to be very lonely. and angry with my "friends"

[superv1xen]

i moved house in january to a new area. until i moved i had 3 best friends who i used to see regularly, we all have kids of similar ages. but since i moved only one of them ever bothers with me, we see eachother at least once a week and i would now class her as my best friend. however the other 2 have pretty much stopped bothering with me now, one of them has only been to my new house 3 times and the other one has never even bothered to come round. i have met up with her in town twice in the 5 months i have been here! this is despite me regularly asking them to meet up or do something and them always having excuses. i havent even moved very far!!

the one who has been to my new house twice is at college and finishes in 3 weeks. last week i asked her if she could meet up this week and she said she was snowed under with work and probably couldnt meet till after her course finishes, which is fair enough, i understood and was fine with that.

however, it transpires (through facebook) that the 2 of them met up in town for a coffee today. and never even bothered to ask me!! and something else that annoys me is that they were both friends with me first, and didnt know eachother, and now they seem to have pushed me out and are thick as thieves.

i dont know anyone in my new area, i am really shy and find it hard to meet people. i have been to my local surestart group with the kids but it seems hard to get chatting to the others there as they already all seem to know eachother. and i dont want to come across as desperate even though i am

i cant believe i am 30 years old and basically have ONE real friend. i have one or two others but barely see them, they are more acquaintances really. its pathetic. i am so lonely. i am a SAHM and i should be having a great time meeting up with other mums, doing lunch and coffees and stuff but i am not.

my DP suggests that they are jealous of me now i have moved (its a much nicer house, bigger than theirs, and we have spent a lot of money doing it up) also its housing association which are very hard to get. but surely no one would be that petty?

School gates are fine for many of us, I quite like them, having been new at 3 school gates in the last few years, they're a place to meet people, make new friends, or meet your children's friends' parents. I haven't really come across any bitchiness (maybe I just ignore it) but have met lots of generally friendly nice people. And a few I can live without but there's no antagonism. IMO the school gate crowd are especially friendly if can bear to volunteer for any of those things like helping at the fete.

Superv1xen. Speak to your health visitor about Post Natal Depression. Being isolated or feeling abandoned is one (of many) symptoms.

I am in similar situation to you and now dianosed to have PND. They call it the silent epidemic because no-one wants to admit to having it, and most don't know they are suffering with it.

Also. My Dad always used to say (when I fell out with friends at school etc), that you only make a handfull of REAL friends throughout your Whole life, the rest are acquaints.

Get out there if you can. clubs, courses, groups. There are a whole load of really good friends you haven't met yet x

Acquaintants

well alls well that ends well Colleen!

sometimes friends can be as much of a trial as men I think..

dont let this put you off finding some new local friends too

thanks girls.

and sorry i was rude to some of you.

also, have found out about another group for mums that are into rock music (which i am) its like an "alternative" mum and baby/toddler group, it runs on fridays so i am going to go to that starting from next week.