Thoughts on having the same name as a friends baby?

[justasmallglass]

Considering Charlie for DS2, however friend's 6 month old has the same name. We are in touch but don't see each other every week. Acceptable to steal?

Although in saying that my dd2 (the one with the popular name ), started nursery school last September and I was expecting a plethera of them, she was the only one in an intake of 50 and there are a few children with (according to MN) the same slighly more unique name, so its just luck or local MNetters as Mums

I don't know anyone with the same name as your DD2 Wiggles! There are none in DD1's class. Isn't that funny :o?

I know RobinSparkles, its weird - I know a 9 year old and a woman in her 60s with it but its supposed to be everywhere. Must be the circles in which I mix

Only my personal experience to base this on, but DH's close friend who he's known for 20 years and who was his best man, called his DS the same name as our DS (there's about 2 years between them) and, tbh, we were both upset.

BUT...

I have to stress that I think most of the upset was not so much about the name usage, but about the fact that they didn't speak to us about it and ask how we might feel if they wanted to use the same name. If they had done that, we would have told them to go right ahead!

They actually did the opposite - they lied to our faces when we saw them two weeks before and told us a different boys' name when we asked what they were thinking of. They also sent us an altered "our boy has arrived" text - everyone else's had baby name as our DS's name, whereas ours had a nickname version of DS's name.

It was the sneakiness that made us cross. Speak to your friend, and give her a heads up. You shouldn't have to ask permission, but if it were me, I'd want to know so it wouldn't be a surprise.

We just faced sorta the same issue. I think it is acceptable to choose the same name if you want. although maybe discuss it with the friend first (we did and friends were fine with it).

However, we decided to go with a different one, since several friends had children with the same name and we wanted to avoid confusion. Just one of many things to consider in the mix of picking a name.