SHUT THE F**K UUUUUUUUUUP

[Pavlov]

My next door neighbour's son is having an after club party of some kind. The police have said they can't do anything. I am presuming, given the type of music being played and the time of night and the increasing, not decreasing volume that drugs are involved, and as such I am not going to ask for it to be turned down. DH is unwell and is not able to ask either.

2.5 fucking hours.

I want to go and fucking batter him. Instead, when the baby wakes for the morning (luckily I have been able to settle him and DD is asleep in her loft room) at 6am, if he is no longer up I am going to go and hammer on the fucking door. If he is awake I am going to wait til 9am. And then I am playing disney really fucking loudly, ALL DAY.

Ear plugs!!!! So, I put in ear plugs, still hear the loud thudding through the wall but I cannot hear my baby who might need me, or my 3 year old. Why should I have to or rather, expect to find solutions to someone else's selfishness. I mean, clearly I do have to, but that does not make it ok.

What on earth is wrong with expecting courtesy and consideration. I had a blast growing up, an absolute ball with music and parties and fun, but it was always done respectfully and never ever had any complaints as we were in touch with our environment. When I did party all night (rarely) it was at festivals, or camping in the middle of nowhere.

In fact, this weekend. I am going camping i the middle of nowhere. I am staying in a tipi with my family and some of our friends are coming with their tents (there will be 12 of us) I will be having curry cooked on an open fire pit, chapattis cooked on the fire, etons mess with freshly picked strawberries, some beer, roasted marshmallows. There is a quiet time from 11pm-6am (so not disturbed by either late noise or early kids) and absolutely NO music is allowed, not even a guitar. How about that for being a total kiljoy. How boring it will be

Too right, Pav. And that campout sounds like my idea of heaven.

I was totally out of control back before I had kids.

I never once had a noise complaint from a neighbour. In the US, too, you can be evicted very quickly and easily for all night party.

Why? Because no one but the twat host and his/her inconsiderate, yob guests want to hear it. Or should have to.

Ever.

Yup 11pm loud music bad is not unreasonable. Completely normal.

It seems very ridiculous to me, that licences are needed for all sorts of things, and bars etc need to apply for them, but in a private house, no licence is required.

There should be a licence required for loud music after 11pm in a private house, definitely. That would make the whole issue much clearer when it came to enforcement and punishment.

i agree with all of you - very reasonable.

however, there are some would say that refusing to allow the odd all night party is insufferably boring and to impose that boringness on others is inconsiderate and twatish.

anyway, i'll get my coat before i am lynched!

ooh I fancy coming camping with you!!

ruby love no, you are quite, quite wrong

say 20 neighbours near enough to hear loud all night music, that's an all night party every two to three weeks if they all do it

that's why one ought to need a licence there's a reason why it's only an "odd" all night party the reason is that most people are decent sorts who wouldn't do it and it's only occasionally you get the dullard who thinks it's ok

what you are saying is that anyone not prepared put up with one selfish inconsiderate boring twat who's too immature to realise he or she is upsetting people and causing serious inconvenience is themselves inconsiderate

OBVIOUSLY this is not true

lol chuckle can't say fairer than that!

thinking about it, not everyone would do it, some people would rather not be up all night dancing, so not everyone would do it. therefore there wouldn't be that many parties.

all part of life's rich pattern. silly boy next door neighbour had an all night party. it happens. there are not enough resources to police this kind of thing when worthy causes such as domestic violence could do with more resources. it was one night. and what a nightmare it was, but it was one night only so imo no big deal.

anyway, i am going round in circles here ...