regret name one year on

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I'm going to totally out myself here as it's an unusual name but oh well!

We called our daughter Nola Matilda. When she was born it was a choice between Orla or Nola and OH preferred Nola, he went home from hospital and told his mum who then announced on facebook that her name was Nola..I just went with it, at the time I really liked it.

Another name which I LOVED was Tabitha but a few people put me off by the old "it's a cats name how awful" comments.

I have recently found out my mum and aunt dislike the name Nola and wished I called her Tabitha. I am now wishing I had called her Orla Tabitha. Or at least Orla as a first name. I think about this every day....what to do?! OH says he likes all the names and doesn't care.

It would be really weird to change it now when she is nearly a year old, right?!

Alright hey we heard you the first time.

Nola is a beautiful name...Tabitha is meh.

Why don't you keep her as Tabitha Matilda and call her Matilda (Tilly or other shortened version) if you really can't stand Nola?

Nola deffo better than tabitha

So if your OH is going to keep calling her Nola ,what are you going to call her ? If you are going to also keep calling her Nola ,I can't see the point of changing simply so that Tabitha is on the birth certificate . Will your mum start calling her Tabitha ? I can see a very confused child here. Personally I'd leave it alone after this long .

Yes, unless you're firm on a new name and everyone else plans to use the new name I say leave it be.

I think I will leave it be. I am unsure and there would be different people calling her different names. Urgh. Now my mum/aunt are calling her Tabitha. What a nightmare, wish I'd never brought it up.

Personally, I love the name Nola; it was one that I considered too. Tabitha is fine but I don't like it as much.

Leaving your Mil/ mother, aunt, etc out of it, which name do you prefer for your daughter?

I think Nola is a lovely name. Personally, I'd stick with it, you're just having a wobble. She'll grow into her name.

Nola is beautiful. Please, leave her be!

Plus, at one, she will very much know her name.

Nola is lovely op. Just leave it as it is and don't worry about what others think.

don't worry about why others think. Nola is a lovely name.

FWIW I'm not hugely keen on DD2s name - it was DP's choice as I had the deciding vote with DD1, but she's 8 months and I can't imagine changing it.

The longer this thread has gone on, the more I like Nola

Leaving my mum/aunt out of it, everyone out of it, I would have gone with Tabitha because I was not even aware of the name Nola until a week before I was due, when Tabitha had been vetoed. Out of the two, I like both...I think I prefer 3-syllable names though. DD1 is Amelie. Nola has got such a positive response on here it has given me renewed appreciation of the name.

I feel a bit awkward about what to do with Tabitha now as I do really like it and my mum/aunt are now calling her it - should I put it in the middle, so Nola Tabitha Matilda.

Or just leave it as Nola Matilda. ???

Leave it as Nola Mathilda - and get pg fast so you can use Tabitha for number three .

Haha!! Unfortunately there will be no number three, and what if it was a boy!!!

You'd be too busy to worry about it . Cat - could lend you a McTab?

I really would just leave the poor girl with the name she has....and have a word with your mum and aunt and tell them exactly what name they should be using.
I know you feel they started all this confusion in the first place by saying they didn't like the name but you need to end it now!
Just pick a name and stick with it!

Please just leave her name as it is. Nola is a lovely name, far nicer than Tabitha. Your mum and aunt will get used to it. Just accept her name as it is..a really nice one.

My mum's best friend was called Nola, she was like an aunt to us, she was always known as Noli, which I absolutely love! tabitha is pretty, but it is far more used than Nola, I know 3 Tabithas, but no Nola except the one previously mentioned.

And I think Amelie and Nola sound far nicer together than Amelie and Tabitha, that just sounds too clunky.

If you've put it as an extra mn just leave it - mn's never get used. Make sure you tell your mum and sister what name you're going to use every day though otherwise it's going to be a situation of her being like 'Oh yes, my gran and aunt call me Tabitha but everyone else calls me Nola'

Amelie and Nola flows much better than Amelie and Tabitha. What on earth are they thinking by calling your daughter by a different name?

It's not their fault annie!!! I told them I was going to change it. This is literally only in the last week!

Sorry missed that! Really do think Nola is lovely

I also love Nola. I'm not having any more children, but if I was, it would be on my list. Tabitha was on my list too, but I think two syllable names are puncture.
I've had doubts over all my dcs names at various times. DS1s name us unusual and although a lit of people love it, when he was a baby I got asked "why?" quite a lot and felt guilty I'd lumbered him with an odd name. DS2s name is more common and at the time everyone said they loved it, which after my experience with ds1s name, swayed me. I like it but I don't love it like I do ds1s. DS3 has a quite commmon name that I do love and I think suits him. Or maybe I'm too tired to think about such things any more!
So I think niggles are normal. If its an active dislike and the name makes you cringe, change it. If its a niggle or that you prefer another name, that could well be a temporary thing anyway, especially if you're prone to being fickle and flakey (like me)