regret name one year on

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I'm going to totally out myself here as it's an unusual name but oh well!

We called our daughter Nola Matilda. When she was born it was a choice between Orla or Nola and OH preferred Nola, he went home from hospital and told his mum who then announced on facebook that her name was Nola..I just went with it, at the time I really liked it.

Another name which I LOVED was Tabitha but a few people put me off by the old "it's a cats name how awful" comments.

I have recently found out my mum and aunt dislike the name Nola and wished I called her Tabitha. I am now wishing I had called her Orla Tabitha. Or at least Orla as a first name. I think about this every day....what to do?! OH says he likes all the names and doesn't care.

It would be really weird to change it now when she is nearly a year old, right?!

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I definitely am flaky Lettheriveranswer. I tend to be swayed by the response the name gets too. Very annoying considering names are so subjective for everyone.

FWIW, the tabitha I know in RL is called 'Tabs' by everyone, which makes it seem far less pretty to me.

Another vote for leaving it as it is. Nola is beautiful.

Tabitha is a mouthful in my common accent and very popular atm which puts me off.

I really love Nola too. With both my DD's I questioned their names and whether they suited them but they do become their names as they get older, and I imagine little Nola will be as beautiful as her name!

Thank you all!!!!!

It doesn't matter what other people think. Only what you and your husband think.
My personal view: nothing wrong with Tabitha and you like it. So why not add it in? Then as she gets older she can choose which name she prefers. I always think more middle names rather than fewer.

I AM going to add it in as I love it too much not to!!

Nola Tabitha Matilda...eesh how many more 'a' names can I get in there?!

I've had a quick read through all the posts, so apologies if it's already been said and I've missed it, but what about how your DD feels?

My mum once told me she regretted that she didn't call me Victoria and,it might sound odd, but it's something I've always felt sad about - I always had a great relationship with my mum (she's no longer alive) but it really floored me for a while. I couldn't help that every time she called my name, it was laced with a feeling she didn't really like what she was saying.

I'd care more about what she thinks than any other family member.

I love Tabitha, why not just start calling her Tabitha for a while and see how it feels to you? I would add it in if I was you, you won't rest until you've done it!

Nola Matilda is gorgeous. Get a cat and call her tabitha

I did start calling her Tabitha, it felt a bit odd because I was so used to Nola/Noles/Nozz/Nollie/Nose....then I started her calling her TabbyNoles. She does look like a Tabitha. But I feel like I can't let go of Nola either, not after this thread and realising how lovely it is again.

do you think Nola Tabitha Matilda sounds pants. Is it better to just leave it as either or.

What does she want?

Just please don't call her something as though it's her first name, but have something else as her real first name. It's a total nightmare, I know someone in this situation, who had a plane ticket booked by her work in a name which didn't match her passport and someone else, who ended up with exam certificates in the wrong name.

Decide on something and call her that, but make the official and unofficial versions match and make sure she isn't known as different things by different people, very confusing for a 1yo!

FWIW I prefer Nola.

I don't know what she wants, she is 11 months old. Going from the reaction here to both names it sounds like she will prefer Nola. But maybe she might appreciate having Tabitha as a middle name too as it sort of means something to me, just like Matilda, which is what her sister chose for her and is also after the Alt J song which OH loves.

I know what you meanheart

Nola is probably the most beautiful name I have ever heard, I've not heard of it before tonight.
Its unusual and much nicer than Tabitha, and I would cringe at the thought of school friends calling her tabby or worse tab (cigarette)

I love Tabitha. If I'd had a girl it would have been very high up on my list, wouldn't suit any of my DSs though . I also love Nola - I used to work with a brilliant consultant anaesthetist called Nola, she was a fab doctor and fantastic with the patients and their relatives.

Hmm. Not been very helpful have I? I think you should totally trust your instinct!

Oh I really ADORE Nola. I need another child now.

I thought she was much older, sorry.

Nola tabitha Matilda is perfect for this baby, for your family, for all the reasons you have given.

Your mother has had her chance to name her babies, this was your choice!

NOLA MATHILDA!! (sorry for shouting I just can't see the need for Tabitha)

I think your mum and aunt have been very unfair. Your child has a name and they have made you feel insecure about it.

Given how much you like Tabitha, I would add it in as a middle name, that way she has it for use when she's older if she wants.

There is no point changing her first name if her partner has said he will use Nola anyway - he is letting you change the certificate to appease you but he's not planning to change anything.

I agree with hopeful , its one thing saying you don't like a name when someone is pregnant , its a bit rude to say it once they've named the baby .