Rupert?? Starting to have doubts

[threecurrantbuns]

Youve probably seen me around asking this before, i was dead set and loved it goes with my other dcs names, but now im starting to waver and wondering whether i should just go for a more 'normal' everyday name.

I know family wont be keen thats is in the back on my mind saying that i have a Hugo and that was a grower as far as the family went.

If you like it stick with it, I am slightly dreading telling my parents the name of their first grandchild as it is quite unusual but I know they will come to like it. I think Rupert is cute and work for an adult as well - will prob be called Rupe as a teenager though.

What are you doubting? It's not a name you hear a lot, but it's not weird.

My nephew is a Rupert. He is a sweetheart.

I dont really know why im doubting as i do love it but i suppose its because its unusual so not sure how people will react also think way to far ahead to tennage years and possible bullying i dont mind rupe or roo as nn.

I have a Grace, Daisy and Hugo if we have another boy i think it would go well but prob the most unusual of the four.

Maybe its becuae a friend has just had an oliver and he is gorgeous, it made me think i going a bit to far with Rupert but i do really LOVE it. Too much time thinking about it as a while ago i was actually hoping for a boy as this is our last and i didnt want to not get the chance to use it.

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What are you doubting threecurrants? Rupert is a lovely, classic name that (thankfully) isn't overused as so many others are these days (including Oliver imo). Isn't the whole point of naming someone to IDENTIFY him or her? You're not naming him to please others, you're naming him to identify him using a name you love and that works well for you (goes with surname, other dc's names).

My ds has a name that was used only 13 times last year. Yes, it isn't used as widely as more popular names at the moment. And yes, by definition, not everyone will love it. But it is a classic (latin) name that people can pronounce/spell easily and, most importantly, it sounds good with our surname and we love it.

Stick to your choice if you love it .

Rupert is a lovely name, one of my favourites, do stick with it

I love the name Rupert. I chickened out at last minute, and it's ds2's middle name. Still love it.

Stick to the name you love. You'll always regret it otherwise!

I have a friend with Ruperto as middle name.

I mean her DS's middle name. He's 2.

Just so long as you are aware that people will think it's very posh. But then so is Hugo.

Rupert is classic, lovely name that isn't overused. What's wrong with having a posh name?

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Ooh yes do use it. I love it - it is quite posh I suppose but also very cute. I used to know a Rupert and he was a lovely person. Don't let others' (potential) opinions put you off - he will be your son not theirs!

If you love it, please use it, or you'll regret it. What excactly is wrong with having a posh name - I really don't get this.. surely a person will define who he is and people associate the person with his/her name, not the other way around.

Personally I love Rupert!

I know a couple of grown up Ruperts - I think its a bit of a tricky one to carry off as people make assumptions of poshness about it. But at least one gets shortened to Rupe and it suits him - and he's not that posh.
Another poshish name I rather like is Giles.

I don't either understand how having a 'posh' name should be a negative?

Well, to go against the grain, my DS has a quite posh name, but I think Rupert is a bit too wussy, I always hear it as Woopert. I knew a Rupert at uni and he was very public school, blonde floppy hair, acted like something out of Brideshead, in a sweet kind of way. But, hey, that's just me.

But what is the problem if people (wrongly or rightly) assume that a person is posh (based on their name)? Do they treat him differently as a result? Do they not like him as much as someone with a 'non-posh' name?

We've got kids with all kinds of names at our school - the kids certainly don't treat their mates any differently based on whether a name is perceived (by adults) as posh, chav or foreign as far as I can tell.

Actually I think Rupert will become the new Isaac - that was a name when DS was born 16 years ago - it sounded very grown up and strange and he was almost the only one. Now it is everywhere. (Still love it though and glad we went for it!)

And what if your child has a name that is 'posh' in the UK but very common in another and moves here? Or if the parents named the child without knowing that it was a 'posh' name? Will this child be disadvantaged..?

Sorry to go on about this but I really struggle to understand some people's focus on 'labelling' names & people by class rather than on judging them on their personalities.

I don't think having a posh name is a negative. But some names do carry very strong associations. And it's important to be aware of them before you decide. Rupert, Hugo, Nigel, Tarquin, for example, are all are names which some people will make ridiculous "upper class twit" type comments about. And if you want to avoid the comments, it's best to avoid the name.

Ok, thanks Seeker.

But if some adults are childish enough to make "upper class twit" comments (and perhaps also "lower class chav") comments, then isn't that their problem? If they choose to judge others on their name, then surely they will be the ones losing out (e.g. by not making friends, by not employing these people with "funny" names)?