Cartier

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I have a friend who has called her baby daughter this - I can't bring myself to tell her I like it when I don't. She keeps asking our circle of friends their opinion so I think she is a little unsure herself. I don't want to hurt her feelings, what would you say?

Warts grow grown on you too !

Come on - "that's unusual" is hardly the most subtle thing to say.

She's already called the child by that name. Just be polite and say it's nice. It's one thing before she named her, another when the name has been given. It doesn't make a blind bit of difference, so just say it's lovely.

If she is just thinking of it as a possibility and hasn't chosen, then I'd just come out with a bit of honesty and say that's a pretty awful name. If she has chosen it already then I'd just say it's nice, or if I really couldn't I'd say something like it's really unique!

I can't imagine you would wish to upset your friend - imagine how you would feel if it was the other way round?

So, put on your most winsome smile and lie say 'how lovely' or 'how unusual'. You will feel very saintly if you do this!

If she's unsure about it herself then she's probably expecting you not to like it. If if were me I'd tell her that it wouldn't be what I'd choose but it's her baby so it's her decision and as long as she loves it then she should stick with it. Something along those lines - you don't need to lie but don't tell her you outright hate it either.

Is she pulling your leg? Just trying to work out your posting name on MN?

If the name has some meaning then maybe that will help it make more sense?
My son is named Frederick after my grandfather who I adored & I don't honestly give a rat's ass if other people don't like it. Does that make sense?

If the opportunity to find out why has passed I would just honestly say it wasn't my taste but we're all different & if she likes it it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks.

If it's def the name and has been decided on then just lie and say something nice. And hope she doesn't read mn.

It would be different if it was a potential name but now the baby has been named just be nice. Don't even try to diplomatically avoid giving an opinion. Just lie and say it's lovely. You won't be struck down for telling a white lie and absolutely no good can come of any other reaction.

Oh, and don't bitch about it behind your friend's back because she will probably find out.

I mis-read it as Carter, which is far from glam.

Anyway,if your friend has used it, tell a white lie. No point in anything else.

Cartier? Can they even pronounce it properly?

I never understand why anyone should pretend to like something if they don't. We all have different tastes in things, so why not be honest. Names in particular can have connotations, good or bad, that are personal to people, so disliking a name shouldn't be perceived as an insult to the name-giver.

FirCough, maybe because when they ask you if you like it, answering negatively isn't going to have any affect on the situation. If you say "yes" they'll be happy. If they say "no" they might be a bit sad, but they can't change the name anyway.

Some people are just more sensitive than others.

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Personally I couldn't give a fig if someone didn't like the name I'd given my child, and I certainly wouldn't take it personally, so I would rather they were honest.

The most important person is the child, and of course we can't predict how they will feel about the name. The best we can do is give them a name or names that offers them a bit of flexibility.

Be nice. It won't kill you. It's her baby to name and a world where everyone had the same taste would be pretty boring. You can move on quickly to inquire about the gorgeous baby, how everyone is doing...

'A rose by any other name..' etc

Mums can be sensitive in the postpartum period and I think erring on the side of niceness is always the best way to go.

Loads of folk don't like my dd's name (which is pretty unusual) and have been pretty honest about it. I'm not arsed. It's an unusual long name which can be shortened to a common name so she can pick when she's older.

The essence of my post was, I'd never be so rude as to bad mouth someone's name but I'm not bothered if other people are.

Oh God, poor kid.

Say nothing. If she asks you point blank, lie. Nothing else you can do if you want to stay friends.

Like the jewellery line?
Its not too bad, just dont say anything!

It depends how good you are at lying IMO. If you lie and say you like it, but are a crap lier and the friend can tell you don't mean what you're saying, she'd probably be more upset that if you just said 'that's an interesting name, is there a story around it?'. So I would be deliberately vague and not say anything about the name unless asked directly.

For me, the obvious thing to do when introduced to a new little Cartier, would be to say "Ahhhh, isn't she gorgeous" and change the focus of the conversation from a possibly iffy name to the certainly lovely baby. Then maybe ask the story behind it.

It's by these little lies that people keep giving their children stupid names :)