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To ask how the frick I am pregnant?

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Arachnophobic · 17/02/2014 02:39

I had a copper coil fitted in 2012 after Ds2 was born. Has worked well for us until I smelled a rat this week and my worst fears were confirmed when I found out I was pregnant Shock

I am so annoyed at having to go through this and an inevitable termination - I would have so loved three in an ideal world but DH and I know that the financial and emotional burden would be too overwhelming, so as far as that's concerned, the decision has been made.

Has anyone else experienced or been through this?

OP posts:
RunRabbit · 17/02/2014 02:47

Do you use other contraception, like a condom, or just rely on the coil?

Original poster
Arachnophobic · 17/02/2014 02:51

I just relied on the coil.

OP posts:
YankeeMum8 · 17/02/2014 03:23

I'm so sorry. Nothing is 100%. Awful for you to have to go through this though.

LettertoHermioneGranger · 17/02/2014 03:37

I'm sorry op. The coil is supposed to be the next best thing to sterilization, but I know pregnancies do happen. Have you been to a doctor or just POAS? I only ask as the risk of ectopic is higher with a coil, and it's advised to get a scan asap.

Kytti · 17/02/2014 03:55

I'm a bit surprised you're putting this on MN with a flippant 'I'll have a get a termination'.

Really? How distasteful to discuss something like this on AIBU like a joke? I'm so sorry you can't make the financial sacrifices to keep your baby, if you want three, have three. Don't blame your lack of finances, people can always find the money somehow. Just admit a third baby won't suit your lifestyle.

Nothing is 100%. Nothing. Unless you have your womb removed, there's always a chance you can get pregnant.

Jeepers.

MsPavlichenko · 17/02/2014 04:14

Sorry that you have found yourself in this situation, it is not easy dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. Can I just also say, that you should get scanned asap just in case it is ectopic, as this will impact on whatever you decide to do. Thinking of you.

Andypipkin · 17/02/2014 04:14

Kytti, your 'advice' is rather irresponsible and judgemental. The OP didn't want to get pregnant, hence using contraception.
It is unusual OP, but no contraception is 100% reliable, sorry you have to go through this though.

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Arachnophobic · 17/02/2014 05:44

Thanks all, yes I appreciate nothing is 100% so DH will be booked in for a procedure as well while I am at the doctors today (his request!). Wow, some people can be so harsh on here! But thanks to everyone else.

OP posts:
Kytti · 17/02/2014 06:07

Harsh? Hm. About as harsh as saying (insert amusing emoticon) OMG I'm pregnant! How did that ever happen? Perhaps if your tone had been less flippant I could take your post seriously.

Oh drat, it failed, "Oh I'd love a baby but won't be able to cope so I'll get rid."

Yeah. That's harsh. Don't go asking for opinions on the WORLD WIDE WEB if you don't want to hear it.

NewBlueCoat · 17/02/2014 06:11

Please do get checked ASAP in case it is ectopic.

I'm sorry this has happened and I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible.

AnyFuleKno · 17/02/2014 06:24

Kytti you are well out of order. I see no jokey tone at all, and it's the OPs decision. Not for anyone else to decide what she should do. We're not going to be there got the next 18 years supporting emotionally and financially. I respectfully suggest you wind your neck in.

mrscog · 17/02/2014 06:31

Kytti I think you're reading something in to the op that's not even there. Go and have a lie down or something.

Op sorry you've got to go through this, it's bit what you expect with a coil - after all having one fitted after sex is a form of contraception in itself so to be in the 'coil failure group' of 0.1% is very unlucky.

Jengnr · 17/02/2014 06:31

Kytti what a horrible post.

paxtecum · 17/02/2014 06:35

OP: Please ignore Kytti's comments, some people are just horrible.

The coil is not 100%.

Get sterilised. It is a very easy procedure using keyhole surgery.

Best wishes to you.

scaevola · 17/02/2014 06:36

OP: I think you need to get this moved out of AIBU ASAP.

SpottyTeacakes · 17/02/2014 06:48

You definitely need to get checked as the risk of ectopic is increased when you have a coil in, they will get you scanned ASAP and then you can discuss your options. Sorry this has happened op it must be really hard for you knowing you would love another one. What has dh said?

Bunbaker · 17/02/2014 06:51

"Really? How distasteful to discuss something like this on AIBU like a joke?"

That was uncalled for Kytti. You might not understand why some women are desperate not to have a baby, but there was no need to be so unkind.

EverythingIsAwesome · 17/02/2014 06:54

Kytti, I think you have an agenda here, and would be better posting elsewhere and staying off the OPs thread.

OP, I found myself in a similar situation, with the the mirena coil. I decided to continue with the pregnancy though, after they thought it was ecptopic & operated to remove my tube - found out they were wrong & baby was in fact growing in my womb. DS is 6 now.

Terrible situation you are in, I feel for you. If I found myself pregnant now, I would be devastated. Hand holding, if you need it.

99redbafoons · 17/02/2014 06:57

I'm really sorry you are facing this and I'm also sorry you have to read bizzare posts such as Kytti. It's easy to hide behind the internet and throw out insults, accidents happen and you do not have to have a baby if you don't think that's right for you.

Tailtwister · 17/02/2014 07:01

Whilst I have a lot of sympathy for OP and the very difficult situation she finds herself in, I do think perhaps we might see past our own noses regarding Kytti's post. We don't know what's going on in her life and her reaction may be coloured by her own difficult experiences. I can see why she's reacted in the way she has if that is the case.

NutcrackerFairy · 17/02/2014 07:01

I don't want to be judgemental but have to say I also found the OPs tone a little flippant "I am so annoyed that I will have to have the inevitable termination".

It's not that you want or need a termination OP, I think it's that you're just annoyed about it.

Maybe that doesn't make much sense but it's a little hard to read if you're someone who is struggling to get pregnant and doesn't make me feel very sympathetic.

Original poster
Arachnophobic · 17/02/2014 07:03

I wondered that tailtwister, not that I feel her nastiness was warranted.

OP posts:
Mouthfulofquiz · 17/02/2014 07:03

Kytti quite obviously has other issues going on.
I really feel for you. Get to the the docs ASAP and have a long chat with your husband about what happens next. You'll need a lot if support from him either way....

jacks365 · 17/02/2014 07:04

Of course the op is allowed to be annoyed, she took steps to prevent this and it failed anyone would be annoyed.

SpanielFace · 17/02/2014 07:04

I conceived DS with a copper coil. Like you, I was utterly gobsmacked. We hadn't been certain if we wanted children, but it made the decision for us. They are not as reliable as Mirena, and I've now heard quite a few stories like this on here. Sad So sorry, must be an awful situation to be in.