Calling people who have kept their own surname or double barrelled and given their DC their maiden name as an extra middle name ....

[nappyaddict]

Sorry for long title but I'm after some rather specific people

Are your DC known as First Name Extra Middle Name Surname

Or are they just known as First Name DP/Hs Surname

I really really want any future DC to be known by both my surname and DPs.

DP doesn't want them to have a double-barrelled surname.

I wondered if giving them my maiden name as an extra middle name could be a compromise but would they actually be known by both names or would it just be DPs surname that they would be known by?

If he doesn't want them to have a hyphenated surname, give your DC your surname with his as an extra middle name!

He seems to be not leaving much leeway for compromise or your ideas over this.

I'm not what you want, DS is DS DPsurname-MySurname. We did choose to use a hyphen because otherwise i could see future filing problems - hospital filing under MySurname, Library filing under DPsurname because they didn't know whether it was a middle name or the first of two surnames.

8 children in DS's class have hyphenated surnames - a sign of the unmarried times, and where women don't change their name.

what you going to do?
both names as surname is only way to get equal legal and day to day recognition

if your name becomes the middle name,and not surname it will not officially be used and will end up as unused middle name

i do understand want to keep surname. we have double barreled surname for kids - both happy.both keep and pass on names

Our dc is first name/middle name/my surname as extra middle name/his surname.

But some of our friends have both surnames not hyphenated. Eg John Smith Jones.

PullUpaPew I see what you mean. So by hyphenating it's more like creating a new name but without the hyphen it's just like having 2 individual surnames?

What you said about each parent's surnname having equal status, do you think that is more so when you don't have a hyphen than when you do?

Ok, so you aren't married to him... Why don't you offer him a choice. Either you do double-barrel, or your baby has your surname

It's actually your decision...