DH wants to name DC2 after himself

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Question - would anyone do this?

DH has declared that if DC2 is a boy, he thinks that DC2 should have his name (first and middle), as DH has a good name. DH's name is lovely, but it's DH's name, so I think this it's a bad idea to recycle it for a DS. Firstly, I'd like DC2 to have a first name that they don't share with a close living relative, and secondly, we've already used DH's first name as DS's middle name. So, we would potentially have the following situation (names have been changed):

DH called Andrew Luke Storm
DS1 called Matthew Andrew Storm
DS2 called Andrew Luke Storm Junior.

DH insists that the "Junior" on the end of his name would make all the difference

I'm concerned that DS2 would feel that we couldn't be bothered to give him a name all of his own, especially as his first name would also be the same as DS1's middle name, and would get a bit hacked off at being known as DH junior.

Am I being daft here? Or am I justified in telling DH to think again?

I agree with you. Esp. because of the difference between the two DCs.

Who wants to be "Andrew Jnr" for the first 18 years of their life?

What an egomaniac!

No way.

Little Andrew? Nah. Not fair.

It's not uncommon for people to give their dc's the same name as them (tends to be a man thing). It allways strikes me as a bit egotistical though. I don't like he junior/senior thing though.

Really sounds you couldnt be bothered thinking of anything, so just recycled names.. Really, really boring.

Just say no you dont like it, you much prefer xxxx or xxx. If he insists, then play the birth card. Totally justified in this case. You are vetoing it, like it or not, if he wants a son called xx then he can push out a baby. Until then, nope, not happening.

I agree with you OP. DH first name as DC middle name - fine, normal. DH entire name as DC entire name - weird and self important. Regardless of DC1's name.

Nah, naff to have a 'DH's name junior' imo.

I think a grandparents name is nice (if its a good name obvs) but always think its a bit egotistical to have a myname Jnr.

I would remind him that your children are not his own personal mini-me's.

If dc2 turns out to be a girl, will he be insisting that she should have your names?

No way! That makes DS1 the odd one out.

Plus it's egotistical and just plain rubbish.

My DC's dad wanted to name DS1 'his name' Junior and call him 'Junior'.
I told him to fuck off, he's not Peter Andre!

You already used his first name on DS1. What is he smoking?!

DH's middle name as DS2's first name, fine.

I find it really peculiar to be directly named after a parent unless the baby was named after the parent died. It feels self-absorbed and unimaginative.

We have two DSs and one on board. None of them has or will have any of DH's names, partly because they're very dated now. If on the other hand DS3 had shown three lines rather than frank and beans, she would have taken my middle name because all the women in ny maternal line have had it.

Agree with you! My uncle is named after his dad and he still complains about it and he's 50! He says its shows a lack of imagination.

Is your DH American?

I really don't like this. My poor mum has first name feminine version of dad's name, middle name her mum's name. I think it was a lot more common. How would your DH react if you told him it was old-fashioned, and now comes across as self-important?

And in this day and age with bank accounts, facebook accounts, and lord knows what else so much acreage for confusion.

I hate it when kids have same name as parents. Makes life at work difficult and can cause confusion with people opening parent's mail etc.
Shows a lack of imagination and an overly egotistical nature, IMO.

Great username, Penelope! Unless it's after your mum

OP, put your foot down, honestly. Unless you are from a stinking rich dynasty, Junior anything sounds ridiculous.

My DH is named after his father - it means that he uses his middle name all the time instead of his first. He hates it!

I think it would reflect very badly on your DH TBH. Very cringeworthy and a terrible idea. Egomaniac indeed.

I am guessing from your OP that this doesn't apply to you/your DH but in many parts of Europe and Asia it is usual to name the first born son after the father. Generations of males all with the same name.

To answer your question though it may look a bit like you couldn't be bothered to think of a name for DS2. Why not suggest to DH you name the child after your father/brother/male relative. I bet that will have him coming up with new non-family names.

Agree with you, it's really not fair on DS2 - he is a person in his own right and deserves his own identity. He isn't an extension of your DH.

I think it shows either a real lack of imagination or astonishing egocentricity to insist on your child having your own name.

Is he an egotistical nightmare normaly?
If I met someone who had named their child after themselves, I would judge (sorry!) and 'junior'?! He does get that your Dc is a person in their own right, doesn't he?

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Great minds and all that

Are you in Scotland?

A lot of people give boys their father's name up here.

All I can say is that I wouldn't.

DH's family has a tradition whereby the child has the relevant parent's first name as their middle name. Except that DMIL didn't want to inflict her first name on her DD, so used her middle name for DD's middle name instead.

This worked out quite well for us as DH's first name is similar to my maiden name, so it felt like acknowledging both of our families in some way in DS's name. We chose him a first name just for him though.

So I would say, starting from where you are, I would give DS2 a first name all of his own and then DH's middle name as his middle name. So both DS's get something of their own, and something of DH's.

I was given the same name as my mother. My brother was given the same name as my father. We always assumed that it was so that they had an excuse to open all our post. We also rather hated the implication that we were meant to be their little avatars out in the world.