Which Name do you Hate Most?

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I hate the name Jane; I'm not saying it's the ugliest name in the world, by a long way (that's probably Griselda), but because of associations. Firstly, it was the name of the most horrible bully at my secondary school; and now, also, there's the Inbetweeners movie, in which the gorgeous Jay gets paired up with a fat plain Jane who is not cute enough for him!

Just like calling people chavs, hating a name says more about the limitations of the hater than it does about the name itself.

Whilst I agree that making judgements about people based on a name choice is shameful, I also think that this thread has been taken far too seriously.

You can tell from the title of the thread what kind of content is going to be posted. If you think it's a shitty idea for a thread and demonstrates a kind of negative trend on MN, don't waste your time entering the discussion.

I suspect that it was intended to be lighthearted, but somehow it's become a slanging forum; a place for childish and borderline abusive commets and simultaneously a place for people to spout holier-than-thou 'I don't hate anything' nonsense. Come off it.

It's become really pointless and I wish someone would just flippin' delete it.

Intended to be lighthearted is utter bollocks and an excuse for being plain nasty. I've been on here 6 years now and I've not yet seen a thread on this topic that doesn't go the same way. This is a parenting website ffs. Most people on here have named their children, agonised over that choice and to have someone "lightheartedly" telling you they "hate hate hate" that name sucks. Some people can laugh it off, others can't. To pretend that everything is rosy and people who are upset about it are just being over sensitive shows a deliberate ignorance. "if you don't like it, don't click on it" is a shit defence too.

Well My DDs name has been on here twice though defended once.

My Ds Name hasnt yet made the cut but has come close and I never knew people disliked the letter K so much!!! (his initial)

My dad and brothers name have been on here too.

I think names are very personal and not every one will like the same names as you and thats life, although I wouldnt judge people because of their names I think people should be able to say if they dislike a name.

Names I dislike are-

Roger
Richard
Sharon
Kevin
Clive
Maud
Maureen
Ethel
Edward
George
Ronald
Audrey
Kelvin
Claudia
Mary

I expected nothing less than yet another passive-aggressive (more aggressive, in total truth) rant in response to my post. I'm not going to defend what I said, no more than I'll attack what was said in reply.

That's it, I'm out of this senseless, stupid to-and-fro.

I am not keen on the "ie" names and think you should give a proper name and then use the nickname of that's what you prefer. Call him Charles and just shorten it to Charlie, you can register him at school as Charlie if you like.

I wouldn't have called my DD anything ending in "a". I think it's too fancy somehow, although there are loads of lovely strong names, like Victoria, ending in a. Irrational.

Am ashamed now

Sorry MrsDV

Jayden/Kayden
Dale
Wayne

Kayleigh/Kylie

Hate is a bit strong though but strongly dislike [mainly because of people I have taught].

I just read the first page and wish I hadn't posted now :(

I can't stand the name Eunice. Or Eustace. Horrible names.

I thought Gwen was quite restrained, actually.

greylady people just don't think. We've all been guilty of it.

Loving your work Usual. Totally agree with MrsDeVere and Gwen. DD1 has a friend whose name would have plenty on here clutching their pearls. And what do you know, she's the sweetest, kindest, funniest and cleverest child in class. Besides mine of course .

Tasha! DP's pretty, dancer ex girlfriends name shes got fat thighs so its ok

milky's is the only decent excuse so far - and one I can kind of empathise with

I dont want anyone to be ashamed or upset.
I dont think people should like all names. It is absolutly fine to dislike names.
We all have names we wouldnt chose for our children.

What I really, really object to is the nastiness and snobbishness that prevails on these threads.

I happen to be wc and have adopted a child with a 'chavvy' name. His name fits in fine with my other DC's so no one raises an eyebrow.

But I would go so far as to say the majority of adopters are MC and the vast majority of adopted children are wc. The come with the type of names slagged off so merrily on MNs.

People feel the need to change the names of their adopted children because of this sort of prejudice. That cannot be right can it?

Lets face it, apart from the 'I knew a girl at school called Debbie and she was horrible to me' most of the comments are based on snobbery.

That may be snobbery against the Persephones of this world but it is most likely against the Jaydens and Chanices.

I know it is a trivial matter to many and I KNOW that most posters are lovely and really dont mean anything awful. I get that.

But I do think we all need to have a closer look at why we think it is ok to be so unpleasant about names. If we are honest - it isnt about the names. It goes far deeper than that.

I know I bang on about it. I know I pop up on these threads a lot but it means a lot to me.

I think having an adopted child who has had no control over his name, who is not being bought up by the person who named him, who is constantly being judged by people who have never met him - brings this home sharply. Much more so than if people just say 'I dont like Rudy - it a silly name'

And i dont think anyone can accuse me of being passive agressive.

If the passive aggressive jibe was meant for me, there was nothing passive about my post .

I have no objection to a thread stating what names aren't your cup of tea. Of course not everyone likes the same names. That would be stupid. It's the ones that tar all people with a particular name with the same nasty brush that I object to. "Every x I've met has been a complete bitch therefore I hate the name x because she'll be a bitch" Or the chav thing that MrsDV mentions.

I don't want to quote anyone in particular so as not to make it a personal attack. But there's nothing like giving people a fair crack of the whip, and as the old joke goes, this is nothing like giving people a fair crack of the whip...

Kai for a boy, Taylor for a girl.

I dislike Lawrence and Cameron and most boys names beginning with K.

Nothing snobby in my opinion....just do not like the names.

Also I am not keen on Kasey for a girl or Ellen (too hard) or Chloe.

Just not to my taste.

Just as well we are all different or everyone would have the same name!

Very suprised my sons name isn't listed!

Very shocked - neither of my DC names are on here! Is that a good thing?! My name's not on the thread but DH's is...Oh well, there's time yet!

Millie and Noah

I'm a Megan. :)

And DS is a Sam and is usually lovely, those of you who haven't met a nice one are welcome to pop by.

Mmm, I totally agree - some of the reasons for 'hate, hate, hating' names are pretty horrible.

The reason I gave for not liking the name 'Fleur' was because the one and only person I have ever known called Fleur bullied me, when we were both very young. I recognise that actually it is a very pretty name (french for flower, what's not to like?), and that people called Fleur are in all likelihood very nice people. But I can't detach the name from the experience of my primary school self, at the mo' Maybe one day, when I meet another Fleur, I'll be able to lay that ghost to rest and appreciate the name properly.

'Hating' names because of the class they are perceived to belong to is not great though. I really wish I hadn't got involved on this thread now, reading back everything. There are far too many really unkind judgemental attitudes on it.

Ooh, Ruprekt, I love the name Ellen! And I'm having a girl. Thanks!

Don't think you meant your post to have quite that effect, but it does prove we're all different

An "I'm Spartacus" moment would be apt.

Or more an "I'm Brian, and so is my wife."