydens) pain.

Quite honestly a thread on BABY NAMES on MUMSNET about JAYDEN with a request for HONEST OPINIONS PLEASE was never going to be a Women's Institute Tea Party was it? So why all the vitriol towards Spero for sharing her honestly observed experience?

FidelineandFumblin · 02/06/2014 13:08

Said the pot to the kettle.

I haven't tried to order anyone off the thread Sangria

And I've been polite.

EatShitDerek · 02/06/2014 13:39

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FidelineandFumblin · 02/06/2014 13:53

Well she sodding would do, wouldn't she? It's what she does for a living!

Teachers do exactly the same on here all the time. They get away with a light grumbling, Spero gets manhandled into a ducking stool.

Social workers, HCPs, Housing Officers, Police Officers, Criminal lawyers could all make similar types of points about what types of names crop up most most frequently in their line of work.

PenguinsHatchedAnEgg · 02/06/2014 13:55

To respond to the OP, Jayden isn't one of my favourite names, but it's fine. I don't like it with Joseph though, I don't think it flows. Joseph Jayden is a bit better. Or something to give the initials AJ, that's a cute nickname?

FidelineandFumblin · 02/06/2014 13:55

(and they do)

Crikey, nevermind AIBU not being fight club, we need that warning in here.

PandaWatch · 02/06/2014 13:57

In 2012 Jayden was the 37th most popular boys' name. Nearly 2000 babies in England and Wales were given this name. In one year. The previous year it was at number 32.

I think this indicates quite clearly that the MN baby name board is not representative of society's attitudes towards baby names and parents of Jaydens shouldn't fear for their children's futures.

FWIW the only baby Jayden I know goes to my DS's swimming class. His parents are a well educated, very nice couple.

QueenofallIsee · 02/06/2014 14:10

I will ignore the bun fight on the name and respond to the question. I am not keen on Jayden with Joseph, Joseph Jayden sounds better to me..maybe its the hard 'D'.

I do struggle with the name Jayden only because where I live, not far from a well known gold and black football team, the accent kind of spoils the name!! Also true of many 'Y' names. I am a proud midlander but facts is facts

PenguinsHatchedAnEgg · 02/06/2014 14:19

Midlands accents are not kind to quite a lot of names are they Queen (I can say that, all my family on both sides are Brummie).

Dizzywhore · 02/06/2014 14:21

Jayden is awful!

QueenofallIsee · 02/06/2014 14:40

Indeed Penguin, I suspect that I would like the name better if I lived in Surrey perhaps!

DrankSangriaInThePark · 02/06/2014 14:46

I think there is a leedle bit of a difference between saying "oooooh, Ryan, now that's a norty boy name if ever I heard one.....my timbers positively shiver every time I get one of those on my register!" and inferring that anyone who names their child Jayden is, ipso facto, going to require SS and a family law barrister.

rachel234 · 02/06/2014 14:52

Jayden isn't a name I would choose - just don't like the sound or the fact that it won't travel well into other languages.

SpeedwellBlue · 02/06/2014 14:56

Who has said that anyone who names their child Jayden is going to require SS? I've not seen anyone write that.

Spero · 02/06/2014 14:57

Right, I am almost certainly going to regret this but I couldn't just sit back and let this one go.

inferring that anyone who names their child Jayden is, ipso facto, going to require SS and a family law barrister.

That is certainly NOT what I said.

Nor is it what I implied, inferred or imputed.

I said, way, way back in the mists of time that the 'problem' with this name was that it was not perceived as middle class - and if op didn't care, go for it.

Cue outraged explosions about how I wanted everyone to be middle class. Rubbish. I explained it was a name with connotations. That it was associated - by some - with membership of a low socio-economic group.

That connotation was born out for me by my lived experience of 15 years of care proceedings - mainly spent trying as hard as I could to get fairness into proceedings heavily loaded against the poor and disabled - where certain names crop up with greater frequency than others.

this reflects the fact that care proceedings are 90% initiated against people from vulnerable and poverty stricken backgrounds. So sorry, but you are not going to get 100s of Cressidas and Harrys in care proceedings. If I am wrong, show me your statistics.

commenting on social inequality and - as I have done - wishing things were different, that life wasn't unfair is so far removed from what you accuse me of doing is really bizarre, baffling and bewildering.

But it is also making me angry now.

By all means, attack me for what I do or say that is worthy of attack. But to make up crap and use it as a stick with which to beat me is just pathetic.

FidelineandFumblin · 02/06/2014 14:58

and inferring that anyone who names their child Jayden is, ipso facto, going to require SS and a family law barrister.

Oh yes because that's what she did. Totally. Uh-huh.

FidelineandFumblin · 02/06/2014 15:00

That's got to be my favourite X post ever Grin

Spero · 02/06/2014 15:02

Great minds eh

ProtegeMoi · 02/06/2014 15:04

I love the name Jayden and planned to call it DD had she been a boy. It's not popular on mumsnet as it's seen as too 'lower class' and 'ethnic' not that that should be an issue.

If you like it then ignore those that would judge a child's background just by a name!

DollyWosits · 02/06/2014 15:04

Spero I would just hide the thread. Sometimes posters are just out for a fight. Maybe it wasn't a great idea to mention SS but you apologised way down the thread if it had offended anyone. I'd leave it at that if I were you and I wouldn't give this thread anymore thought.

It's a bit daft everyone getting so het up about a name thread.

FidelineandFumblin · 02/06/2014 15:06

I'm getting jealous of your typing speed Spero (or is it your reaction time?) Grin

Spero · 02/06/2014 15:07

I know, I know. I wish more than anyone my three day trial hadn't disappeared. I am now wandering around at home, bored and incapable of hiding my computer.

I know that nothing I will say will make a difference as some people have decided to be judge,jury and executioner based on what they have decided I 'meant' to say - because after all, the actual words I used strangely don't support their theories.

So I will try and take your excellent advice. Maybe clean behind the toilet. Probably a more rewarding exercise than this steaming pile of self righteous tosh.

Spero · 02/06/2014 15:08

Bizarrely I have had a lot of practice at typing quick responses on internet threads. Us snobbish racists don't get a lot else to do with our time as obviously no one decent will ever socialise with us.

Check back in a week, I will probably still be here...

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