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SHUT THE F**K UUUUUUUUUUP

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Pavlov · 06/06/2010 03:52

My next door neighbour's son is having an after club party of some kind. The police have said they can't do anything. I am presuming, given the type of music being played and the time of night and the increasing, not decreasing volume that drugs are involved, and as such I am not going to ask for it to be turned down. DH is unwell and is not able to ask either.

2.5 fucking hours.

I want to go and fucking batter him. Instead, when the baby wakes for the morning (luckily I have been able to settle him and DD is asleep in her loft room) at 6am, if he is no longer up I am going to go and hammer on the fucking door. If he is awake I am going to wait til 9am. And then I am playing disney really fucking loudly, ALL DAY.

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Pavlov · 06/06/2010 16:21

yes i agree, only one night. and only one morning that shelves needed to be put up. job done now

I have had parties go on late but not past midnight, not loud past midnight. i have had djs play. On each occasion, there has been a reason and i notified all of my nieghbours, in front, next door and next door again. They were invited, they were asked if ok with it, and we promised to keep it low after midnight, dj stopped at midnight. We told them to knock if we were too loud after that. We were young, and we were responsible. Being young does not mean lack of responsibility. All our neighbours were fine with it due to them knowing it would not be regular. One of the women next door had young children and said thanks for the warning so she sent her children to grandparents for the night, she said we were only young once and to enjoy ourselves. If not possible, we would have held it somewhere else.

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expatinscotland · 06/06/2010 16:23

£700/month!? OUCH.

I'd like nothing more than neighbours who don't play loud music, though.

LellieT · 06/06/2010 16:38

Hi Pavlov - I started a very similar thread after yours... don't mean to steal your thunder, in fact I 100% sympathise. They are all knobs.
I hate beyond words these selfish, inconsiderate sh**s.

I'm gonna get myself a drum kit. And a water cannon to aim at their house.

sarah293 · 06/06/2010 16:45

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Snobear4000 · 06/06/2010 16:53

Jendaisy... If it's the armpit of the universe, then I have been spooning armpit yoghurt on my porridge for years. Must be her sister, Hackney friend woke up to "total eclipse" on repeat at 110 dB every morning for months until she moved.

Quattrocento · 06/06/2010 17:01

I think that live and let live is a good principle here. Providing it's not a regular thing ...

sarah293 · 06/06/2010 17:22

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SanctiMoanyArse · 06/06/2010 17:28

Doesn't it depend on how often?

there's a bloke a few doors down who somewhere around annually holds a massive karaoke party into the next morning. It's annoying as it happens (well actually it's so funny for the first five minutes then it gets annoying...) but I can't get generally worked up about that amount.

OTOH if it were weekly or more I would be crawling to their door weeping to beg.

Live and let live is an excellent maxim for aberrations: when it becomes a norm however stronger remedies are required.

expatinscotland · 06/06/2010 17:28

We do have a neighbour who had a once in blue moon party.

But I wasn't too put out because a) it was a weekend b) they were playing music I really like . In fact, I went and bought one of the albums they had on after being able to hear the whole thing from end to end.

RubyBuckleberry · 06/06/2010 18:59

riven shall we all live in a world that ends at 11pm?

er, what a barrell of laughs that would be .

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Pavlov · 06/06/2010 19:14

Lets just say, something serious happened today. Completely and utterly my fault. It turned out ok, but it could have been so different. And it was largely down to my complete exhaustion as a consequence of the arse next door.

I do not agree with live and let live if it affects other people negatively, done with complete selfishness. Why? Why do that? If it had been planned and I had been told I could have made alternative plans, it would NOT have been difficult. And, the music could have been turned DOWN, not OFF, but down, vague thumping through the walls I can handle, music so loud it is the same as in my own living room til almost 5am is NOT acceptable IMO.

Having fun does NOT mean misery for other people. One night or not.

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tvaerialmagpiebin · 06/06/2010 19:15

I sympathise OP. Two doors down from me live a couple with a son about 20. I don't know what he does but he is out all night and comes back in a taxi at 9am, then about 10.30am he puts on what I can only describe as druggie music with that very rhythmic beat that is faster than a heatbeat. Whatever the weather he has his bedroom window wide open and the sound reverberates around and I hear it from both sides of my garden. I really really detest that kind of "music", it makes me feel unwell due to the speed of the beat, and he is at it for hours. He switches it down when his parents come home about 5pm but it is still audible.
I have complained to the letting agent (I know them from having let out my house before) and they have written, phoned up, but to no avail.

