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Original poster

to think he should offer to feed a pregnant lady?

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1pregheadpumpkin · 17/06/2010 19:38

DP is at work and im stuck in his dad's house and im really hungry as i last ate at midday. im ravenous and cant really go through his fridge for food as im a guest. but it doesnt look as if dinner is going to be cooked and i dont want to ask.

as im carrying his grandchild he should feed me yes?

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waitingforbedtime · 17/06/2010 19:39

well yes but you could just say 'ooh could I make dinner or order a take out?'

IMoveTheStars · 17/06/2010 19:40

Just ask if you can make some toast!

zerominuszero · 17/06/2010 19:44

Go "for a walk" to macdonalds

Ryuk · 17/06/2010 19:46

Of course he should feed you. Even if you weren't pregnant, if you're stuck there it's polite to offer you something. Don't feel bad about asking.

rubyslippers · 17/06/2010 19:49

Just ask to make yourself some toast

Or grab some cereal

Really not a big deal and can't see why you can't ask?

Otterlybotterly · 17/06/2010 19:49

Don't bother asking - help yourself. Silly old sod (no offence).

Tombliboob · 17/06/2010 19:50

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Original poster
1pregheadpumpkin · 17/06/2010 19:53

im just the sort who wont ask. and he never has anything in to be honest. his shopping list ls as long as my arm. oh and there isnt any bread. or cereal as he doesnt eat cereal.

just went to shop. beyond hungry. will leave him to his football.

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thisisyesterday · 17/06/2010 19:55

oh come on... this is your partners dad and you're too scared to ask for some food?

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1pregheadpumpkin · 17/06/2010 19:59

i dont even ask my nan for food. i was brought up to believe its rude.

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scottishmummy · 17/06/2010 20:01

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thatsnotmymonkey · 17/06/2010 20:04

Weirdo!!

My PILS (who I am very close to) ask me if I have a worm!I am always hungry and need to eat little and often. It's family, so I think it is OK to do that. I would not dream of doing so at a mates house though.

I do think it is bad manners on their part not to offer you anything, have you been offered a beverage at least?

scottishmummy · 17/06/2010 20:04

since you are already online order a pizza cant believe any one is so wet and unassertive

Sn0wflake · 17/06/2010 20:07

Not everybody can be assertive. Some people find it dead hard.

scottishmummy · 17/06/2010 20:09

phone out for delivery.offer to pop out to chippy.sitting hoping grub appears is a bit daft.

get your purse out
either go out or order delivery

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1pregheadpumpkin · 17/06/2010 20:17

scottishmummy have you read my thread? i went to the shop and have now gotten food. christ dont have a cow. and im not terribly close to his dad to be honest. if it was his mum's house i'd happily be flicking the kettle on but usually she has it on anyway and will make sure i eat. it's almost akin to rummaging through a stranger's cupboards!

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thatsnotmymonkey · 17/06/2010 20:20

Why are you at hour FILS house anyway if it is so awkward?

scottishmummy · 17/06/2010 20:22

what a fuss.so you have eaten!hes not a stranger its your boyfriends dad - not some funny man from the village.and you presumably have cordial relationship.not suggesting rifling the family vaults only pop some toast on,grab a sandwich

posted at 19.38 so how long did you wait before going to shop?

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1pregheadpumpkin · 17/06/2010 20:26

cause he's usually at work and i was here with Dp but he's off to earn some pennies so im here . its not awkward per se, its just tentative. still getting to know him really. i was introduced to him much later than DPs mother. anyway he just popped in to the bedroom to see if i was asleep before returning to the football. im not being antisocial but i've been in here since DP left and am happy not listening to the vuvuzuelas!

you seem to have got me wrong. its not awkward i just think its rude to ask. im happy to get myself drinks but he's not got much money and i dont want to nab his food if its not offered.

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QualityTime · 17/06/2010 20:28

YANBU but he might just not be thinking about it
Just say you are hungry, DH's dad is like this, even after 15 years he doesn't think that I might want food at some point. His brain is wired into 'MIL deals with food I don't have to' mode permanently I think
I tend to say, 'I'm hungry FIL, can I have a rummage for some food or can I eat the dog?'
He then normally points me at his 'nice food' stash (it moves)

Tell him you are a bit hungry and need something to eat.

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1pregheadpumpkin · 17/06/2010 20:29

and scottish mummy as ive already said there is no bread. what do you suggest i make toast from?

i have eaten now, yes. i've been hungry for a couple of hours. posted this then decided that instead of waiting id get food. sin of sins. and if thats not assertive. what is?

and im not going home, i'd like to see DP when he comes back from work.

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scottishmummy · 17/06/2010 20:31

all you had to do was phone out/go out.not sit for 7+hours hoping food appears

fair enough you dont want to faff about in his house but hoping,waiting.in time it took you to post on mn you could have ordered takeaway

no way when i was pg i could have gone hungry.no siree

thatsnotmymonkey · 17/06/2010 20:33

Eeer, still not sure why you are there, in another room? Why can't you go home, or is your DP picking you up?
Maybe your FIL is thinking you are being rude by sitting in another room on the PC when you are supposed to be visiting him? Maybe?

Well what did you get to eat at the shop, some delicious pick picks? (pick picks means treat food you can eat with your fingers-salami, crisps, carrot sticks, hummous,olives, soft cheese etc)