Cartier

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I have a friend who has called her baby daughter this - I can't bring myself to tell her I like it when I don't. She keeps asking our circle of friends their opinion so I think she is a little unsure herself. I don't want to hurt her feelings, what would you say?

Have you asked her why she chose that name? Is there some family connection or deeper meaning attached to it? If I was feeling nice I'd say something like "It's very distinctive, not the sort of name I would have been brave enough to choose but if you like it that's the main thing."

Exactly what Mighty said.

I'm totally with you on that one BTW.

I would say I liked it.

I wouldn't want to hurt a friends feelings

I wouldn't be friends with anyone who had such poor taste thought it was OK to bestow such a name upon their offspring.

I'm sure they wouldn't want to be friends with someone like you either.

I don't think any of my friends would have such different taste to mine, so it is hard to imagine any of them having a Cartier. But if they did, I'd accept it of course and be polite about it. But I would not lie and say I actually liked it.

I'd lie and say I liked it.

I would just repeatedly say "It's very unusual." and "It's good that everybody has different taste in names, or all children would be called about three names."

Does she say it with an ay or an er on the end?

I'd say 'that's interesting, what's the story behind that name?'. That way hopefully you'll steer the subject away from whether you like it or not!

Is she planning on H.Samuel and Ernie Jones for the next ones?

Not much of a friend are you?

Sorry OP but I LOL'ed at isla's comment and surely next girl will be Tiffany

Just out of curiosity pets WWYD? Lie and say you liked it when you didn't or hurt your friends feelings & potentially jeopardise the friendship? It sounds to me like OP is in a no win situation.

I would just say I liked it. No good can come of saying anything different!

Why would anyone want to deliberately hurt a friends feelings over a name?

What MrsHelsBels74 said.

I'm fond of my friends and dont like to hurt them by being sneery so yes I would be nice about it.

Plenty of my friends have called their children names I'm not keen on, I wouldn't tell them that though.

If I was just told the name, I would say something like 'That's really unusual. Is it a family name?' I wouldn't lie and say I liked it.

If I was actively asked whether I liked it by a close friend I'd say something like 'Well, it's not my style, you know my two have very traditional names, but the main thing is that you like it.' If she confessed she was unsure whether she did, I would take her lead, but if she said something like 'I do but I'm worried about reactions' I would probably gloss over it.

I try not to lie, but not to hurt feelings.

Very dangerous conversation territory! Seriously though if you pick such an unusual name and ask people's opinions then you shouldn't be upset if everyone doesn't tell you it's lovely. I don't think that good friends should just tell you what you want to know, there is something important about being honest too. I'd go for MrsHelsBels approach and try diversion, in the hope that I could say something positive about the reason, if not the name, which frankly is quite awful.

If pressed I'd be as polite as possible but I'd not say I liked it, because I avoid lying to my friends (assuming this is a good friend as opposed to a passing acquaintance). I might give a 'it's not to my taste, but my time for naming children is long past' type response, or a 'my preference is for established names'. For a really good friend I might try something more bantery and ask if their dh hadn't given them any jewelery for a while.

I've never heard of it being used as a first name, and don't take to it.

I think asking why she chose it is a good idea: perhaps you'll both be happily diverted on to the reasons and history? Or praise it for being unusual and distinctive?

Cartier ? But why why why ?

What an awful name for a child .

To be honest I don't know what I would say to a friend either - I would be in shock !

Say something nice, even if you don't mean it.

I just met a baby called Faberge They should get together

The trouble is that the OP has lost the chance now to say 'That's lovely!' which is what I now always compose myself to say before I actually ask, "So, what have you called her, then?" after an embarrassingly frank reaction once to a daft name

Hard to be anything but honest. You could say that it's taken you a while to get used to it but it's growing on you.