Oh MrsVictor, so sad for you. I don't know your story or situation - if it helps to share with us then do..
It's crap isn't it, and that's an understatement. I hate the word termination. I think from your post that you are going to give birth? how many weeks are you? The whole 48 hr wait is a bit of a shock but your body needs to get itself ready. I lost my first baby in 2004, and because this was my first I was so unprepared, in every way imaginable. The hospital were kind and caring but it was a scary and awful time because I knew nothing about what was coming and how it would feel and what to do. Heartbreakingly I had a second termination this March, having had a healthy pregnancy in between (she's almost 3 now). Because I had been through both labour and a termination before, I knew what to expect and where to turn for support etc, and it made such a huge difference. So if I can be any help at all to you, please ask, because I wish Mumsnet had been here for me first time round.
Ok, just got back from reading your own thread. Never heard of that particular chromosomal abnormality, but my first baby had an unusual (unknown) one, and I know other ladies who have had problems where there are only a handful of cases worldwide. You poor hun.
With the actual delivery, you'll be allowed whatever drugs you like, so don't be shy asking for pain relief. You have as much right/need as any Mum at full term. There are things you can ask tomorrow when you go in, to help smooth the journey on Friday. Ask exactly where you'll need to go, if you'll have your own room, who will be expecting you: find out their name and if poss say hello tomorrow so there is a familiar face. It's crap turning up and having to explain, when all you want to do is crumble, so make sure they tell you what you need to know.
Ask what pain relief is offered, and also who will be with you when you deliver. Some hospitals have a 'hands off' approach, where they leave you in peace unless you specifically require something, until you are ready to deliver - however some people find this feels like they have been abandoned! Ask how often you will be checked upon and maybe roughly how dilated they expect you to get before it all happens.
I know it may feel like you want to rush home afterwards for home comforts, but staying in isn't necessarily a bad thing - it gives you a chance to come to terms a little with what your body has been through, and feel medically 'looked after'. It also gives you a moment to take it all in, and say goodbye at a pace you can take. My husband has been allowed to stay both times, in my room, on his own bed, and fed too! Ask what their policy is on letting partners stay over.
I can write more about seeing and holding your little baby, but I don't want to overwhelm you all at once. If you feel up to it, spend some time tonight stroking your tummy and telling your baby whatever you need to say. I have talked to mine, tears streaming down my face, but needed the chance to do this.
I wrote to katiecubs recently that you might want a photo or two of you pregnant, as a keepsake of a real little life. Creating tangible evidence of their presence can be important for afterwards.
I could go on but have been writing this message on and off for an hour and probably ought to check in on real life for a moment.
HUGE hugs for tomorrow, you will be ok, and you will get through this. Lots of hand holding here. xxxxxxx