It really gets me down. So I can imagine how you feel. I can't even get back at him with loud ds / DIY as he is two houses away.
There is no excuse but selfishness for this behaviour IMHO.

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Pavlov · 06/06/2010 19:21

lady thank you for asking how I am. I am in fact absolutely not ok. DD almost drowned today, and it is all my stupid fault for going when I was too tired. DH has a horrendous ear infection so I have been unable to sleep and have been running around getting medication for him and looking after the two children and desperately trying to put to one side the horrendous guilt I feel every time I look at my daughter so I can get them sorted, happy and into bed without bursting into tears every five seconds.

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Pavlov · 06/06/2010 19:23

lank the policeman I spoke to this morning said that if the windows are wide open, then they can come out. Might be worth a call.

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Hermya321 · 06/06/2010 19:33

The 2005 Clean neighbourhoods act gives councils powers to be able to deal with noisy neighbours and noise pollution.

Some councils have used this act to set up teams that come out on Friday and Saturday nights to be able to enforce this legislation. Some coucils only operate a 9 - 5pm service which in my opinion is about as useful as a chocolate fireguard.

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Pavlov · 06/06/2010 19:33

shame that does not extend to this area.

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tvaerialmagpiebin · 06/06/2010 19:51

oh Pavlov you poor thing. Pour youself an enormous beverage of choice and don;t fret any more.
Do you have a friendly PCSO in your area? I am going to get in touch with mine and see if they can just happen to be passing when berk chops is doing his thing.

DuchessOfAvon · 06/06/2010 19:59

You say that you know the parents. Can you pop in and have a chat with them once they get back?

Something similar happened to us shortly after we moved in. We broke up the party and once the parents found out, we were besieged with apologies.

Agree that kids will have parties but there has to be a reasonable cut-off.

Hope you get a good sleep tonight.

expatinscotland · 06/06/2010 20:08

I completely agree, Riven, and Pavlov, you have my most abject empathies.

I usually ring the police non-emergency number.

Of course, given that the last three tenants of the place downstairs have: OD'd (one), been murdered in house party fights (two, both in other flats at the time), usually their loud music is accompanied by fights that spill out into the communal areas, the police are familiar with the place.

It is fucking selfish to have music up so loud others can hear it in their living room loud and clear.

EVER.

Live and let, my arse.

Our lives have been made a misery by selfish twunts.

Over and over again.

Anyone want a minibus driver who's had one hour of sleep at the wheel of your elderly mum's bus on holiday?

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Pavlov · 06/06/2010 20:10

duchese yes I will when they are back, they are away from what I can tell. Music has started already this evening. Not too loud, i can hear it but it is bearable, lets hope it stays that way.

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expatinscotland · 06/06/2010 20:19

I'd go over there and tell them to turn it OFF in your case, Pav. And yeah, I'd tell the folks when they get home.

mablemurple · 06/06/2010 20:43

RubyBuckleberry, the world doesn't "end" if you turn your music down to acceptable levels at 11pm! What limited horizons you have if you think it does .

Sidge · 06/06/2010 21:42

Oh god I totally sympathise.

In our last house we lived next door to a single dad with 2 teenage sons and a daughter. He was out a lot and as the boys got older the noise just got louder and louder. I could cope with low level noise but when it got to the stage where they put the music on so loud, just as I was putting DD1 to bed, that the pictures on her walls rattled I had to say something.

They would turn it down then within 10 minutes turn it up again. It drove me fucking insane.

Things all came to a head when the boys had the music so loud one night that they couldn't hear me ringing the bell or knocking on the door to ask them to turn it down. So I climbed in through the open lounge window and told them if they didn't turn it down I would throw their stereo in my pond. They laughed at me so I picked up the stereo, pulled the plug out and climbed back out the window with it.

I don't know what came over me, I am the most non-confrontational person ever, but I had been driven to the edge by their noise.

After that they did actually keep it down most of the time, and the dad came round to apologise - probably after he asked his lads where the stereo was!

PussinJimmyChoos · 06/06/2010 21:51

Sidge!!! I am shocked! I am now moving you to the VIP section of my phone list and treating you like Royalty from now on