Help me find a boys name...

[Juno77]

I am going to be really fussy, dismissive for ridiculous reasons and probably sound like an arse on this thread. But I am really stuck. We've had a girls name set for a few months and I am still happy with it. But the boys name.. we keep going off them.

I need help.

I don't want anything common, in both senses of the word.

Our list thus far has been:
Jackson
Deacon
Brodie
Caleb

And I liked them all at first, and now I hate them. I think they sound chavvy. I have a DS with a top 10 name and thankfully he goes by a lesser used NN anyway, but still, I don't want to repeat that. He's one of 4 in his year.

HELP!

Aesop

Flavours

Titus

Orinoco

Tybalt

Hansel

Dorset

Fenton

Ross

Thankyou, but you don't need to apologise to me. I will feel the way I feel in response to reading your comments for my own reasons I imagine, and that's all there is to it.

I hope you do find a name.

Isaac?
Ptolemy?
Tristan?

Cillian
Rowan

monty

I always really liked Stellan

(Probably chavvy though -I do work in one of those horrid call centres)

Some very very unpleasant posts on this thread.

It's very lacking to be so obsessed with names being 'chavvy' it makes you sound like the thing you fear.

But how about

St John

Sophus (pr SAW-fss)

If you like Malachi how about the Irish version Malachy

Sorry - realised I put 'flavours' (which I really, really like - what a cool name) but actually meant rather more dull 'Flavius'

When you are posh it's good to have a name that only poshos know how to pronounce - Menzies is a good one.

You won't find a better name than Jude Robert, but you don't like either & that's ok by me

Grayson?
Gaige?
Fraser?
Connell?
Charlie?

milo
Argo
Arlo
Theo
othello

For the avoidance of doubt, the problem is not that you are being 'fussy' but that you are being a narrow minded bigot. Which disturbingly you don't seem to get at all.

As a (very lazy) parallel it would be like someone suggesting Lloyd, Delroy or Barrington as potential baby names and then you saying

'No I don't like them, they're darkie names.' and then saying, 'sorry I know I am being fussy.'

The problem is not being fussy about a name (everyone is to an extent and doesn't require an apology) but the act of using discriminatory language and demonising whole groups of people.

OP: Can I have some advice please?
MN:
OP: No, I hate that advice. It's made up advice and chavvy!

Rumplestiltskin?

I have a son who has a name that I would never, never have chosen. It is not horrible, very, very unusual nowadays (never met another child with this name) but just not my choice.

However, for VERY important reasons, my DH wanted to use this name. I now love it. Surely to goodness you won't burst into flames if the name is just OK. And, while calling your child Zaphod or Evilone or Devil is not going to get them a job, judgements surrounding names are very, very subjective. I wanted an Edmund (nn Ned) but this is not possible in Scotland. I also wanted Jerusalem sung at my wedding (.not possible when you marry a Scot). But, I grew up and realised there are more important things than dreaming of the perfect name.

My son now IS his name. He rejected my preferred nn and has the full name and it suits him.

By the way, his name is very ordinary. Not on this thread but just a name. Don't want to put myself but...

Lachlan ?

I was brought up by working class parents in a Council scheme and although I now live in a fairly affluent area and my children go to a fairly "posh" state school, I have no issue with the word schemey.

HamletsSister I'm Scottish, from Scottish parents married to a Scotsman, born, brought up and living in Scotland but I can't see any issue with the name Edmund

Oh, and on several occaisions I have taken offence at the way the OP has reacted, then I've re read the Opening Post and decided that she is only doing what she said she would and therefore I could be offended if I wanted to but actually I've kind of warmed to her :o

[compo] Jesus Christ...

I find some names Chavvy, that makes me a bigot.

Holy shit. Well, that's me told!

...and as far as the chavyness of names goes, we can all only comment by our own area or what we have heard, for example where I live, names like Chloe, Niamh and Bethany are used by those in the lowest socio economic strata but I know that in some places people would consider them fairly middle class.

I guess it is more of an issue (if that bothers you) if you move and suddenly find your lovely middle class name being bawled across a public park by some oik.

Well, that's true!

I guess things like Ptolemy and Quentin are unlikely to ever sound Chavvy.

It doesn't bother me per se, my DS has some lovely friends with names I wouldn't consider. I wouldn't judge a child by their name. I'm just mindful of when they get older.

I have seen people disregard applicants based on their names. Or make snide comments, or pre judge. I'm wary as this might happen if I choose badly.

One of my friends has a very 'chavvy' name and she couldn't be less so! It's not always fair or right to judge - I know that, I just equally know that not everyone knows that.

If you are in Scotland surely the term is Ned not chav?

Wind up